Calls & Texts Phone Conversation

[PinotNoir]

Hey guys,

Is there a general article on phone conversations? I've read this one, but it's more about setting up the date, i.e., the first call. Still a great read though.

What do you guys do if already dating a girl and she wants to talk on the phone for extended periods of time? You already have the date lined up. Do you deep-dive and flirt or do you avoid this at all costs?

Recently, I had a girl send me a page of texts, so I was like fuck this and just called her lol.

Also, I just can't seem to sexually frame it at all. I flirted (e.g., "Yeah, I'm just doing laundry. It's one massive *load*. Sometimes it just gets too dirty against my body..."). However, when I thought about trying to sexually frame her (e.g., "You're just saying that because you want to see me naked."), I just didn't feel like it because no logistics. This is like 2 AM. There's no point in phone sex when you live in the same state/country. Hmmm, I suppose I could have asked to meet her up that night, but she was busy studying, so I thought I'd get turned down.

What do you guys do?

 

[PinotNoir]

Just realized, I meant to put this in Phone Calls and Texting. Can someone move this please? Thanks.

 

[Franco]

Gotcha covered, PN!

This topic has been moved from "General" to "Phone Calls and Texting."

- Franco

 

[Chase]

Pinot-

You're right, I don't have anything up on this on the main site. Phone game used to be a specialty of mine, but I dropped it after I moved to text exclusively. I'll put it in the queue to get a post up on at some point.

A few tips off the top of my head:

• Don't have an agenda... just talk to talk.
• Deep-diving / chase-framing are fine.
• Don't try to "switch" and ask her out later into the call unless SHE starts escalating the energy and clearly wants something to happen. Otherwise, you look weak for not asking her earlier or using an easier medium if your goal was a date.
• Don't do this too much. If you have a lot of long phone calls before you sleep with her, you're headed to the friend zone on an express train

On sexual framing, try talking about showers - "I just got out of the shower" "I'm going to go take a shower" "I'm naked right now... does that excite you?" They make for an easy transition into talking sex.

Chase

 

[PinotNoir]

Pinot-

You're right, I don't have anything up on this on the main site. Phone game used to be a specialty of mine, but I dropped it after I moved to text exclusively. I'll put it in the queue to get a post up on at some point.

A few tips off the top of my head:

• Don't have an agenda... just talk to talk.
• Deep-diving / chase-framing are fine.
• Don't try to "switch" and ask her out later into the call unless SHE starts escalating the energy and clearly wants something to happen. Otherwise, you look weak for not asking her earlier or using an easier medium if your goal was a date.
• Don't do this too much. If you have a lot of long phone calls before you sleep with her, you're headed to the friend zone on an express train

On sexual framing, try talking about showers - "I just got out of the shower" "I'm going to go take a shower" "I'm naked right now... does that excite you?" They make for an easy transition into talking sex.

Chase

Thanks man. I hadn't thought of the 3rd point before; that's pretty crucial.

Girls have actually used the "shower technique" on me before. I had just never thought of re-using it myself. Makes me wonder about other things girls have used on me that I should try to re-use/mirror...