Preventing Fights (physical)

[Just_Dave]

There comes a time when a fight may or may not happen depending on where you go. I'm from a city where fights could happen and throwing hands was unavoidable at times. However if you're like me and what to have handsome kissable face, you must learn to prevent fights. *Making friends with wrestlers, MMA fighters, and other martial artists and learning a few moves doesn't hurt either*

Example: Guy approaches a girl who has a boyfriend, a rowdy boyfriend who's been drinking.
Bad Example
Drunk Guy: Hey man get your ass away from my girlfriend!!
Guy: Wait, what? Sorry!
Drunk Guy: Yeah, I'm gonna kick your ass!
Guy: Wait no, ah!

*You never want to freeze or fold in a situation like this, rather you can flip the situation into your control.
Good Example
Drunk Guy: Hey man get your ass away from my girlfriend!!
Me: *calmly looks at guy* *places hands up out in front of chest creating space* Excuse me?
Drunk Guy: Get away from girlfriend!
Me: *hands still in front of chest* What's your name?
Drunk Guy: *Confused* What?
Me: I'm David, I was asking your girl if she knew of any good restaurants around.

Just like that you make the boyfriend look like a jealous asshole. The point is holding your hands in front of you creating space and distance between the boyfriend. It also lets them know your guard is up so no cheap shots will be given. Even if you're not a fighter it's important to work on balance with your feet planted. Diffuse the situation by changing the topic away from yelling and screaming. Control your breathing and stay calm, the boyfriend doesn't really want to fight you. He just wants to scare you. This is why going to the gym is important, also picking the right girls, and being strong and dominant man is crucial.

Disclaimer: I'm not trying to scare you or encourage you to fight. However, learning how to fight is life skill like swimming that I highly suggest learning. Even with that said learning how to prevent a fight is just as great a skill.

 

[Thinkingenigma]

Great tips man. Honestly, if you want to learn how to best prevent fights and what to do if they happen, find a dojo that teaches Judo and cross trains aikido and BJJ. The advantage of these is that they train you to fight from anywhere and exemplify the Law of Least Effort in their philosophies and fighting styles (especially aikido). Of course, you probably would want to throw some striking arts in there as well. I also train in Krav and Kung Fu for this purpose.

 

[Just_Dave]

Great tips man. Honestly, if you want to learn how to best prevent fights and what to do if they happen, find a dojo that teaches Judo and cross trains aikido and BJJ. The advantage of these is that they train you to fight from anywhere and exemplify the Law of Least Effort in their philosophies and fighting styles (especially aikido). Of course, you probably would want to throw some striking arts in there as well. I also train in Krav and Kung Fu for this purpose.

Well said man, I took Kung Fu when I was younger and I sparred recently a friend who does aikido. How long have you been studying?

 

[Thinkingenigma]

Well said man, I took Kung Fu when I was younger and I sparred recently a friend who does aikido. How long have you been studying?

I've been studying for almost a year and a half, but I've been learning from some awesome masters (my main instructor is a 4th Dan in Judo, 3rd Dan in Aikido, and I regularly train with five Masters who are 8th Dan in both disciplines), so I have really been able to learn a lot more of the philosophies and history than I would at a lot of other dojos.

 

[Just_Dave]

Well said man, I took Kung Fu when I was younger and I sparred recently a friend who does aikido. How long have you been studying?

I've been studying for almost a year and a half, but I've been learning from some awesome masters (my main instructor is a 4th Dan in Judo, 3rd Dan in Aikido, and I regularly train with five Masters who are 8th Dan in both disciplines), so I have really been able to learn a lot more of the philosophies and history than I would at a lot of other dojos.

Awesome man I'm really happy for you, and it's great learning from masters such as the one's you have.

 

[Light]

Sound advise. Learning how to fight is the best way to avoid a fight.

When you train under real martial art, you are taught the philosophy of self defence and avoiding fights.
At the same time, should an event occur, you know that you are in control of the outcome.
You will feel more confident in speaking properly with your opponent, at the same time prepared for the worse.

Learning self defence is definitely important.


Light

 

[Just_Dave]

Sound advise. Learning how to fight is the best way to avoid a fight.

When you train under real martial art, you are taught the philosophy of self defence and avoiding fights.
At the same time, should an event occur, you know that you are in control of the outcome.
You will feel more confident in speaking properly with your opponent, at the same time prepared for the worse.

Learning self defence is definitely important.


Light

Well said Light!
One funny thing I find out at college parties is that a lot of people don't know how to fight. Wild swinging and trying to tackle each other.

 

[Jay]

One funny thing I find out at college parties is that a lot of people don't know how to fight. Wild swinging and trying to tackle each other.

This couldn't be more true. Most mofos you will run into at college parties have not the slightest clue what they are doing in a fight, they just explode and start tackling/swinging. As long as you aren't three sheets to the wind drunk it is fairly easy to sidestep and block pretty much any punch they will throw, or simply jump out of the way of a tackle. Trust me it is one of the most satisfying things ever to have some dude crouch and sprint to spear tackle you and violently discover a wall or prickly foliage where you just were. He most likely won't even know what happened, just that his face hurts.

As to knowing how to fight being the best solution to avoiding a fight; absolute truth. I've been practicing Muay Thai for a couple months now, and while I am still a beginner, it is amazing how much of a difference even basic martial arts knowledge makes and how quickly I can shut down even drunk or untrained dudes twice my size with speed and control of the direction of the fight. One thing I have found just completely baffles everyone involved in a drunken fight is implementing kicks, knees and elbows. Instead of a punch, fake a punch and throw an elbow instead, it throws almost anyone without martial arts training off completely. Or, you can surprise a wildly swinging drunk with a roundhouse kick to the face; watch as his mind is blown as he gets off the ground and thinks "did I just get kicked in the face in front of all these people?".