Hello, this will be my first post on this forum, I guess I could start introduce myself before I ask my question, even though there's not much to say xD
Well, im 18 years old (19 in one month) , I came across the girlschase website around june last year in 2015. I was a virgin at this time but now I've managed to bed 9 girls by the end of the year 2015. I think what helps a lot is my looks since at the moment, that's the only thing going for me, I didn't socialise a lot as a kid so my social calibration is not quite there. I've been told by my friends that I'm quite socially awkward, and a comment that I think stuck to me most was how one of my close friends girlfriends (someone who you'd refer to as a 10, even though I know the rating system is looked down upon in this community) mentioned that I am very attractive but I'm too "stiff". Another thing my friends keep referring to me as is emotionless/laidback/just don't give a Fuck kinda personality which they all seem to envy and try to emulate but at the same time I noticed that these same guys are what you would call naturals and also tend be quite emotional or atleast passionate. I think my laidback attitude is missing something which doesn't make me come across as a badboy and more like just that laidback guy.
that's all I got to say at the moment, so anyways...
there's this girl I met at a night out, I was speaking to her for mainly 2 weeks even though most of the interaction on text was just arrangements to meet up, but we did Facetime quite a lot. she kept trying to arrange to meet me when she was with her friends so we could all "chill" but I just kept saying no thanks as I didn't want to fall into this friendzone trap. after 2 weeks of this nonsense, I was about to just cut her off, but I gave into just meeting her friends with one of my friends (an emotional/passionate natural). To keep it simple, I was quite bored for most of the time, they all just kept gossiping about other people, something that doesn't really entertain me in the slightest. One point in this conversation, we started to talking about emotions which at one point, this girl on which I met on a night out stated that she thinks "a guy being emotional is attractive". is that true? I feel quite confused about this subject because deep down in my core im very emotional, something that I liked to say that I have learned to control but honestly feel more like I suppressed my emotions which isn't necessarily a good thing. Also another question, what should I do with this girl now that we went out on a group outing in which I didn't get the opportunity to escalate, shall I cut her off, shall I text her and arrange for another date? any suggestions or advice will be much appreciated.
P.S. Do forgive my poor grammer and writing skills, this is something else that Im hoping to improve while im in this forum
Well, im 18 years old (19 in one month) , I came across the girlschase website around june last year in 2015. I was a virgin at this time but now I've managed to bed 9 girls by the end of the year 2015. I think what helps a lot is my looks since at the moment, that's the only thing going for me, I didn't socialise a lot as a kid so my social calibration is not quite there. I've been told by my friends that I'm quite socially awkward, and a comment that I think stuck to me most was how one of my close friends girlfriends (someone who you'd refer to as a 10, even though I know the rating system is looked down upon in this community) mentioned that I am very attractive but I'm too "stiff". Another thing my friends keep referring to me as is emotionless/laidback/just don't give a Fuck kinda personality which they all seem to envy and try to emulate but at the same time I noticed that these same guys are what you would call naturals and also tend be quite emotional or atleast passionate. I think my laidback attitude is missing something which doesn't make me come across as a badboy and more like just that laidback guy.
that's all I got to say at the moment, so anyways...
there's this girl I met at a night out, I was speaking to her for mainly 2 weeks even though most of the interaction on text was just arrangements to meet up, but we did Facetime quite a lot. she kept trying to arrange to meet me when she was with her friends so we could all "chill" but I just kept saying no thanks as I didn't want to fall into this friendzone trap. after 2 weeks of this nonsense, I was about to just cut her off, but I gave into just meeting her friends with one of my friends (an emotional/passionate natural). To keep it simple, I was quite bored for most of the time, they all just kept gossiping about other people, something that doesn't really entertain me in the slightest. One point in this conversation, we started to talking about emotions which at one point, this girl on which I met on a night out stated that she thinks "a guy being emotional is attractive". is that true? I feel quite confused about this subject because deep down in my core im very emotional, something that I liked to say that I have learned to control but honestly feel more like I suppressed my emotions which isn't necessarily a good thing. Also another question, what should I do with this girl now that we went out on a group outing in which I didn't get the opportunity to escalate, shall I cut her off, shall I text her and arrange for another date? any suggestions or advice will be much appreciated.
P.S. Do forgive my poor grammer and writing skills, this is something else that Im hoping to improve while im in this forum
. Personally I found the thing I was missing was "core confidence" and a lack of assertiveness. Which is what you are describing to me now: