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Hi guys,
So I'm posting this here. It's not 100% about pickup but since this site has helped me develop so much as a man I am trying to sort out my thoughts on women, realtionships and life.
Here is a list of where I am and what I have improved in the past 6 months - 1 year:
- My career is VERY important to me. I work long hours. I want to be very successful.
- I have become a lot more social. Overcome some anxieties and changed my mindsets about it but not yet where I want it to be.
- I have met and dated a lot of women (I'd meet 1 girl every 2 years in my college days.)
- I feel I'm leaning more towards an abundance mentality and really know the type of girl I want these days.
- I am fitter and leaner than I have ever been.
Where I want to be:
- I have not yet achieved all I want in my career, but I am only 28. I am considering looking at new oppertunities to move up the ladder.
- I still have some social anxieties, I want to be a VERY social person.
- Although I've met a lot of women, I still don't feel I am able to "keep" girls I rate as 10's.
- Absolute abundance, a breakup or loosing a girl means nothing, always a new girl around the corner (very close to this but it's more about quality than quantity, see last point.)
- Although I look better than I ever have, I want to be super fit and have a body I am proud of.
These are just some things. I feel like I have plateau'd slightly. I have made big strides but not where I want to be yet. The "glass ceiling" some might say.
For example... I posted an LR a few weeks ago. While I am proud of doing something I couldn't have dreamed of a few years back, I was a little upset at not being able to keep this girl around longer. She was essentially the type of girl I want. And I find these girls the hardest to get. Since then I hav continued to meet women and have been getting on like a house on fire with a cute 25 year old. Yet, while I think I can get girls who are maybe "8"'s now, no problem, my standards have risen. I'd like a girlfriend but will not settle for less than a 10. (I hate using number ratings but I mean a 10 in terms of the things I am looking for).
I am just finding these girls so difficult to get and keep around.
Like, I have learned so much but despite all I have done to improve myself, I am really stretching to get these girls, at the end of the day, still feel out of their league looks-wise.
In terms of everything else... I just feel disorganized. Between, working long hours, making time to go out and meet women, fit in an exercise program rigerous enough to achieve what I want, and then have some time left over to chill... do hobbies... and literally just cook and do laundry... I am finding it hard to fit it all in.
I'm not sure if I'm looking for advice or just trying to organize my thoughts in writing, but that's where I'm at.
I have made huge strides but feel I'm plateauing... for example but girl I'm hooking up with right now is an incredible girl and probably what I'd have desired 2 years ago... but there's a certain "it factor" I really really want nowadays. I don't want to settle for "good enough", I want that elusive 10, but realistically anyone in my life would probably say I'd be crazy to give up on a girl like this. (And yes, I'm still getting out there, just using her as an example.)
Anyway, that's my brain dump.
Thanks for reading
E.
So I'm posting this here. It's not 100% about pickup but since this site has helped me develop so much as a man I am trying to sort out my thoughts on women, realtionships and life.
Here is a list of where I am and what I have improved in the past 6 months - 1 year:
- My career is VERY important to me. I work long hours. I want to be very successful.
- I have become a lot more social. Overcome some anxieties and changed my mindsets about it but not yet where I want it to be.
- I have met and dated a lot of women (I'd meet 1 girl every 2 years in my college days.)
- I feel I'm leaning more towards an abundance mentality and really know the type of girl I want these days.
- I am fitter and leaner than I have ever been.
Where I want to be:
- I have not yet achieved all I want in my career, but I am only 28. I am considering looking at new oppertunities to move up the ladder.
- I still have some social anxieties, I want to be a VERY social person.
- Although I've met a lot of women, I still don't feel I am able to "keep" girls I rate as 10's.
- Absolute abundance, a breakup or loosing a girl means nothing, always a new girl around the corner (very close to this but it's more about quality than quantity, see last point.)
- Although I look better than I ever have, I want to be super fit and have a body I am proud of.
These are just some things. I feel like I have plateau'd slightly. I have made big strides but not where I want to be yet. The "glass ceiling" some might say.
For example... I posted an LR a few weeks ago. While I am proud of doing something I couldn't have dreamed of a few years back, I was a little upset at not being able to keep this girl around longer. She was essentially the type of girl I want. And I find these girls the hardest to get. Since then I hav continued to meet women and have been getting on like a house on fire with a cute 25 year old. Yet, while I think I can get girls who are maybe "8"'s now, no problem, my standards have risen. I'd like a girlfriend but will not settle for less than a 10. (I hate using number ratings but I mean a 10 in terms of the things I am looking for).
I am just finding these girls so difficult to get and keep around.
Like, I have learned so much but despite all I have done to improve myself, I am really stretching to get these girls, at the end of the day, still feel out of their league looks-wise.
In terms of everything else... I just feel disorganized. Between, working long hours, making time to go out and meet women, fit in an exercise program rigerous enough to achieve what I want, and then have some time left over to chill... do hobbies... and literally just cook and do laundry... I am finding it hard to fit it all in.
I'm not sure if I'm looking for advice or just trying to organize my thoughts in writing, but that's where I'm at.
I have made huge strides but feel I'm plateauing... for example but girl I'm hooking up with right now is an incredible girl and probably what I'd have desired 2 years ago... but there's a certain "it factor" I really really want nowadays. I don't want to settle for "good enough", I want that elusive 10, but realistically anyone in my life would probably say I'd be crazy to give up on a girl like this. (And yes, I'm still getting out there, just using her as an example.)
Anyway, that's my brain dump.
Thanks for reading
E.
