I was wondering if any one had any advice in practicing facial expressions, or making them more consistent. There are times when I can tell that I do have good expressions from the reactions and sense of connection I get from a girl when making eye contact, and there times when I can make them happen in a mirror, but it is very difficult for me to spontaneously create any semblance of an attractive expression. At times I feel dependent on reflecting back a girl's expression to her, which... Doesn't seem right. Thoughts?
I have successfully added many interesting, atractive facial expressions to my once very boring face.
One of my female friends calls me Ryan Gosling despite not looking like him at all.
She says it's because we have the same charming face.
I didn't model myself specifically after Gosling but he does have typical attractive facial expressions so I get why she would say that.
Here's how I did it:
Hyper awareness.
I became hyper aware of how my face was looking. I was in touch with the major facial muscles in my face.
Every time I would catch myself wearing my default facial expression- a blank face with my lips turned down and my eyelids dropping- I would adjust it right away (open eyes, raise eye brows and fix my mouth expression to a more neutral or playful smile)
It seems relatively simple but the execution was painful.
Whether I was lying in bed, taking a shower, walking down the street or just existing, I would make micro adjustments to my face.
Every 1 or 2 minutes I would adjust my face.
Obviously, it was mentally draining but I got results very fast.
Now, for attractive facial expressions, I treated each as a legit goal.
For instance, when I set out to adopt the "cute and sexy" look, I practiced for a total of about two hours a day in front of the mirror.
Once I managed to make the facial expression, I then made it a must to use it with girls I was interacting with.
And it was difficult because I kept forgetting.
Or I would use it but feel like I didn't quite well "perform"
Heck, I remember once talking to a girl on campus and remebering to wear the cute and sexy look. I wasn't sure whether I had worn the current one or not but I noted down the facial muscles memory of the expression I was wearing.
When she left, I went to the bathroom and wore the facial expression again, only to realize it was a weird expression.
I'd been wearing this weird expression all the while talking to this girl (not that she seemed to care btw, we did end up meeting again and having a good time)
But as for my facial expression mastery, it was hard. But I kept at it.
I figured out the difference between the weird expression and the cute and sexy look and noted down the facial muscle adjustment required to deliver the cute and sexy look.
Rinse and repeat.
Every single interaction with girls, I'd over analyse my facial expressions.
Finally came a day when I wore the cute and sexy look in the right way.
I had adopted it and did it naturally.
I was a charmer by default.
It took around two months.
This is how I did it for facial expressions.
By overly obsessing about them.
Might not be the healthiest method but it worked and, especially for me, who was massively unexpressive with my face, I needed something extreme.
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