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On Friday night, a buddy and I went out to a really huge and fun bar in my city just to meet girls. Dressed to impress, looked great, felt confident, I was ready to rock. Had only 2 drinks, and was approaching like a madman. It was a good night overall.
He approaches 2 girls (one hot, one meh) early in the night and I did the awkward come-up-after-him-and-later-introduce-myself thing. We talk to them for a short time and then some dude they were with comes up and gives a ping pong paddle to the hot one. This bar has a ton of games to play so there were ping pong tables and pool tables scattered around. So the hot one's (Jenna) about to play ping pong, so I tell my friend let's go. Jenna asks me, "can you hold my drink while I play?"
Oh boy. Nice guy trap.
So I tell her "I don't think I can do that." and give her a slight smile. She laughs and puts her drink down somewhere and my buddy and I walk off to do some more approaches.
The night goes on and a couple hours pass and I ended up back in the spot where I saw Jenna again. Sure enough, she's still there. She smiles at me as I walk up. She's by herself, so I say "your friends ditch you or something?"
She laughs and tells me they're closeby. Then we talk for a bit I find out she's from out of town and they're in the city having a good time for some sort of special occasion. But turns out where she lives is only 45 minutes or so away. She got a hotel room with 2 of her friends, so I'm thinking it may be a good opportunity to... you know, give her a place to stay.
I tell her I can't find my friend. She says, "what friend?"
I say, "you know, the guy you and your friend were talking to."
She responds: "Oh yeah I forgot about him. I just remember some guy talking to us and then his hot friend (me) coming up afterward."
Yes.
So I take this opportunity to move Jenna to a couch nearby and she gladly complied. We chat for a bit, and in the mean time I was trying to figure out logistics for possibly taking her home. After a while I start thinking it may be difficult to pry her away from her friends, so I go for the number and ask how often she makes it up to my city. She gets wishy-washy and doesn't give me a direct answer.
I ask, "do you know many people up here?" (I kinda knew the answer was no, being that she and her friends got a hotel instead of staying with someone)
She says, "no, but I know you now."
Another good sign.
I then say "well, next time you come up we should grab a drink together."
She then grabbed my phone, punched her number in, and texted herself. We're talking for a bit, getting more comfortable with each other's touch, and then I go in for the kiss. She actually rejected my attempt. She said she'd never once kissed a guy in a bar, or even in public, because she "hates PDA so much."
It felt awkward for a second but I brushed it off pretty easily and didn't try again. After some more talking, she says she has to go to the bathroom and is going to catch up with her friends, so I bid her goodbye and part ways.
At first I didn't feel great about it all, being that she rejected my kiss. But just as I was about to text her "nice to meet you" later that night, I get a text from her just saying "hey (my name)!"
Good sign.
We text back and forth a little bit. Nothing much except for playful banter and flirting. Good rapport-building. Then I go to bed.
We text a bit the next day too, but not much. I won't bore you with the details, but she texted me a couple times and I just chose to not respond. They weren't really worth responding to anyway, and I've been trying to get into the habit of not always responding to girls' texts if it's something unimportant. Basically a way to practice the Law of Least Effort.
Then I get a text from here AGAIN on Sunday, just asking how my Saturday night was. I text back and give her a brief answer, and she responds with something else.
And that's all for now.
She seems interested, and good rapport has been built. Thus, my next step is to GET HER OUT!
I'm thinking if I can get her to drive up to meet with me, then it's likely she'll stay over at my place as well. I suppose the hardest part is getting her to make the drive just to come see me.
Looking for some advice here- not sure when to text her to set up the meet (the meet will probably have to be on a weekend), or how to frame the situation. So far things are looking good, but again, just unsure of how to go about taking the next steps.
He approaches 2 girls (one hot, one meh) early in the night and I did the awkward come-up-after-him-and-later-introduce-myself thing. We talk to them for a short time and then some dude they were with comes up and gives a ping pong paddle to the hot one. This bar has a ton of games to play so there were ping pong tables and pool tables scattered around. So the hot one's (Jenna) about to play ping pong, so I tell my friend let's go. Jenna asks me, "can you hold my drink while I play?"
Oh boy. Nice guy trap.
So I tell her "I don't think I can do that." and give her a slight smile. She laughs and puts her drink down somewhere and my buddy and I walk off to do some more approaches.
The night goes on and a couple hours pass and I ended up back in the spot where I saw Jenna again. Sure enough, she's still there. She smiles at me as I walk up. She's by herself, so I say "your friends ditch you or something?"
She laughs and tells me they're closeby. Then we talk for a bit I find out she's from out of town and they're in the city having a good time for some sort of special occasion. But turns out where she lives is only 45 minutes or so away. She got a hotel room with 2 of her friends, so I'm thinking it may be a good opportunity to... you know, give her a place to stay.
I tell her I can't find my friend. She says, "what friend?"
I say, "you know, the guy you and your friend were talking to."
She responds: "Oh yeah I forgot about him. I just remember some guy talking to us and then his hot friend (me) coming up afterward."
Yes.
So I take this opportunity to move Jenna to a couch nearby and she gladly complied. We chat for a bit, and in the mean time I was trying to figure out logistics for possibly taking her home. After a while I start thinking it may be difficult to pry her away from her friends, so I go for the number and ask how often she makes it up to my city. She gets wishy-washy and doesn't give me a direct answer.
I ask, "do you know many people up here?" (I kinda knew the answer was no, being that she and her friends got a hotel instead of staying with someone)
She says, "no, but I know you now."
Another good sign.
I then say "well, next time you come up we should grab a drink together."
She then grabbed my phone, punched her number in, and texted herself. We're talking for a bit, getting more comfortable with each other's touch, and then I go in for the kiss. She actually rejected my attempt. She said she'd never once kissed a guy in a bar, or even in public, because she "hates PDA so much."
It felt awkward for a second but I brushed it off pretty easily and didn't try again. After some more talking, she says she has to go to the bathroom and is going to catch up with her friends, so I bid her goodbye and part ways.
At first I didn't feel great about it all, being that she rejected my kiss. But just as I was about to text her "nice to meet you" later that night, I get a text from her just saying "hey (my name)!"
Good sign.
We text back and forth a little bit. Nothing much except for playful banter and flirting. Good rapport-building. Then I go to bed.
We text a bit the next day too, but not much. I won't bore you with the details, but she texted me a couple times and I just chose to not respond. They weren't really worth responding to anyway, and I've been trying to get into the habit of not always responding to girls' texts if it's something unimportant. Basically a way to practice the Law of Least Effort.
Then I get a text from here AGAIN on Sunday, just asking how my Saturday night was. I text back and give her a brief answer, and she responds with something else.
And that's all for now.
She seems interested, and good rapport has been built. Thus, my next step is to GET HER OUT!
I'm thinking if I can get her to drive up to meet with me, then it's likely she'll stay over at my place as well. I suppose the hardest part is getting her to make the drive just to come see me.
Looking for some advice here- not sure when to text her to set up the meet (the meet will probably have to be on a weekend), or how to frame the situation. So far things are looking good, but again, just unsure of how to go about taking the next steps.
