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I met an older girl (early 30s) 3 weeks ago at a 20-30s professional meetup.com event on a Thursday. We meet at the end of the night, so I brought her to McDonald’s for an insta-date. There was a big language barrier between us, but I kept going. I invited myself over to her place three times until throwing in the towel and moved to the car. I failed escalating for the kiss twice and she left my car abruptly by driving away. I was spooked from the 2nd LMR reaction that I never texted her again.
Went to a meetup.com social event by myself for younger professionals in the area. The event was at a restaurant’s event room with a bar and tables spread throughout. The room was not crowded with around 40-50 people at the highest point. I recently realized social circle is a lot more fun than day game approaches, but did not prepare ahead. I did not know what type of opener to use besides indirect-direct with a LONG wait for the direct part.
My goal: Approach 10 girls
My aim: Invite a girl to dinner for an insta-date
Series of events:
-Bought drink, meet some cool people, and approached 1st girl group.
-Approached another girl group.
-Got one girl to sit down with me and proposed lunch next week – she accepted.
-Approached girl at bar by herself – she asked for my card, but forgot to ask her out.
-Approached a guy in the group then turned to girl later.
-Got her to sit down with me and invited her to McDonald’s by her place.
-Met at McDonald’s and had sexual conversation.
-Invited myself over 3 times, but rejected each time.
-Invited her to car, but got failed escalation after trying to kiss her twice.
-She left the car without a goodbye and drove off right away.
Here’s the approach for the last girl:
Spotted a girl (Latina, brunette, curvy) talking to one of the photographers so I open to the photographer first.
I deep-dived on her occupation real quick before I offered her to sit down. I continued deep-diving on her country origins, how long she’s been here, ect. Her tall guy friend in a suit interrupted us by kissing her on the check and saying goodbye. The guy offered his hand with a smile, so I thought “sure why not” and shook back. She asked if I lived around here suddenly, so I offered if she wanted to grab something to eat. I grabbed her phone number and said I am leaving to McDonald’s now (because that was by her place).
I walk into McDonald’s at 9pm, with her on my heels and paid for our milkshakes separately. The conversation over the last hour was the most sexual piece of art I’ve ever sewed together. Here’s the most important pieces:
(The conversation had about 2 min of small talk before this)
I invited myself to her place for a nightcap, but she did not know what that meant. After explaining, she playfully said no and said work started at 8am the next day. I carefully explained that I have a busy schedule and she probably wouldn’t see me again.
She changed the subject and went on a tangent about the different cultures in the bay area.
Realized I made a mistake with the situational opener, PLUS I am loosing time. I invite myself over to her place for the second time, but get resistance. She explains that her house is dirty and doesn’t want any guests over. I explain how having a dirty house doesn’t matter and that we should have margaritas anyway. She offers resistance again, so I invite myself over the third time and say “take it or leave it”. She says she doesn’t know me that well to invite me over.
I invited her to by car, then got up and left without waiting – she followed. Here’s the failed escalation in the car.
(I eventually grab both of her hands, to warm them up, but proceed to escalate by kissing her. She resists by turning her head to the side, letting me kiss her cheek.)
(She goes off topic about the weather and how late the time is. I try kissing her again, but she pulls away, gets out of the car, and drives away).
Mistakes:
-Declined a picture with the girl.
-Approaching the wrong person in the group (she told me confusion later).
-Horrible situational opener.
-Horrible logistics – don’t invite yourself over on a weekday night DUH!!!!
-Could not kiss her in car.
I do not regret testing my limits, but blame the failure on horrible logistics. I think ending the data at McDonald’s would have been a better idea, she got upset I was holding up her schedule. Thinking in her shoes, I would not go home with someone at 10pm if I had work the next morning. I had the next day (Friday) off, so I wasn’t worried about my schedule. This was the first conversation where I pulled together a sexual vibe – this will be my homework for the next couple months.
Went to a meetup.com social event by myself for younger professionals in the area. The event was at a restaurant’s event room with a bar and tables spread throughout. The room was not crowded with around 40-50 people at the highest point. I recently realized social circle is a lot more fun than day game approaches, but did not prepare ahead. I did not know what type of opener to use besides indirect-direct with a LONG wait for the direct part.
My goal: Approach 10 girls
My aim: Invite a girl to dinner for an insta-date
Series of events:
-Bought drink, meet some cool people, and approached 1st girl group.
-Approached another girl group.
-Got one girl to sit down with me and proposed lunch next week – she accepted.
-Approached girl at bar by herself – she asked for my card, but forgot to ask her out.
-Approached a guy in the group then turned to girl later.
-Got her to sit down with me and invited her to McDonald’s by her place.
-Met at McDonald’s and had sexual conversation.
-Invited myself over 3 times, but rejected each time.
-Invited her to car, but got failed escalation after trying to kiss her twice.
