People trying to Win Me OVer

[trashKENNUT]

As i build my fundamentals really well, i can't help but noticing friends and family members try to win me over. Strangers, Uncles and Aunties whom i have not have much connection try to provide value in my life and make me feel good, people trying to tell me their life stories when i barely even know them, and they barely even know me. Guys trying to want me to join their business so that we can grow a company together. Girls look at me intensely, even when their boyfriends is around.

I am flattered. TO be honest, i have nothing, i mean really. I don't own some Ferrari's or have stacks of cash at the back of my house, and i don't earn and spend and live my life so great that i have to spend $200 to $300 on every shirt. I just make the best of things i can, and i am always optimistic about what i can have, (I would love to live life fun with money.) It also funny that the guys with things going on in their life who have no reason to feel inferior for whatsoever reason, and yet they feel i am superior to them one way or another.

My question, how do i be warmth, and also ask people to support my life in whatever ways they can? and how does that affect them? Maybe i mix around with those i can give what they want, and i do that, and i do less of mixing around with people i can't give what they want, although it's nice and awesome to get invited on parties and always get preferential treatment. I have people talk for me during conversations in groups, that it is just unbelievable, I don't know if that's awesome but people often speak for me when i barely say or do anything for them.

I am astonished, maybe feel nervous, and not accustomed, i don't know.

Zac

 

[Light]

My question, how do i be warmth, and also ask people to support my life in whatever ways they can? and how does that affect them?

I only have two advise:

1) To actually care about others (You will naturally become a warm person)
2) Always Welcome a Stranger (Being welcoming is not the same as just being friendly. You welcome people to join you in everything, that is warmth.)

How you treat others is how others will treat you over time. People will feel good helping those deserving of help.
Thats all there is to it.

Forget the "How". Just "BE".

 

[trashKENNUT]

Forget the "How". Just "BE".

This may be it. It's also likely applies to another subject like appearing effortless, when you are courting women and where you trying to "appear" effortless before you actually are, it applies as well.

Zac

 

[Chase]

Zac-

Fun stuff. That happens - by working on your fundamentals, you're hacking the human status communication device. You become a man who exudes power, control, and status with his every movement and gesture.

The thing is, you CAN provide value, especially with things like deep diving and the natural social awareness that you develop while learning. Everybody wants to have someone take an interest in him and connect with him, and most people have a hard time meeting high quality friends. Think of it like a beautifully done-up girl... she may not be as naturally pretty as some other girls, but because she takes care of her appearance so well - amazing hair, perfectly applied makeup, captivating clothes, eye-catching fundamentals - she has inherent value. She isn't rich, famous, or a success in ANY way, except that she's mastered her fundamentals, but people will be drawn to her.

In a way, she has something that the women more naturally beautiful than her, the women more driven and intelligent than her, and the women with more sparkling personalities than her, who don't know how to present themselves as well, do not have.

Her struggle though ends up being building out the substance behind the style. Some women can do this; many women can't.

If, though, once you have the style mastered you turn your attention to the substance, you can develop yourself into someone who doesn't just look the part, but IS the part as well.

My question, how do i be warmth, and also ask people to support my life in whatever ways they can? and how does that affect them?

Warmth is showing an interest in people, and in the way you look at them, generally. Look at them with warm, soft, interested eyes, and ask them about themselves and their backgrounds and remember what they told you and bring it up again later. That's warmth.

Asking people for support: you can often get support automatically by simply providing value to people. Many things that you may need help with you can tie to some other kind of value offering. e.g., you need help reviewing a contract but you have no experience with contracts. So you contact a buddy of yours who's very good with contracts and you say, "Phil, hey - I have this contract I need a little help understanding, and I know you're the man to talk to about contracts. Can I buy you lunch and we have a chat and take a look at this contract after?" The guy will want to help you anyway if he likes you, and the fact that you're offering to buy him lunch shows him that you respect his time, which is very important for busy people.

Chase

 

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