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Recently I've been having the problem that the girls I actually like I mess up with, and usually (and frustratingly) during the last 5%. However, I have no problem with girls I only want a one-night stand with, but I've been messing up on those three pointers! This is mostly because I'm in a region where I have to put in a lot of work to just FIND girls I like. I'm moving soon. Regardless, it's been a while since I posted a FR so I'm going to outline a lay from last night. Mind you, it's not a very satisfying conclusion, even though it is a LR.
1) Met a vaguely jewish-looking woman (significantly older than me) at yoga class and find out that she's my neighbor.
2) She texts me and asks me to come out for a drink with her.
3) Instead of texting her back I just walk over to her place (I'm wearing a bleach-blonde wig, a black beanie, some thick rimmed safety glasses from the '50s, a wife beater that says COPS on it, and a long cardigan with a fur lined hood, just because I was in a "fuck it" kind of mood that day. I usually don't dress that way, so maybe it's relevant).
4) She opens the door and is surprised to see me, asking if I dyed my hair. She just got out of the shower and is in a big baggy shirt.
5) I deep dive her in her living room. She sits in a chair and I'm on the couch.
6) In a pause I say something like "I feel like we've gotten to know one another pretty well, here... come sit next to me." I said this all in a neutral tone yet she is unsure (probably because I was still unsure if I wanted to have sex with her or not) but when I add "You don't have to if you don't want to, it doesn't bother me. Though it's definitely a good idea." she complied and sat with me and I put my arm around her.
7) I still haven't decided if I want to have sex with her, because, though she's got a good enough body, she has a masculine mind that doesn't appeal to me, and also is a bit too self-deprecating. Interesting to talk to though (she's into self-development for example).
8) I decide that yes, I will have sex with her, because (this is what I tell myself) I want to try and open her up from feeling unproductive, but I realize now in retrospect that I mostly just wanted to see if I could, as she'd be the oldest woman I've ever slept with.
9) I invite her back to my place to watch a movie and she complies.
10) I tell her to take her shoes off, get her a drink, listen to a bit of music and get her comfortable, put on the movie, and then manhandle kiss her.
11) I'm very disappointed when I get no resistance but still manage to keep my spirits up.
12) We have sex, but it's not the most enjoyable. She insisted on a lot of new-agey yoga-esche things like tons of eye contact and she didn't enjoy hard sex at all. Definitely incompatible.
13) She leaves in high spirits, but I'm dissatisfied. I go to sleep.
14) Woke up vaguely disgusted with myself.
15) Around lunch time I realized it was because I spent the previous evening with someone who, even though physically appealing, was really depressed and trying to hide it from the world who was trying to leach value from me.
16) Decide that the process was fun and that I am grateful I've gotten to the level of awareness to diagnose why I don't want to continue spending time with someone.
Conclusion: Interesting experience. Hopefully not discouraging for you, as it wasn't for me. I learned a good bit about the psyche of a certain type of woman, for one thing.
-Oskar
1) Met a vaguely jewish-looking woman (significantly older than me) at yoga class and find out that she's my neighbor.
2) She texts me and asks me to come out for a drink with her.
3) Instead of texting her back I just walk over to her place (I'm wearing a bleach-blonde wig, a black beanie, some thick rimmed safety glasses from the '50s, a wife beater that says COPS on it, and a long cardigan with a fur lined hood, just because I was in a "fuck it" kind of mood that day. I usually don't dress that way, so maybe it's relevant).
4) She opens the door and is surprised to see me, asking if I dyed my hair. She just got out of the shower and is in a big baggy shirt.
5) I deep dive her in her living room. She sits in a chair and I'm on the couch.
6) In a pause I say something like "I feel like we've gotten to know one another pretty well, here... come sit next to me." I said this all in a neutral tone yet she is unsure (probably because I was still unsure if I wanted to have sex with her or not) but when I add "You don't have to if you don't want to, it doesn't bother me. Though it's definitely a good idea." she complied and sat with me and I put my arm around her.
7) I still haven't decided if I want to have sex with her, because, though she's got a good enough body, she has a masculine mind that doesn't appeal to me, and also is a bit too self-deprecating. Interesting to talk to though (she's into self-development for example).
8) I decide that yes, I will have sex with her, because (this is what I tell myself) I want to try and open her up from feeling unproductive, but I realize now in retrospect that I mostly just wanted to see if I could, as she'd be the oldest woman I've ever slept with.
9) I invite her back to my place to watch a movie and she complies.
10) I tell her to take her shoes off, get her a drink, listen to a bit of music and get her comfortable, put on the movie, and then manhandle kiss her.
11) I'm very disappointed when I get no resistance but still manage to keep my spirits up.
12) We have sex, but it's not the most enjoyable. She insisted on a lot of new-agey yoga-esche things like tons of eye contact and she didn't enjoy hard sex at all. Definitely incompatible.
13) She leaves in high spirits, but I'm dissatisfied. I go to sleep.
14) Woke up vaguely disgusted with myself.
15) Around lunch time I realized it was because I spent the previous evening with someone who, even though physically appealing, was really depressed and trying to hide it from the world who was trying to leach value from me.
16) Decide that the process was fun and that I am grateful I've gotten to the level of awareness to diagnose why I don't want to continue spending time with someone.
Conclusion: Interesting experience. Hopefully not discouraging for you, as it wasn't for me. I learned a good bit about the psyche of a certain type of woman, for one thing.
-Oskar
