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Some time ago I read statistics of approach-to-lay ratio in day game among advanced day gamers.
I don't recall the exact numbers but at that I was negatively surpised about these numbers. Something like 1 lay out of 50 approaches. I thought: 'What the fuck? So much work to get just one girl?"
I guess the reason why I thought these numbers are so bad is that because I was a beginner in day game and every approach seemed like a huge effort to me.
After I've gained some experience I'm thinking that these numbers aren't actually all that bad.
Why?
Because of the little emotional and time effort it takes for me to actually approach. A failing approach will take anything from few seconds up to few minutes (max). So if you don't care emotionally, the time cost is actually very low. Let's average and say that an approach takes you 2 minutes. If you are in a high traffic venue you can approach pretty much every 5 minutes, which would give you 20 approaches in an hour. If you go out for 2 hours per day, you would approach 40 women in 2 hours session, which statistically speaking should give you a lay every day or every second day. And this sounds much, much better.
I guess, you can make day game much, much easier for you if you accept that most of women will most likely reject you because of HER OWN REASONS. Being in a bad mood, being in a wrong phase of the cycle, having a boyfriend who she loves, bad experience with other men approaching her in day time, etc. All these reasons, and plenty more are real reasons for her to 'reject' you, which have NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU. For me personally, makes the whole thing, much, much easier emotionally.
So when you know that many women have their own reasons not to continue the conversation, you can drop the interaction VERY FAST in terms of time and emotional baggage. And you can focus on what really matter which is finding a receptive girl, one who really want to be approached and fucked that day.
Looking at day game from this perspective is a positive mental spin for me.
I don't recall the exact numbers but at that I was negatively surpised about these numbers. Something like 1 lay out of 50 approaches. I thought: 'What the fuck? So much work to get just one girl?"
I guess the reason why I thought these numbers are so bad is that because I was a beginner in day game and every approach seemed like a huge effort to me.
After I've gained some experience I'm thinking that these numbers aren't actually all that bad.
Why?
Because of the little emotional and time effort it takes for me to actually approach. A failing approach will take anything from few seconds up to few minutes (max). So if you don't care emotionally, the time cost is actually very low. Let's average and say that an approach takes you 2 minutes. If you are in a high traffic venue you can approach pretty much every 5 minutes, which would give you 20 approaches in an hour. If you go out for 2 hours per day, you would approach 40 women in 2 hours session, which statistically speaking should give you a lay every day or every second day. And this sounds much, much better.
I guess, you can make day game much, much easier for you if you accept that most of women will most likely reject you because of HER OWN REASONS. Being in a bad mood, being in a wrong phase of the cycle, having a boyfriend who she loves, bad experience with other men approaching her in day time, etc. All these reasons, and plenty more are real reasons for her to 'reject' you, which have NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU. For me personally, makes the whole thing, much, much easier emotionally.
So when you know that many women have their own reasons not to continue the conversation, you can drop the interaction VERY FAST in terms of time and emotional baggage. And you can focus on what really matter which is finding a receptive girl, one who really want to be approached and fucked that day.
Looking at day game from this perspective is a positive mental spin for me.
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