-She left the car without a goodbye and drove off right away.
Here’s the approach for the last girl:
Spotted a girl (Latina, brunette, curvy) talking to one of the photographers so I open to the photographer first.
Me: Still taking pictures huh?
Photographer: No I got all the ones I need. Do you guys want a picture together?
Me: I’m sure you have enough, I’m good.
(Photographer says something to girl then leaves)
Me: How’s your night going so far?
Girl: (Thick latin accent) It’s going pretty good, yeah. Is this your first meetup for the group?
I deep-dived on her occupation real quick before I offered her to sit down. I continued deep-diving on her country origins, how long she’s been here, ect. Her tall guy friend in a suit interrupted us by kissing her on the check and saying goodbye. The guy offered his hand with a smile, so I thought “sure why not” and shook back. She asked if I lived around here suddenly, so I offered if she wanted to grab something to eat. I grabbed her phone number and said I am leaving to McDonald’s now (because that was by her place).
I walk into McDonald’s at 9pm, with her on my heels and paid for our milkshakes separately. The conversation over the last hour was the most sexual piece of art I’ve ever sewed together. Here’s the most important pieces:
(The conversation had about 2 min of small talk before this)
Me: So you were talking about going to school in Guatemala, how was that?
Girl: (blah, blah, blah – I don’t really remember).
Me: It must have been great weather there. Ever take adventures to the beach?
Girl: I lived more in the mountainous areas, but the beach was nice (blah, blah, tropical reefs-n shizz).
Me: Okay, don’t make me imagine you in a swimsuit!
Girl: Haha! (squirmed in her seat) Oh, I’m so pale. I hardly ever go in the sun.
(She started to really wake up and give more to the convo)
Me: Pale? Your skin looks like winter-set olive. Compare that to me, you’re ravishing. (Offers my arm out and she touches it). Do you have any tan-lines?
Girl: Noooo, I don’t (Pulls back blouse strap and looks at her shoulder).
Me: I thought all Latin girls loved the water! I mean, the beaches must be sooo pristine.
Girl: Oh, I do like the water. I got a pool in my apartment complex and one of my friends, he came over.
Me: Are you trying to get me in a speedo?
Girl: Haha! (another surprised expression – she’s squirming in the chair again). Do guys really wear that in America?
I invited myself to her place for a nightcap, but she did not know what that meant. After explaining, she playfully said no and said work started at 8am the next day. I carefully explained that I have a busy schedule and she probably wouldn’t see me again.
She changed the subject and went on a tangent about the different cultures in the bay area.
Me: That’s refreshing to meet someone open minded learning more about different cultures.
Girl: Oh, thank you.
Me: You sure you didn’t go to the meetup group for meeting exotic white guys?
Girl: You mean for dating? (giggles). I don’t know.
Me: You had an aurora about you that drew me in. What do you think of me so far?
Girl: Oh, I didn’t know you were interested in me. I saw you come to the cameraman first.
Me: You caught my eye at the last second.
Realized I made a mistake with the situational opener, PLUS I am loosing time. I invite myself over to her place for the second time, but get resistance. She explains that her house is dirty and doesn’t want any guests over. I explain how having a dirty house doesn’t matter and that we should have margaritas anyway. She offers resistance again, so I invite myself over the third time and say “take it or leave it”. She says she doesn’t know me that well to invite me over.
I invited her to by car, then got up and left without waiting – she followed. Here’s the failed escalation in the car.
Me: Do you like my ring?
Girl: Yes, whats the name of the mineral?
Me: Tungsten, sorry if my hands are cold.
Girl: Oh.
Me: Let’s see if this makes it better. (Grabs her nearest hand).
Girl: Okay (giggles).
(I eventually grab both of her hands, to warm them up, but proceed to escalate by kissing her. She resists by turning her head to the side, letting me kiss her cheek.)
Me: Your hands are not working. How about I put them between your legs. (I put my hands between her inner thighs).
Girl: Are you always like this? (She has a worried tone to her voice and things go downhill).
Me: Don’t be ridiculous, I’m just affectionate. I do not want to make you nervous, just let me know.
(She goes off topic about the weather and how late the time is. I try kissing her again, but she pulls away, gets out of the car, and drives away).
Mistakes:
-Declined a picture with the girl.
-Approaching the wrong person in the group (she told me confusion later).
-Horrible situational opener.
-Horrible logistics – don’t invite yourself over on a weekday night DUH!!!!
-Could not kiss her in car.
I do not regret testing my limits, but blame the failure on horrible logistics. I think ending the data at McDonald’s would have been a better idea, she got upset I was holding up her schedule. Thinking in her shoes, I would not go home with someone at 10pm if I had work the next morning. I had the next day (Friday) off, so I wasn’t worried about my schedule. This was the first conversation where I pulled together a sexual vibe – this will be my homework for the next couple months.