POIS - Tired/sick for a day after sex (dry eyes)

[leadingbealwaysido]

I have been having this problem for some years now, that sometimes when i have sex with a girl, they day after, maybe about 12 hours after sex, i start to struggle holding my eyes open... I am not tired actually, it is just my eyes that seem to be dry, even using water drops do not really work.

Sometimes i can have sex and this is not a problem at all even though i come several times. But more often than not it is a problem, and it leads me to be very unproductive the day after sex. it usually lasts the whole day before it gets better the next day.

To the best of my ability, i think i might be lacking some nutrients?
There is an syndrome called POIS, post orgasmic illness syndrome... Which are rare, but it is basically that you get allergy symptoms after sex...

I have tried to switch to latex free condoms, and have sex without but it does not seem to make any changes...

If i masturbate, I do not experience these symptoms at all.

Thankful if you have any experience of the same!

 

[Chase]

Do you exercise?

What's it like for you after, say, an intense 45-minute workout?

If it's not happening when you jerk off, but is after sex, it's probably either that sex is more exertion/leads to a lot of sweating, or that something to do with either the hormones released during sex (testosterone, oxytocin, vasopressin, etc.) or a psychological effect.

Not knowing anything else about it, one shot-in-the-dark option I'd just throw in there is "drink a tall glass of water before you have sex, and eat an apple on a day you have sex." A lot of things that seem unrelated end up being caused by dehydration, lack of fiber, or low blood sugar. Water + apples combats these astonishingly well.

 

[leadingbealwaysido]

@Chase I am in good shape I would say... I can even go to sauna and sweat out a lot without having similar effect... It is just when i have sex that it happens.

Yeah it seems to me that in sex, it is more intense than masturbation, maybe more sperm comes as well that makes me loose some nutrients that i do not have optimized.

When i think about... i guess it started when i went vegan... and that was when it was worst as well. Now I am not vegan or vegetarian, and it is a bit better.

 

[Chase]

I wonder if it's partly diet then.

I've had girlfriends joke that all the chicken I eat gives me super sperm. It might be true, given all the hormones they pump into chicken to make those feathered bastards grow. That and peanut butter. Lots of that in my diet as well.

I also eat a lot of chocolate... not saying I recommend that, but dark chocolate at least is known to boost libido (as well as intellectual performance!). When I've tried cutting sweets out of my diet entirely, I noticed a drop in libido and less enthusiasm in my sex.

Not trying to get you hooked on chocolate or anything, but a couple potential things to try there...

Chase

 

[ulrich]

Could it be lack of sleep?
Do you notice your sleep pattern change when you have sex?

Usually if I have sex, I am busted the rest of the day and half of the following day, like if I had a heavy workout.
Never experienced any issue with my eyes, though.

 

[Train]

Is it just your eyes you feel dry or other parts of your body (skin, hair, lips, etc)?

Do you wear contacts? I've noticed certain positions make my eyes drier when using contacts (i.e. laying on side or on back).

 

[Chase]

Usually if I have sex, I am busted the rest of the day and half of the following day, like if I had a heavy workout.

Interesting. Is this a normal thing for guys?

I suppose there is that ubiquitous meme of guys passing out right after sex. That never happens to me though... post-sex I am like, "All right, time to get back to it!" Probably does happen to lots of guys given how ubiquitous it is.

I'll sometimes be a little unfocused for a few hours. Might skip my work-out if I had one planned then had sex right before. Goes away pretty quick though.

Maybe I'm the outlier here?

It's not like I'm not putting the work in either... a short sex session for me is 45 minutes. 90 minutes is not uncommon. 2-2.5 hours more rare but not super rare. I'm a workhorse, too...

Doesn't change any on sleep either... actually I get hornier when sleep-deprived (more focused, too, oddly, unless I'm REALLY beat).

Could just be different physiologies?

Definitely does seem like women get more out of it though. Girls get a major mood elevation out of good sex. She has a bunch of orgasms and now her energy is through the roof, she's all smiles, etc. No such mood boost for the man!

Chase

 

[Zoro]

It's not the sex. It's the ejaculation.

Believe it or not, you can have sex and orgasm, without ejaculation.

Ejaculation has it's own, low level, mini orgasm, and most men only experience that.

It pales in comparison to a full body orgasm, that is very possible for men to learn and separate that from ejaculation, meaning after sex you feel VERY energized and alive.

It's an ancient practice that is more about enlightenment, health and productivity, than pleasure. Although it is VERY pleasurable as well.

Look into Sexual Kung Fu, or read the book "Multi-Orgasmic Man" by Mantak Chia.

Or check out this site for info: https://www.johnathanwhitelifestyle.com/blog

There is also a thread here on the forum: https://www.skilledseducer.com/threads/how-to-draw-orgasms-up-your-spine.26872/

 

[Derek da man]

I don't disagree with any of the suggestions given, just as an alternative thought, was this with 1 girl in particular or with several different girls?

If it was a single girl could it be that when you were laying down missionary style with her your face could be burried in her hair and you end up inhaling some of the treatments she has on her hair like hair spray?

 

[ulrich]

Interesting. Is this a normal thing for guys?

I suppose there is that ubiquitous meme of guys passing out right after sex. That never happens to me though... post-sex I am like, "All right, time to get back to it!" Probably does happen to lots of guys given how ubiquitous it is.

Maybe it's the partner… my gf and most of the girls I have fucked in my life have been passive with me doing 80% of the job in the bedroom.

And I am a long sprinter, typical session is no less than 90 minutes for me with plenty of positions, attention to my girl, full body caressing and sometimes double rounds.

I have never had a gf living with me so I’m not used to morning sex. Most of the sex I have had has happened at night.

But I can recall that the few times I had those rare women who are more experienced and know exactly what they like and what they are doing… I remember feeling not as tired after fucking them.

 

[leadingbealwaysido]

I don't disagree with any of the suggestions given, just as an alternative thought, was this with 1 girl in particular or with several different girls?

If it was a single girl could it be that when you were laying down missionary style with her your face could be burried in her hair and you end up inhaling some of the treatments she has on her hair like hair spray?

It has been with several girls... over several years now

 

[leadingbealwaysido]

I mean, it clearly does not feel like a workout... I do believe it is more associated with diet/hormone release. They way i know is that my body does not feel tired at all. it is just my eyes. Just like I am having an allergic reaction actually...


@Chase

Yeah a lot of guys get tired after sex, me too and that has always been the case.
With this feeling of dry eyes though, it suddenly hits some hours after waking up again and last for a day aprox.

@Wick
Yeah I am familier with it, and have explored it.
I find it hard to do it when I am not in a relationship or dedicated with a girl, you kinda need some practice and not all ONS are open to do that... Thanks for the reminder !

 

[leadingbealwaysido]

Is it just your eyes you feel dry or other parts of your body (skin, hair, lips, etc)?

Do you wear contacts? I've noticed certain positions make my eyes drier when using contacts (i.e. laying on side or on back).

Just eyes. Do not wear contacts. When I close my eyes, everything seems to be good. It's just having them open that is the problem...

 

[ulrich]

A relative of mine has a condition in his eyes where his tear ducts get shut/blocked and his eyes get really dry.

He is close to 80 years old so it has also to do with age but maybe it would be a good idea to go check your eyes with an eye doctor.
It doesn’t hurt to ask.