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Fuck, it was CRAZY and INTENSE night!
I have never received so much validation in one night, EVER. Guys, I really don't know how to describe the feeling and the situation in words. I have already felt like the hottest guy in the room (guided by the reactions and behavior of woman) BEFORE but never to THAT EXTENT!
If it's TLTR, there you have it:
At the peak of the night, I was gaming a woman who I fucked at the end of the night WHILE SEVERAL other BEAUTIFUL chicks and CUCKOLD COUPLES tried to STEAL ME from her. For most of the time I was just standing with some of my friends on one side, and my target set on the other side.
IMAGINE THIS. You try to talk to either your target or some of her friends, and you CONSTANTLY get interrupted by either a hot wifey or her husband, who was sent there to CONVINCE you to ditch the other girl and fuck his wife, LOL
You are in set, you take your eyes from your interlocutor for few seconds, you look around, and you realize that pretty much every hot chick you look at WAS LOOKING AT YOU before you looked at her
My game was CONSTANTLY interrupted by either some hot chick or a cuckold husband trying to pick me up/pull me out of the set. And when I say beautiful chicks, I mean 9+. Probably top 10 in the venue. LOL.
It was A FANTASTIC EXPERIENCE and EXTREMELY VALIDATING and HILARIOUS too.
It gets really funny when a REALLY HOT AND BEAUTIFUL HOT WIFE is CLUMSY while PHYSICALLY PUSHING a chick from your set, so she CAN CATCH YOUR ATTENTION.
AND THEN, when you FINALLY have a brief moment alone because your target went to get her coat, BOOM, you out of the blue, ANOTHER HOT CHICK which you DIDN'T EVEN SEE BEFORE LOL pops up just in front of YOU, trying her chances, LOL.
Imagine this feeling when you are revieving and analysing your night and THE MOST IMPORTANT topic for improvement from the night is HOW TO SAY 'NO' GRACEFULLY?
This night was incredibly validating and probably one of the hallmarks of the journey
INTRO
It was a New Year's Eve and I went out to a local upscale food court which held a large party. There is also a bar and a stage in this venue.
I arrived in this place very early. I was probably one of the earliest guests. Since, I wasn't going out that much this year, I wanted to spend as much time in the field as possible.
FIRST PART OF THE NIGHT (SHITTY)
The first few hours (before midnight) were pretty shitty.
I opened 3 sets and in each of these sets but I felt that they didn't work out. I mean, I saw attraction but it didn't feel right. Difficult to explain why they didn't work.
I can see three possible reasons for that:
- it was my first few approaches so it was completely normal and expected
- time of the night - I was early in the venue, and OTHER people were RUSTY, not feeling the party vibe yet, still pretty sober
- I was there alone, it's not my usual venue, not my social circle, I didn't have social proof
As a matter of fact, possibly all these points were part of the problem.
I need to field test this more, but it seems to me that the better way to build social proof when going out alone is by befriending GUYS FIRST. It is my experience that it's very easy to befriend guys quickly. Be normal, be friendly, give them some non-gay compliment and TALK ABOUT PICKING UP GIRLS. Apart from guys in relationships, every guy is there to pick up chicks. This topic has almost 100% success rate if you do it right.
BUILDING SOCIAL PROOF
My plan for the night was to build a social proof first.
My go-to plan to build a social proof in a new venue is this:
- be friendly, positive and QUICK with staff, don't take too much of their time, remember they are at work and they are busy, sometimes very busy. APPRECIATE THEM!
- after that befriend GUYS
- after that approach APPROACHABLE/EASY sets
- repeat until you FEEL THAT SOCIAL PROOF starts working properly for you (chicks are checking you out, every new set you open, is warmer and warmer)
- ONLY THEN, approach YOUR TARGET SET
So this is what I did in this venue basically.
SECOND PART OF THE NIGHT (BLAST)
I'm not going to repeat myself, but you can read in the first paragraph of this field report how powerful social proof is.
PULLING
Gaming her friend helped me to pull. Again!
My girl was a bit resistant (three of us were about to return to my girl's place). The other girl trusted me a lot, it was already really late, and she pushed my girl FORWARD, when she saw her silliness. Even though it wasn't really silliness. It was my fault - I didn't handle her ASD.
When we were at her place, it went pretty smoothly, but I still heard: "You are coming just for a drink and you are gonna leave."
SHORTCOMINGS
So here is the most important thing going forward for me. Even thought I'm able to work with social proof/pre-selection that I can have ANY girl in the venue see me as the HIGHLY DESIRABLE, maybe even THE MOST DESIRABLE MAN in the venue, I'm not able to capitalize on this fully. Yesterday, the girl I picke up and fucked was actually a mere 7. Ok, maybe 8 if you consider her blowjob skills.
For some reason (I'm not exactly sure why), I DECIDED that I'm going to STICK WITH HER. I guess it's because I was still feeling little ANXIOUS after the first part of the night. Basically, it was FEAR DRIVEN decision. I was pretty confident that if I stick with this chick until end of the night, I will get laid. At the time when I made this decision, my social proof wasn't at the level which I described.
I need to rethink this and understand what should I change. Maybe it's lack of confidence. I laid few VERY HOT WOMAN. So I'm probably too hesitant when it comes to taking larger risk.
TOP LEARNINGS
- being as STATIONARY as possible is better for SOCIAL PROOF, especially in large venues. If you are in LARGE venue you don't want to move around the place too much, because you dilute your social proof
- you can improve your ATTAINABILITY by being mindful of your INTENSITY, chicks can eject because your game is too intensive for them, which means your game has weakness, you need to calibrate it, you need to DIAL IT DOWN
- be MINDFUL how timing of the party influences the mood, vibe and reaction of other people
I have never received so much validation in one night, EVER. Guys, I really don't know how to describe the feeling and the situation in words. I have already felt like the hottest guy in the room (guided by the reactions and behavior of woman) BEFORE but never to THAT EXTENT!
