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I've been doing a lot of day game around campus as of late. I don't really like going direct because I could quite easily develop a reputation as the guy who "goes around campus hitting on girls". Plus, some of the environments are hardly the place (e.g. the library). So I've been using a lot of indirect openers. One thing that's really worked for me is the "Random" Opener. What this looks like to me is basically coming up to a girl and saying the first thing that comes to mind. Usually, it turns out to be something super random or unusual. But if you bring a playful energy with it, it works great.
Here's why:
1. Kicks the girl out of autopilot. Usually what you said will be pretty unusual.
2. Very self-amusing (e.g. you might think to yourself "haha how dafuq did I think to say that?"). This in turn keeps you in a light, positive mood throughout your entire gaming session.
3. Instantly gives you an unusual and typically pretty interesting topic of conversation. In fact, you'll sometimes skip small-talk altogether!
4. Helps with AA. If your job is to say something after you already have her attention and not before, you can't possibly go into analysis paralysis or pussy out because you "didn't know what to say".
5. What you're saying will necessarily be genuine. There's no way your line will come off as "canned" or "premeditated" or "fake" if you're coming up with it on the spot. And genuinity=attractive.
Plus for me in particular, it meshes very well with my personality ;p
Examples of "random openers":
"Damn, that's a really colorful phone case you have"
"Earlier today, there was this bee chasing me. It was really huge"
"Are you about to steal that power bar? <---She was holding a power bar at the student store.
"Can I have your wristband?"
"Your hood is very fuzzy. Is it comfortable?"
Again I have to emphasize: In order for this to work, you have to have a self-amused, playful energy about you (not to be confused with HIGH energy. If you come off as high energy, you'll come off as goofy/clownish). She has to know that you're half-kidding and that you don't necessarily think that's a normal way to start a conversation. If you don't, you'll probably just come off as really weird or creepy.
IT also helps to have your fundamentals in place. If you LOOK like a creepy or weird, she might think you are, even if you bring the right energy.
Note: Do not do this on women who are in a hurry or are already walking. Most of them will be very confused and will usually eject from the conversation pretty quickly. But if they're stationary, feel free to try this out.
Here's why:
1. Kicks the girl out of autopilot. Usually what you said will be pretty unusual.
2. Very self-amusing (e.g. you might think to yourself "haha how dafuq did I think to say that?"). This in turn keeps you in a light, positive mood throughout your entire gaming session.
3. Instantly gives you an unusual and typically pretty interesting topic of conversation. In fact, you'll sometimes skip small-talk altogether!
4. Helps with AA. If your job is to say something after you already have her attention and not before, you can't possibly go into analysis paralysis or pussy out because you "didn't know what to say".
5. What you're saying will necessarily be genuine. There's no way your line will come off as "canned" or "premeditated" or "fake" if you're coming up with it on the spot. And genuinity=attractive.
Plus for me in particular, it meshes very well with my personality ;p
Examples of "random openers":
"Damn, that's a really colorful phone case you have"
"Earlier today, there was this bee chasing me. It was really huge"
"Are you about to steal that power bar? <---She was holding a power bar at the student store.
"Can I have your wristband?"
"Your hood is very fuzzy. Is it comfortable?"
Again I have to emphasize: In order for this to work, you have to have a self-amused, playful energy about you (not to be confused with HIGH energy. If you come off as high energy, you'll come off as goofy/clownish). She has to know that you're half-kidding and that you don't necessarily think that's a normal way to start a conversation. If you don't, you'll probably just come off as really weird or creepy.
IT also helps to have your fundamentals in place. If you LOOK like a creepy or weird, she might think you are, even if you bring the right energy.
Note: Do not do this on women who are in a hurry or are already walking. Most of them will be very confused and will usually eject from the conversation pretty quickly. But if they're stationary, feel free to try this out.
