Only lover

[Simon Kent]

I was wondering what to do if you are too much on the lover side?
I mean, what if she wants LTR but has doubts because she cannot imagine anything long with you. Should you show more provider qualities, and if so which ones (leadership, staying on purpose)?

 

[Thedoctor]

Simon,

I was wondering what to do if you are too much on the lover side?
I mean, what if she wants LTR but has doubts because she cannot imagine anything long with you. Should you show more provider qualities, and if so which ones (leadership, staying on purpose)?

Not until after you've slept with her. Then, and only then, you can gradually show her that there is a bit more to you than just a good time.

-John

 

[Whizzy]

However don't just suddenly shift from pure lover to pure provider, that can freak her out at the same time. Make small gradual changes. Heck even with my fiancee I fulfill both roles at the moment, crazy sex and as a provider. Keep in mind however that I'm not saying she does nothing, if anything she tries to contribute more due to this