Online & Apps Pushing things in a positive/better direction if a girl gets defensive, negative, etc.

[Maximus]

Below is a snippet from a recent convo where a girl shit tested me, but it wasn't a normal one. It was a shit test but also more of just a direct defensive/negative challenge.

I'm brand new to online so I desire feedback that's constructive and helpful. I'm sure I'll do lots of stuff wrong and learn a lot as a result.

In the convo below I was unsure how to redirect the convo and keep things moving in a good direction.

Here's the convo so far, using an opener I'm trying from Todd V:

Me: You're adorable. Fingers crossed you aren't crazy )

Her: Haha

Her: you good?

Me: I see you're really wanting to show your caring, warm, motherly side. Thank u but I'm doing great

Me: Are you doing ok? )

Thoughts?

 

[Conquistador]

Can’t put my finger on it, but your response was cringe. Also, in terms of character count, there’s a bit of a disparity in investment.

 

[Maximus]

Can’t put my finger on it, but your response was cringe. Also, in terms of character count, there’s a bit of a disparity in investment.

Ok.

1. In your eyes what did I say that hurt the situation?
2. Why did that hurt the situation?
3. What are some responses, or a response you think would be an improvement?

 

[WalkWithMe]

First, I like your mindset to want to learn and try out things. This, and only this, is what will get you there in the end. Keep that up!

Now to your question; the first line about her being adorable and hopefully not crazy (they all are btw, more or less..) is good! Her reaction is however short and direct so I would answer in a similar fashion and immediately move to a different topic. This is 5 lines of back-and-forth how everybody is doing.
When she asks 'you good?', get in touch with how you are *really* doing and what positive, interesting or intriguing something in your life you are looking forward to in the not-too-distant future. This is in my case often stuff I don't involve women in unless they're closer. (they need to deserve a ride on the back of the bike, for example).
If she bites, indulge her a bit and share something and then ask her if she has any passions (can be playful like what mischief she is up to now?)
then soft close and hard close with a date and drop the phone until you see her or something changes your plans.

Not sure if it works in your case, as there is a bit of more context necessary if something like the above would work.

 

[Skills]

Can’t put my finger on it, but your response was cringe. Also, in terms of character count, there’s a bit of a disparity in investment.

yea that style is total cringe...

 

[Mr.SocialAcceptableHarem]

A lot of women who are nice could still be horrible mothers so I see your trying to stereotype and idealize bc you haven’t met a lot of women yet. After a couple dates you’ll start to realize women shit and do gross things just like how men do, not every women is an angel, they are very normal and just like us in a lot of ways.

 

[Maximus]

A lot of women who are nice could still be horrible mothers so I see your trying to stereotype and idealize bc you haven’t met a lot of women yet. After a couple dates you’ll start to realize women shit and do gross things just like how men do, not every women is an angel, they are very normal and just like us in a lot of ways.

I've gotten girls most of my life, I don't idealize them. I'm just bad at online game.

What specific feedback or suggestions do you have?

 

[Maximus]

yea that style is total cringe...

Well I'm here to learn.

1. In your eyes what did I say that hurt the situation?
2. Why did that hurt the situation?
3. What are some responses, or a response you think would be an improvement?

 

[Mr.SocialAcceptableHarem]

I've gotten girls most of my life, I don't idealize them. I'm just bad at online game.

What specific feedback or suggestions do you have?

The caring kind part abt her was a little off, most guys usually don’t text that stuff so soon

but it was the motherly part that prob freaked her out

most young women don’t want to have kids yet, now, and when you introduce that into the frame, It’s not good because it’s not something she doesn’t think is appropriate to how invested she is to you. Rn your just an option, you don’t have much buying power. If you were her bf, it might be cute to her like play pretend mother type shit, but like I said that’s out of the frame rn

To sum it up, you said something that projects high investment but she rn is low investment so it scares her off

 

[Skills]

Well I'm here to learn.

1. In your eyes what did I say that hurt the situation?
2. Why did that hurt the situation?
3. What are some responses, or a response you think would be an improvement?

maximus the guys that are good at online dating follow a certain type of structure.... You open > you banter in a way of a question> she responds> you qualify>then you move off app to phone....

read this post for example: https://www.skilledseducer.com/thre...process-help-me-get-a-date.27951/#post-165602