Party date avoidance—HELP please!! :-)

[Marty]

Hi friends, I have had a girl propose a get-together with her girlfriends as an ostensible solution to a scheduling constraint, the thread is over here with a boring name as it is a follow-on from previous but I seem to remember reading somewhere that this needs to be sidestepped, batted back or even accepted under certain conditions. Any suggestions gratefully appreciated. Thank you.

 

[Bboy100]

Yeah. Party dates are usually not a good idea unless you really know how to work them (I personally am not very good at it, but I know a few guys who are). Just let her know you appreciate the invite, but you'd really prefer to get to know her one on one in a calmer environment. If she says no to that, her interest in you is probably pretty mild & she might be a time sink anyways.

 

[Sandman]

I learned again and again that party dates aren't a good idea. Too many variables you have to juggle. Bad logictics, cockblocks, antislut defense... they all amplify

All of my party dates ended up just being make-outs ugh

Then again I suggest you do it once or twice if (i) it's a party you wanna go, (ii) you think she won't say yes to a regular simple date, (iii) you wanna test it yourself why it's a bad idea.

 

[Marty]

Thanks both.

All of my party dates ended up just being make-outs ugh

Something wrong with makeouts? Better than staying at home no?

I think I realize I like makeouts more than most men, apparently.

Just let her know you appreciate the invite, but you'd really prefer to get to know her one on one in a calmer environment.

Solid advice. Wondering though how I could do that without seeming like I am pricking the balloon for everyone. Maybe best to lay low until the threat is past.

Okay well then since it seems to be a bad idea, let me see if she actually brings me along on the day of the movie. Hopefully not as i think they wanted to see some degenerate trash with Scarlett Johansson. Assuming not then I will politely ask if we can have a private date.

It occurred to me she might be plotting to set me up with someone. I'm not averse to that. Another good thing about Russians is that conformity is tightly enforced in their society, so you can't go too far wrong with female groups. They tend to be normal and not lesbians or feminists or other assorted manifestations of the Kali Yuga.

I'll report back on how it goes, either movie with the girls, or preferably a proper cup of tea as a man and woman who like each other!

 

[Sandman]

Better than staying home for sure haha. Nothing is wrong with make outs, but they release some sexual tension and make it harder (though definetely not impossible) to get sex. And sex is far far better.

Best of luck to you!

 

[Marty]

And sex is far far better.

Agree that sex is far better once you've established a relationship, but first-time sex (with any given girl) is not better, as you are still getting to know each other's bodies.

First-time makeout, by contrast, is electric ;-)