Hey, been a while since I was last on here. I'm taking this girl on a shooting range date tonight. I want to pull her to my apartment and have sex with her. I want some tips on how to break any potential resistance bringing her to the apartment and having sex with her. We've already gone on a couple dates and I've kissed her each time we parted, but I know if I want to make her a girlfriend, I need to make things happen soon. Advice?
Some additional information: I'm pretty sure this girl likes me. We've had a really strong rapport since we have a lot in common. She does me little favors, like fetching snacks at the bar, giving me a beer she has stashed, etc. She also responded positively to my kisses in a bit of a teasing way. I don't anticipate strong resistance bringing her to the apartment, but I want to be prepared.
I still need to really work on my sexual leading skills. I seem to have a talent screwing things up with girls, so if you can explain it to me like I'm 5, that'd be appreciated. I know the basics of what I need to do, I'd just appreciate a few tips on how to implement my strategy so to speak. Thanks again for helping me in the past guys.
Oh, if anyone wondered, I am white, and she is black. I don't suppose that affects anything. Though it does seem black girls perhaps exude a certain confidence or assertiveness?
I still need to really work on my sexual leading skills. I seem to have a talent screwing things up with girls, so if you can explain it to me like I'm 5, that'd be appreciated. I know the basics of what I need to do, I'd just appreciate a few tips on how to implement my strategy so to speak. Thanks again for helping me in the past guys.
Oh, if anyone wondered, I am white, and she is black. I don't suppose that affects anything. Though it does seem black girls perhaps exude a certain confidence or assertiveness?
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Hello,
A girl will follow a man at home without any problem if this man provides her with the right emotions and expectations - and this, even if she saw him a grand total of one hour in her entire life.
About the expectations, it's about avoiding some pitfalls, all of which will make your life harder:
* waiting too many dates before asking her home
* doing friendly or fun activities in date
Does this ring a bell?
One big mistake is to wait for a few dates, just to decide if she likes you or not. If she came on a first date with you, she most likely already likes you. There are a few pointers you can watch for that usually further indicate she likes you:
* She accepts your touch very well - and possibly touches you back
* She follows your lead very well. Take her by the hand and move her in a "follow me" fashion. If you feel she follows smoothly, you're good
* She is very talkative
* She asks you questions
You can watch for any of these signs on the first date. If you see any, you're good to go. In any case, you will never be 100pct sure she likes you, waiting more dates to decide won't help, and give her the wrong expectations.
The right emotions to give her, is to make her feel connected to you. You won't get that by doing friendly dates or fun activities together. You do that by making her talk a lot, and by touching her very early on.
One to two hours of face time is what you need before taking her home.
To pull her home, the right way to do is to make it like it's not a big deal at all. Low key tone, very simple excuse, and present it like she doesn't have a choice, like it is absolutely evident it's the next step. If you present it as a question, it's a lot of pressure on her as she needs to decide and answer. So, don't ask, just tell her. "Let's go! I'll show you my collection of (xxx) at home." Or "Let's go! I have an excellent bottle of white wine at home". More advanced: "Let's go!" (no explanation of where we're going).
I hope this will help you next time!
Seppuku
Sorry to read.DaddyD said:
A girl will follow a man at home without any problem if this man provides her with the right emotions and expectations - and this, even if she saw him a grand total of one hour in her entire life.
About the expectations, it's about avoiding some pitfalls, all of which will make your life harder:
* waiting too many dates before asking her home
* doing friendly or fun activities in date
Does this ring a bell?
One big mistake is to wait for a few dates, just to decide if she likes you or not. If she came on a first date with you, she most likely already likes you. There are a few pointers you can watch for that usually further indicate she likes you:
* She accepts your touch very well - and possibly touches you back
* She follows your lead very well. Take her by the hand and move her in a "follow me" fashion. If you feel she follows smoothly, you're good
* She is very talkative
* She asks you questions
You can watch for any of these signs on the first date. If you see any, you're good to go. In any case, you will never be 100pct sure she likes you, waiting more dates to decide won't help, and give her the wrong expectations.
The right emotions to give her, is to make her feel connected to you. You won't get that by doing friendly dates or fun activities together. You do that by making her talk a lot, and by touching her very early on.
One to two hours of face time is what you need before taking her home.
To pull her home, the right way to do is to make it like it's not a big deal at all. Low key tone, very simple excuse, and present it like she doesn't have a choice, like it is absolutely evident it's the next step. If you present it as a question, it's a lot of pressure on her as she needs to decide and answer. So, don't ask, just tell her. "Let's go! I'll show you my collection of (xxx) at home." Or "Let's go! I have an excellent bottle of white wine at home". More advanced: "Let's go!" (no explanation of where we're going).
I hope this will help you next time!
Seppuku