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Hi, new member here.
Recently I made a commitment to improve my game and social skills in general; and this forum seems to be the best to get an advice and learn from experienced members. Currently, about once a week, I'm doing some daygame. I cannot do it more often because I have to travel to a bigger city that has more people.
I'm 31 now. Very little dating experience. What I have noticed in the past couple of years is that I get no IoIs from girls. The last serious IoI I got from a girl that I can remember was when I was 25 yo (not joking). At that time I was at a restaurant with another girl on a date and I noticed this beautiful blonde next to our table just constantly looking at me. When I would look over she wouldn't break eye contact. At one point I even thought going over to her while the girl I was with went to the toilet. I don't know if being on a date played a part, but my intuition says it did because it kinda signals preselection and girls find that very attractive. I think social proof in general is very attractive to them in my experience.
Thing is, I know exactly how IoIs look like because I used to get them a lot when I was younger especially in school. I've used to get many, many compliments from girls about my looks. But I couldn't take advantage of being a good-looking guy because of lack of social skills and anxiety. In my younger years (14-23) I would often "catch" girls checking me out in school, work, shops, on the street. But now when I'm out I feel invisible to them. I don't know if my looks have deteriorated that badly or it's something else, so I thought to ask community how often you get IoIs during daytime from random girls (not in clubs or bars) and have you noticed less IoIs as you've become older?
Thanks!
Recently I made a commitment to improve my game and social skills in general; and this forum seems to be the best to get an advice and learn from experienced members. Currently, about once a week, I'm doing some daygame. I cannot do it more often because I have to travel to a bigger city that has more people.
I'm 31 now. Very little dating experience. What I have noticed in the past couple of years is that I get no IoIs from girls. The last serious IoI I got from a girl that I can remember was when I was 25 yo (not joking). At that time I was at a restaurant with another girl on a date and I noticed this beautiful blonde next to our table just constantly looking at me. When I would look over she wouldn't break eye contact. At one point I even thought going over to her while the girl I was with went to the toilet. I don't know if being on a date played a part, but my intuition says it did because it kinda signals preselection and girls find that very attractive. I think social proof in general is very attractive to them in my experience.
Thing is, I know exactly how IoIs look like because I used to get them a lot when I was younger especially in school. I've used to get many, many compliments from girls about my looks. But I couldn't take advantage of being a good-looking guy because of lack of social skills and anxiety. In my younger years (14-23) I would often "catch" girls checking me out in school, work, shops, on the street. But now when I'm out I feel invisible to them. I don't know if my looks have deteriorated that badly or it's something else, so I thought to ask community how often you get IoIs during daytime from random girls (not in clubs or bars) and have you noticed less IoIs as you've become older?
Thanks!