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Hey guys, Got a quick question on how to proceed with this number I got today.
Background: It was in the day, street stop. I did my standard opener (direct) while she was walking and she stopped. She responded quite well and I started to go into standard banter/deep dive but then she cut me off by stating she needs to go somewhere. I kinda thought this was the end of the set so I just said "alight if that is the case then ill make this quick can I have your number?" I might have said we should meet up sometime too but not sure. Anyways she was hesitant but I gave her my phone and she gave me her number. She says that we can text for a little bit. Doin what I usually do I start to chat to her after getting the number and we actually have a decent conversation where I was able to qualify her a little bit. That I seem to make her feel a little more comfortable around me. However, I end the interaction (still seeing it as a dud) with saying something like "your thing is soon. I don't want to mind your time." She kinda looks at me like she was a little disappointed that I brought it up (and maybe forgot about it herself?) but she agrees. I do say I'm gonna text her later and I do with some funny reference humor. A few hours later she text me with above average interest.
Conundrum: Only now I am realizing I have literally set nothing up. Like the interaction was so quick I did not do my standard deep dive with her to make the interaction really fun and to make sure it felt like I had a deep connection with her. This might not be a negative depending but she seriously knows like nothing about me. Like I told 2 two things my name and my job occupation title. That's it. More importantly I broke one of the most important rules about numbers which is to set up the general date plans before. Between all these things I know Im running with a really flaky number. And not sure how to procceed with the lack of connection/deep dive/attraction/logistics set up.
Question: So how should I proceed? Go straight for setting up the date? Call her first to build more comfort/attraction then start setting up the date? Go more slow? Or just not think about this one at all?
Background: It was in the day, street stop. I did my standard opener (direct) while she was walking and she stopped. She responded quite well and I started to go into standard banter/deep dive but then she cut me off by stating she needs to go somewhere. I kinda thought this was the end of the set so I just said "alight if that is the case then ill make this quick can I have your number?" I might have said we should meet up sometime too but not sure. Anyways she was hesitant but I gave her my phone and she gave me her number. She says that we can text for a little bit. Doin what I usually do I start to chat to her after getting the number and we actually have a decent conversation where I was able to qualify her a little bit. That I seem to make her feel a little more comfortable around me. However, I end the interaction (still seeing it as a dud) with saying something like "your thing is soon. I don't want to mind your time." She kinda looks at me like she was a little disappointed that I brought it up (and maybe forgot about it herself?) but she agrees. I do say I'm gonna text her later and I do with some funny reference humor. A few hours later she text me with above average interest.
Conundrum: Only now I am realizing I have literally set nothing up. Like the interaction was so quick I did not do my standard deep dive with her to make the interaction really fun and to make sure it felt like I had a deep connection with her. This might not be a negative depending but she seriously knows like nothing about me. Like I told 2 two things my name and my job occupation title. That's it. More importantly I broke one of the most important rules about numbers which is to set up the general date plans before. Between all these things I know Im running with a really flaky number. And not sure how to procceed with the lack of connection/deep dive/attraction/logistics set up.
Question: So how should I proceed? Go straight for setting up the date? Call her first to build more comfort/attraction then start setting up the date? Go more slow? Or just not think about this one at all?
