Out of My League

[aaron88]

I have come a long way from where I used to be my senior year of high school to now almost ending my sophomore year in college. After practicing Chase Amante's book I have developed my own unique way of getting what I want from girls, with the foundation owed to Mr. Amante of course, but I have ran into a wall and I need your advice on it.

I have this gorgeous girl for class who I thought I never had a chance with because I have yet to handle a straight 10 in my past encounters. She approached me to have a conversation and invited me out to a philanthropy event that her organization was having so of course I went and showed up with a bunch of friends. She stuck nearby my group of friends and I, so I talked to her most of the time. I got her number and sent her the picture that we took together, but I have not progressed it any further than that.

My issue is that in my mind it is cemented that this girl is drop dead amazing and I am not nearly on her level. I am asking for a strategy to down play her looks and personality in my mind so that I have the mindset to conquer and gain control of the relationship or maybe even advice to help boost confidence so I can feel like I am on her level.

Side note: My friends were telling me that she seemed to have interest in me, but I just don't know what to do to add fire to that spark. Her friends were also talking me up and trying to get to know me, but it may just have been the atmosphere since it was their philanthropy event and they were showing their gratitude in attending it.

Thanks for your help!

 

[Fuck This]

My issue is that in my mind it is cemented that this girl is drop dead amazing and I am not nearly on her level. I am asking for a strategy to down play her looks and personality in my mind so that I have the mindset to conquer and gain control of the relationship or maybe even advice to help boost confidence so I can feel like I am on her level.

Perfect 10's have a hell of a time getting dates because most men think they are out of their league.

But the fact is "no matter how good she looks, some guy got tired of her shit."

Now that sounds a little harsh, but sometimes you gotta knock a girl off a pedestal in your mind so you can function at 100%.

Now don't be surprised if you notice little cracks in her confidence. She has been told her whole life how attractive she is and probably wonders if people are just saying that. Focus on commonalities with her in interests, background, hopes and dreams. Think CONNECT rather than "Be attractive"

Some more thoughts

For her to be up to MY level she is going to have to not just rely on her looks. I want to connect on an intellectual level. i wonder if there is more to her than her looks.

Think, "Damn she is in to me." to yourself.

 

[Frost]

I think the fact that she is somehow chasing you should be enough lol. And since your friends are seeing that as well I would say take her on a date, get to know her a bit more and you will notice how inside she is just another girl, with her own flaws and insecurities.

Another thing that could help. Pick something you're really good at, maybe you're quite smarter than average, or you're skilled/talented in something. And if you start to feel insecure or "below her level" remind yourself that you're certainly better on this level (like when you're playing a game and have a secret weapon ready to deploy, so inside you'd be grinning and feeling somewhat superior since you have a backup) but make sure you don't fall in the "I'm better than you" area, just use it to reassure yourself that she is not necessarily better than you.

And go get her XD