Red Ruby's NEWBIE ASSIGNMENT

[RedRuby]

Hey wassup everybody I’m 19 year old college student who just moved to the New York metro area. I’ve been reading a lot of the articles on this site for awhile now and I think now I got to the point where I need to start putting into practice of what I’m reading.
When I first moved to New York I was very excited with the possibilities of my new life. I got a girlfriend in my senior year in high school and I went out with her for a whole year. I eventually broke up with her because I realized I didn’t enjoy spending time with her and I was ashamed to be seen with her in public. I think I kept the relationship going for as long as I did because it she was the first girlfriend that I ever had and I was getting used to the whole “being intimate with a girl”. She also asked me out and she was in love with me and this was something that I never experienced before it was both intriguing and scary. I was extremely paranoid and uncomfortable when it came to being affectionate towards her in public and I always felt some shame or hesitation when it came to trying to have sex with her. I think this is due to the years of living with my mother who brainwashed into thinking that having sex before marriage was wrong and I should feel guilty for even wanting to have sex. My mother was a Jehovah’s Witness by the way. I eventually did overcome most of those feelings so now it’s a little to easier to be in the moment with a girl.
I learned a lot in that relationship and I am glad that I got the chance to work those things out with her. Since then I threw a house party and got some phone numbers but all of them didn’t lead to any dates. I noticed that I’m getting more comfortable at approaching girls to talk to them and to ask for numbers but what I’m doing now isn’t leading to any dates.
I’ve been reading of girlschase information for the past year and it’s gotten to the point where I really need to start practicing what I’m reading. I finally decided that today is the day that I started on my journey to the life that I’ve always wanted. I’ve been in a place of resistance and excuses for this past year and I think I’m ready to do it now.
So tomorrow I’ll begin from scratch and I’ll keep updated on my progress. Let me know guys if there’s anything else you want to know or you want me to clarify.

 

[RedRuby]

So this past last 11 days have been very eventful. I attended two house parties which were both held in my house. The first one was a small party get together. Just bunch of dudes hanging out smoking and bullshitting, passing time until the girls come over. Turns out I wasn't the only throwing a party, so only a couple of girls showed up. I chatted all the girls up and tried to make plans with them to come to my brother's party and I did get some numbers. But, some bottles got stolen at my party so my brother didn't want of my friends coming to his party. So I haven't seen any of those girls since that night. One thing I noticed at the party was that I need to get a lot better at flirting and being playful.
This past Saturday I went to Brooklyn with some friends to the Holi NYC festival of color. I danced with a lot of girls but I didn't try to get any numbers. I think I didn't try because I didn't have my cell phone so I used that as an excuse. I know it was BS but what can I say, I'm still exercising that courage muscle in my head. So anyway after Holi I went to the city. On the way there I was opened by several girls on the train and bus about where I just came from. I told about the whole holi festival where it was at, what I did, and then I deep dived them and figured out where there from, what there doing, what they accomplish, hopes and dreams and all the other fluffy stuff. It's funny because I didn't follow the newbie assignment but I did a lot of the challenges on my own without the mission of actually doing the assignment. I even opened up some women in the mall just by saying some things like "are all those bags for your mother?" And the woman would laugh or just respond with a smile but then just walk away. Now that I think about it I'd probably approached over 20 women since I tried to start the newbie assignment. Which is a good thing, I have been making progress but I haven't been recording my observations, so it's very easy for me to forget what I did wrong and I did right.

So when I get back from my Birthright trip in Israel I'm gonna do this challenge from the beginning.

 

[RedRuby]

Yeah so I came back from Birthright trip to Israel and it was a lot fun but I noticed I had a very hard time getting physical with girls. I did go to some clubs and bars over there, where I did dance with other girls. But, I could only get physical with girls if was I drunk and having a good time. If I was drunk and in a bad mood I just kinda kept to myself. During this trip I realized how important it is to build social momentum. The days where I felt best were the days when I consciously made an effort to say something to each and every person around me. But, A lot of times I got caught up in my head and didn't feel like talking to anyone. But, I did do some approaches over there which I guess made me feel a little bit more comfortable to talk to people and to just say what's on my mind. But boy do I have a long way to go. I spoke about my feelings about how I am with women and other people with my dad and he just told me not to worry about how good my friends are and what everybody else is doing. He also was saying he had the same problem at my age and by the time he was 30, he better than all is friends when he was 19. So that was comforting to hear.

I'm recently found another program on another sight called Goodlookerloser. I'm gonna try to do there approach anxiety program. Even though this newbie assignment is kinda like that. Just shorter. I'm gonna try to see if I can do that program first. The program is a lot longer, it might take me 3 to 6 months to do but it goes at a slower pace. Looking at the program if I can complete that. I could easily do this program. Some of the AA programs requirements is that you do the drills and leave. Your not supposed to pick up any girls until maybe week 7 of the program. This is because the guy just wants you to focus on beating approach anxiety instead of thinking about getting laid. This is not so different from this assignment. But I did like how it goes at a slower pace. One of things I'm not excited about is the fact that I need to make a dating profile. Which I always thought was a cop out. But, I'm gonna try to keep an open mind. Who knows maybe i'll get some dates online.