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TheRuralJuror

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I was reading chases article about having a purpose in life that doesn't have anything to do with women. And how when you do, it makes them fall harder for you in a way. Obviously that makes total sense, to not have her the center of your life. But my question is can "Getting better with women" become one of your life purposes? Because to me it sounds like it would interfere with exactly what chase talks about. BUT technically you're not making any ONE women the purpose. You're just trying to get better in general. Does that make sense? Haha. Hope it does!

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Lucifer

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It can be one of your life purposes, but should never be THE ONE (only) purpose.

I'm still a beginner and I recently ran into a kind of "crisis" based around this.

My passion is music, I'm extremely dedicated & have some cool achievements to show for it. But during the last year, approaching women was so damn fun that I decided that "getting better with women" was gonna be my new passion. I took a break from music and dropped it.

I embraced the "pick up artist" as my own identity. That was OK when things were going well with women. But when things got tough, like when I went through a major dry-spell and was faced with some particularly harsh rejections, it hurt 100-fold. Because I'd embraced the "pick-up artist" as my primary identity/passion, these rejections hurt me on a very deep, emotional, personal level. It also added more pressure on me when dealing with women. Neither of these things helped at all!

After that "crisis", I picked up my guitar and started cranking out riffs for the first time in a while, and it all came back to me: who I really am! Something MINE! Something that doesn't depend on the whims & chances & lives of random women. Something I'm proud of no matter what, something I control 100%. I realized I don't need women to be happy.

Now I balance music with pick-up and my results have risen exponentially.

You gotta have something of your own other than women. I've even heard girls saying that about guys. Most women you meet won't think it's cool that you have no passion (and you can't really talk to them about your passion for picking up girls). It'll also help you relate to women better, because most of them probably have a passion of their own.
 

TheRuralJuror

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Lucifer,

Hmm, that pretty much answers my question! I think I'm still gonna make getting better with women one of my purposes. (And im currently planning on doing something about that. ;) ) BUT I'm not gonna make it THE purpose of my life. I'm still trying to figure out what that is still....

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Richard

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Life Purpose is a lot different than a goal, keep that in mind.

Women and what you do with them always equate to goals but never to life purpose. So, getting better with women is a goal and eventually you'll reach a point where you continue to refine that end-goal with women and you'll free up your energy and focus it elsewhere. One of my friend's goals right now is be able to consistently pull/sleep with/bed/date women who are 8s and above and he's getting pretty damn close after a recent breakthrough.

-Richard
 
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