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I often go for the women who are a bit tomboy-ish, have mostly male friends, and act like 'one of the guys.' I was relaxing at my friend's place with 4 other guys, just drinking beer and shooting the shit. Then a (male) friend of my host arrives with his female 'friend.' Let's call her Cas. I suspected she was seeing the guy she came with, so I played it cool and didn't show her too much attention (in fact, I didn't get her number). She left with her friend later. My buddies thought she was strange, and I did too, but I liked it. They didn't know whether she was seeing the guy.
A week later, she contacted me through an online dating site that I use. I pushed her for a date, and she agreed. We met at a bar near my apartment, and talked for ~2hrs. She's very engaging, asks good questions, but also loves to talk. She changes topics very quickly and brings up extremely random things. She also makes very unusual facial expressions, which I find really interesting. I was being very sexy, and doing a bit of casual kino, but I had difficulty changing my own frame to start flirting & increasing sexual tension. I also couldn't tell if she was always as intense as she was behaving now, or whether I was turning her on. She had to get up early for work, so we left the bar early. At the door, I was afraid I'd get resistance to kissing her on the lips, so I went for a kiss/nuzzle on her neck. She pulled me up and planted a long kiss on my lips, to my surprise. She asked me when she'd see me again, so we set another date.
This time, she was a bit late, but I new the bartender so we had been chatting and I felt relaxed (I often get stressed out if I have to wait on a date to arrive). The interaction was about the same, intense but without sexual allusions or framing. I did more kino, and one time I leaned in and lowered my head so I was looking at her from under my eyebrows. I fumbled the ball a bit by deferring to her on whether to get the next drink there or at another bar; we bounced in the end. After a drink at the next bar, I tried to pull: "There's this cool little place I know that has a special on <named what I had in my fridge>, and the DJ is killer." She didn't get it, and asked where it was. I said, "guess!" She didn't know, and I said "my place!" with a wink. It kinda fell flat, but she agreed anyway.
At my apartment, my housemate and her (female) friend were talking on the couch. I introduced them quickly, but then Cas noticed that my housemate's friend had graduated from the same school as Cas. So they struck up a conversation, and I was left awkwardly standing while the three girls sat on the couch. I sat down and waited for a break, trying to think of a 'plausible-deniability' topic that I could use to get her to my room. Finally, my chance came, and I said, "Hey, let me show you this youtube video I told you about earlier!" And by god, it worked! She sat on my bed b/c I hogged the only chair in my room to look up the video. Well, I didn't actually HAVE a video in mind, but it didn't matter b/c she side-tracked me by randomly bringing up a new topic, and I wheeled my chair around and got up close to her face, while talking about whatever, and then we started kissing, and I pushed her over on my bed.
We made out, but then she would randomly stop and start talking about something. I kept caressing her, and kissing, and then she'd break it off. She occasionally made some really smouldering looks at me, and sometimes she'd start moaning when I touched her. At some point, she asked if I wanted to see her topless, and I said yes, so she took her shirt off. We kept going like this until she was in her panties, and she'd taken off all my clothes, but she kept me from fingering her. She would say, while very turned on, 'Longshanks, I want to fuck you. But I can't on the 2nd date." She asked if she could give me oral, and she did. She had initially said she'd go home to sleep, but by 2am she decided she could stay, so we slept touching each other (I didn't sleep well). She woke up early, and we started making out, and she got hot, and finally she said, "you wanna do it?" So we did, twice! I was exhausted though, from not sleeping much. She later told me that her first impression of me was that I was cute, but she didn't think she'd like me.
Morals of the story:
1)if you are sexy and she's not too uptight, she will overlook a lot of clumsiness
2)persistence pays off
A week later, she contacted me through an online dating site that I use. I pushed her for a date, and she agreed. We met at a bar near my apartment, and talked for ~2hrs. She's very engaging, asks good questions, but also loves to talk. She changes topics very quickly and brings up extremely random things. She also makes very unusual facial expressions, which I find really interesting. I was being very sexy, and doing a bit of casual kino, but I had difficulty changing my own frame to start flirting & increasing sexual tension. I also couldn't tell if she was always as intense as she was behaving now, or whether I was turning her on. She had to get up early for work, so we left the bar early. At the door, I was afraid I'd get resistance to kissing her on the lips, so I went for a kiss/nuzzle on her neck. She pulled me up and planted a long kiss on my lips, to my surprise. She asked me when she'd see me again, so we set another date.
This time, she was a bit late, but I new the bartender so we had been chatting and I felt relaxed (I often get stressed out if I have to wait on a date to arrive). The interaction was about the same, intense but without sexual allusions or framing. I did more kino, and one time I leaned in and lowered my head so I was looking at her from under my eyebrows. I fumbled the ball a bit by deferring to her on whether to get the next drink there or at another bar; we bounced in the end. After a drink at the next bar, I tried to pull: "There's this cool little place I know that has a special on <named what I had in my fridge>, and the DJ is killer." She didn't get it, and asked where it was. I said, "guess!" She didn't know, and I said "my place!" with a wink. It kinda fell flat, but she agreed anyway.
At my apartment, my housemate and her (female) friend were talking on the couch. I introduced them quickly, but then Cas noticed that my housemate's friend had graduated from the same school as Cas. So they struck up a conversation, and I was left awkwardly standing while the three girls sat on the couch. I sat down and waited for a break, trying to think of a 'plausible-deniability' topic that I could use to get her to my room. Finally, my chance came, and I said, "Hey, let me show you this youtube video I told you about earlier!" And by god, it worked! She sat on my bed b/c I hogged the only chair in my room to look up the video. Well, I didn't actually HAVE a video in mind, but it didn't matter b/c she side-tracked me by randomly bringing up a new topic, and I wheeled my chair around and got up close to her face, while talking about whatever, and then we started kissing, and I pushed her over on my bed.
We made out, but then she would randomly stop and start talking about something. I kept caressing her, and kissing, and then she'd break it off. She occasionally made some really smouldering looks at me, and sometimes she'd start moaning when I touched her. At some point, she asked if I wanted to see her topless, and I said yes, so she took her shirt off. We kept going like this until she was in her panties, and she'd taken off all my clothes, but she kept me from fingering her. She would say, while very turned on, 'Longshanks, I want to fuck you. But I can't on the 2nd date." She asked if she could give me oral, and she did. She had initially said she'd go home to sleep, but by 2am she decided she could stay, so we slept touching each other (I didn't sleep well). She woke up early, and we started making out, and she got hot, and finally she said, "you wanna do it?" So we did, twice! I was exhausted though, from not sleeping much. She later told me that her first impression of me was that I was cute, but she didn't think she'd like me.
Morals of the story:
1)if you are sexy and she's not too uptight, she will overlook a lot of clumsiness
2)persistence pays off
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