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So I went out to a local bar last night and really made an effort to put some of the prinicipals that Chase has outlined to work. The results: met two new women and got their numbers and saw an old semi-gf from years back and had a good convo. I'll post details on the 2 new girls. The old girlfriend isn't somebody I'm really pursuing although, it would be nice. She was their with her BF but I go a chance to talk to her while she was alone at the bar. Had a good convo, wanted to ask for her number but just felt too uncomfortable as her boyfriend was sitting right behind us. Anyway, here are the details on the other two...
-Girl #1: Cute blone, just finished college: So this establishment was pretty packed last night. It's a two-floor, popular bar that attracts some well known local bands. Packed with college kids either enjoying the last week of winter vacation or just finishing up school. Me and my buddy are upstairs, at the bar, waiting to be served when I spot a cute blonde to my left playing with her phone that happens to have a minney mouse phone case. Without even saying hi, i grab her phone and start giving her crap about the case, saying that I'm jealous and wish I had a cool phone case like that. I asked her if she brought her coloring books along as well, lol. She was digging it and laughing. I really tried to maintain my body language the whole time... relaxed, composed, good eye contact, slow movements, etc. We got to talking and attempted the deep dive (not sure if this is exactly deep diving but i tried)... I found that that she just graduated from a small town school and how she preferred small towns to a big city. I listened most of the time and then mentioned that I used to live in a small town as well. She started asking me all kinds of questions about where, how I liked it, etc. Seemed like we made a pretty decent connection...any feedback on whether or not this is the correct "deep dive" method would be appreciated. WE chatted for about ten minutes and then my buddy started being a dick, complaining that it was hot up there and wanted to go back downstairs. While the convo still had a little life left to it, I asked her if she'd like to get a drink some time....she said yes and had her put her digits in my phone. I stuck around for a few more minutes but could feel a hint of awkward silenece creeping in....I told her to enjoy her drink, that I would text her, and got out of there. Seemed to go pretty well so I'm planning on texting her today...any ideas on what to say?
The awkward silence part kind of annoyed me.... I need some strategies on what to do when that happens. I'm good at carrying a conversation and the beginning but when things die down a bit, i get flustered and it probably shows in my body language as well. Also, I'm guessing the one mistake I made was that I didn't relocate with her?
-Girl #2: Another cute blonde, lives and works in the area. This was the same upstairs bar, towards the end of the night. This time I was waiting to close my tab out. I opened her with a sarcastic comment on the "awesome" service we were getting and go to talking from there. This interaction was different than the above one in that I relied more on body language/flirting than the deep diving and deep conversation. I don't remember much of the convo other than the end...we were talking about some of the local bars and I mentioned this new one that opened up. She said she hadn't been and i offered to be her "tour guide". She agreed, gave me her number, and pulled me in for a hug. Again, this was at the end of the night so I don't remember the details of what we talked about but I could feel the attraction and I just felt "on" with the body language, eye contact, sly james bond smile, etc. Again, hoping to text this girl tonight as well. Any ideas on what to say would be great.
All in all, I think things went pretty well. I made it a point not to drink a lot as this has always ruined my game in the past. It's nice to wake up and remember the new numbers in your phone lol. I think my body language was probably my strongest asset last night. It gave me confidence to open and engage in the initial part of the conversations. I think my weaknesses, while not terrible, were the conversation and certain moments of awkward silence. My mind just goes blank sometimes and i have trouble switching to different topics of conversation. I believe this affects body language as well. Also, regarding the fliriting/sarcastic banter-- I'm kind of inconsistant in this area. Sometimes I'm really, really good...I feel like i can't miss, everything I say is funny/engaging, etc. Other times...not so much. I'd like to shore this area up as well and be more consistant.
Again, any advice, feedback, comments would be awesome. I'm looking to absorb as much information as possible and really take this part of my life to new levels. I'm 26, good looking, workout/have a good body, good job and going to school. There's no reason why I can't be dating the type of girls, for lack a better term-- 8's, 9's, and 10's, that I desire. Thanks, all.
-Girl #1: Cute blone, just finished college: So this establishment was pretty packed last night. It's a two-floor, popular bar that attracts some well known local bands. Packed with college kids either enjoying the last week of winter vacation or just finishing up school. Me and my buddy are upstairs, at the bar, waiting to be served when I spot a cute blonde to my left playing with her phone that happens to have a minney mouse phone case. Without even saying hi, i grab her phone and start giving her crap about the case, saying that I'm jealous and wish I had a cool phone case like that. I asked her if she brought her coloring books along as well, lol. She was digging it and laughing. I really tried to maintain my body language the whole time... relaxed, composed, good eye contact, slow movements, etc. We got to talking and attempted the deep dive (not sure if this is exactly deep diving but i tried)... I found that that she just graduated from a small town school and how she preferred small towns to a big city. I listened most of the time and then mentioned that I used to live in a small town as well. She started asking me all kinds of questions about where, how I liked it, etc. Seemed like we made a pretty decent connection...any feedback on whether or not this is the correct "deep dive" method would be appreciated. WE chatted for about ten minutes and then my buddy started being a dick, complaining that it was hot up there and wanted to go back downstairs. While the convo still had a little life left to it, I asked her if she'd like to get a drink some time....she said yes and had her put her digits in my phone. I stuck around for a few more minutes but could feel a hint of awkward silenece creeping in....I told her to enjoy her drink, that I would text her, and got out of there. Seemed to go pretty well so I'm planning on texting her today...any ideas on what to say?
The awkward silence part kind of annoyed me.... I need some strategies on what to do when that happens. I'm good at carrying a conversation and the beginning but when things die down a bit, i get flustered and it probably shows in my body language as well. Also, I'm guessing the one mistake I made was that I didn't relocate with her?
-Girl #2: Another cute blonde, lives and works in the area. This was the same upstairs bar, towards the end of the night. This time I was waiting to close my tab out. I opened her with a sarcastic comment on the "awesome" service we were getting and go to talking from there. This interaction was different than the above one in that I relied more on body language/flirting than the deep diving and deep conversation. I don't remember much of the convo other than the end...we were talking about some of the local bars and I mentioned this new one that opened up. She said she hadn't been and i offered to be her "tour guide". She agreed, gave me her number, and pulled me in for a hug. Again, this was at the end of the night so I don't remember the details of what we talked about but I could feel the attraction and I just felt "on" with the body language, eye contact, sly james bond smile, etc. Again, hoping to text this girl tonight as well. Any ideas on what to say would be great.
All in all, I think things went pretty well. I made it a point not to drink a lot as this has always ruined my game in the past. It's nice to wake up and remember the new numbers in your phone lol. I think my body language was probably my strongest asset last night. It gave me confidence to open and engage in the initial part of the conversations. I think my weaknesses, while not terrible, were the conversation and certain moments of awkward silence. My mind just goes blank sometimes and i have trouble switching to different topics of conversation. I believe this affects body language as well. Also, regarding the fliriting/sarcastic banter-- I'm kind of inconsistant in this area. Sometimes I'm really, really good...I feel like i can't miss, everything I say is funny/engaging, etc. Other times...not so much. I'd like to shore this area up as well and be more consistant.
Again, any advice, feedback, comments would be awesome. I'm looking to absorb as much information as possible and really take this part of my life to new levels. I'm 26, good looking, workout/have a good body, good job and going to school. There's no reason why I can't be dating the type of girls, for lack a better term-- 8's, 9's, and 10's, that I desire. Thanks, all.
. But that shows confidence is 200% . Well done! but don't do it with every girl you see .