If it's TLTR, there you have it:
At the peak of the night, I was gaming a woman who I fucked at the end of the night WHILE SEVERAL other BEAUTIFUL chicks and CUCKOLD COUPLES tried to STEAL ME from her. For most of the time I was just standing with some of my friends on one side, and my target set on the other side.
IMAGINE THIS. You try to talk to either your target or some of her friends, and you CONSTANTLY get interrupted by either a hot wifey or her husband, who was sent there to CONVINCE you to ditch the other girl and fuck his wife, LOL
You are in set, you take your eyes from your interlocutor for few seconds, you look around, and you realize that pretty much every hot chick you look at WAS LOOKING AT YOU before you looked at her
My game was CONSTANTLY interrupted by either some hot chick or a cuckold husband trying to pick me up/pull me out of the set. And when I say beautiful chicks, I mean 9+. Probably top 10 in the venue. LOL.
It was A FANTASTIC EXPERIENCE and EXTREMELY VALIDATING and HILARIOUS too.
It gets really funny when a REALLY HOT AND BEAUTIFUL HOT WIFE is CLUMSY while PHYSICALLY PUSHING a chick from your set, so she CAN CATCH YOUR ATTENTION.
AND THEN, when you FINALLY have a brief moment alone because your target went to get her coat, BOOM, you out of the blue, ANOTHER HOT CHICK which you DIDN'T EVEN SEE BEFORE LOL pops up just in front of YOU, trying her chances, LOL.
Imagine this feeling when you are revieving and analysing your night and THE MOST IMPORTANT topic for improvement from the night is HOW TO SAY 'NO' GRACEFULLY?
This night was incredibly validating and probably one of the hallmarks of the journey
INTRO
It was a New Year's Eve and I went out to a local upscale food court which held a large party. There is also a bar and a stage in this venue.
I arrived in this place very early. I was probably one of the earliest guests. Since, I wasn't going out that much this year, I wanted to spend as much time in the field as possible.
FIRST PART OF THE NIGHT (SHITTY)
The first few hours (before midnight) were pretty shitty.
I opened 3 sets and in each of these sets but I felt that they didn't work out. I mean, I saw attraction but it didn't feel right. Difficult to explain why they didn't work.
I can see three possible reasons for that:
- it was my first few approaches so it was completely normal and expected
- time of the night - I was early in the venue, and OTHER people were RUSTY, not feeling the party vibe yet, still pretty sober
- I was there alone, it's not my usual venue, not my social circle, I didn't have social proof
As a matter of fact, possibly all these points were part of the problem.
I need to field test this more, but it seems to me that the better way to build social proof when going out alone is by befriending GUYS FIRST. It is my experience that it's very easy to befriend guys quickly. Be normal, be friendly, give them some non-gay compliment and TALK ABOUT PICKING UP GIRLS. Apart from guys in relationships, every guy is there to pick up chicks. This topic has almost 100% success rate if you do it right.
BUILDING SOCIAL PROOF
My plan for the night was to build a social proof first.
My go-to plan to build a social proof in a new venue is this:
- be friendly, positive and QUICK with staff, don't take too much of their time, remember they are at work and they are busy, sometimes very busy. APPRECIATE THEM!
- after that befriend GUYS
- after that approach APPROACHABLE/EASY sets
- repeat until you FEEL THAT SOCIAL PROOF starts working properly for you (chicks are checking you out, every new set you open, is warmer and warmer)
- ONLY THEN, approach YOUR TARGET SET
So this is what I did in this venue basically.
SECOND PART OF THE NIGHT (BLAST)
I'm not going to repeat myself, but you can read in the first paragraph of this field report how powerful social proof is.
PULLING
Gaming her friend helped me to pull. Again!
My girl was a bit resistant (three of us were about to return to my girl's place). The other girl trusted me a lot, it was already really late, and she pushed my girl FORWARD, when she saw her silliness. Even though it wasn't really silliness. It was my fault - I didn't handle her ASD.
When we were at her place, it went pretty smoothly, but I still heard: "You are coming just for a drink and you are gonna leave."
SHORTCOMINGS
So here is the most important thing going forward for me. Even thought I'm able to work with social proof/pre-selection that I can have ANY girl in the venue see me as the HIGHLY DESIRABLE, maybe even THE MOST DESIRABLE MAN in the venue, I'm not able to capitalize on this fully. Yesterday, the girl I picke up and fucked was actually a mere 7. Ok, maybe 8 if you consider her blowjob skills.
For some reason (I'm not exactly sure why), I DECIDED that I'm going to STICK WITH HER. I guess it's because I was still feeling little ANXIOUS after the first part of the night. Basically, it was FEAR DRIVEN decision. I was pretty confident that if I stick with this chick until end of the night, I will get laid. At the time when I made this decision, my social proof wasn't at the level which I described.
I need to rethink this and understand what should I change. Maybe it's lack of confidence. I laid few VERY HOT WOMAN. So I'm probably too hesitant when it comes to taking larger risk.
TOP LEARNINGS
- being as STATIONARY as possible is better for SOCIAL PROOF, especially in large venues. If you are in LARGE venue you don't want to move around the place too much, because you dilute your social proof
- you can improve your ATTAINABILITY by being mindful of your INTENSITY, chicks can eject because your game is too intensive for them, which means your game has weakness, you need to calibrate it, you need to DIAL IT DOWN
- be MINDFUL how timing of the party influences the mood, vibe and reaction of other people
