Poor self image, introverted. I'd love help from you guys.

[Estate]

Hey guys,
So this is a bit personal and I'm hesitant to write it. I know you are all great guys with a lot of experience so I'm just going to try write this and hope some of you can relate.

As a kid I was always very shy, never that cool and always a little chubby I guess. Never had girls attracted to me. Just introverted and shy is the best I can describe.
Over the last few years I've got myself into good shape, dress well, etc... I actually feel when I look in the mirror that there's a a decently presented good looking guy there now. But in the back of my mind my self image is bad. I feel like a really hot girl just won't see it in me.

Before starting all this the previous 2 girlsfriends I had were such great looking girls but I lucked into it and both eventually dumped me. It's always in the back of my mind no matter what I do.

A few times recently, I met some girls I was willing to give things a go with again. I was very hesitant to get into another relationship and get my heart broken. Needless to say these few girls that I liked ended up just screwing with me. Game aside, some of the stuff they ended up doing was nasty and I just felt used and hurt.

It's playing on my mind. It's so long since I had a really great girl really and genuinely into me. Not just hookups or short term things.

I feel horrible lately. The confidence and bounce in my step isn't there. I feel fed up. I've been in situations the past few weeks where I have gotten girls numbers or whatever and just not even bothered following up. I don't care. I don't want them. I know all this stuff works, I've done it but my heads not there. I feel shy and cut off again. It's not even approach anxiety, if I'm just not in the right headspace, it's just not going to happen. I'll be out and I just can't imagine walking up to someone coldly and her talking to me. I just can't. I feel cut off or something. My old introvert self is back or something.

I need to deal with it but I don't know how. I can read all the articles on here that I like, I know it works, I know it's all good stuff but I can't bring myself to walk up to strangers and be so forward. This is how I was as a kid.
I'm so frustrated. I could literally cry right now. I don't know why I feel like this. Is there anything I can do? Anywhere I can go? Anyone I can speak to that can help me change this. I don't really know what I'm doing with myself right now.

Thanks for reading guys.

 

[PinotNoir]

Re: Poor self image, introverted. I'd love help from you guy

You've probably already read these, but here you go:

https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-victim-mentality-can-stifle-your-life-–-and-luck-women
https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-overcome-depression
https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-take-your-self-esteem-stratosphere
https://www.girlschase.com/content/i-don’t-chase-em-i-replace-em

My favorite is the "victim mentality" one. I'm not saying that you are playing the victim here, but reading the article really sets your mind back on "I can change this." All of these articles are like that.

I've had that happen with a girl, and in fact, it happened kind of recently. I was really depressed for a weekend and didn't want to go out and didn't want to date girls. All of your insides feel removed, and you wonder if you'll ever find a girl as good as that one again. Well, the answer is yes, and you can do better.

As for girls, spend time properly screening them. Try some online dating websites and focus on day game exclusively for genuine ladies.

As for inner turmoil, take a few days to reflect and be alone. Focus on some goals and dreams of yours -- things that you can do in your life without woman that will make you fulfilled.

Thanks for sharing man, and best of luck to you. There are other people here just like this or were like this, and there's no magic pill. It just takes time and practice to change. In the end, it's your fucking life, and you'll decide how you fucking want to feel and will make it the fucking best.