Reduce Approach Anxiety

[Suave]

I am just starting out as well but on the way here I have discovered some stuff that effectively helped me get out there and start approaching. I had one of the worst cases of AA which coupled with my ego made it really hard to go talk to anyone.

Try these and if not totally, you will partially concur it.

1. STOP MASTURBATING:

- Can't emphasize this enough. Masturbation gives you anxiety, lower performance academically and many other aspects of your life.
If you're regular at it (I was!), it will take self control, but it'll start giving you results within days!

I only do it once or twice every 15 days now and I have seen a whole lot of benefits ranging from less anxiety to more concentration in class.

Also, I have noticed this weird thing where I am able to communicate what I feel, my emotions, what I want the other party to feel much more efficiently when I don't do it rather than the days I do! It's kinda craxy, but seems consistent.
2. START MEDITATING:

-Meditation is purely about being able to control your mind and focus it on the important stuff. When you see a girl you like your mind tends not to approach her from the get go!

To get your mind into the moment and be able to take action at that point in time,meditation in the morning has helped me a lot.

It gives you the little "push" you need.

3. STOP THINKING ABOUT IT

-Here's the thing, you should get your opener right. But any thinking about the interaction after that is worthless and will only contribute to your anxiety not to mention, will waste huge chunks of time and well, mental horsepower.
Also, how you finally perform out there will be a product of your mind at that very moment. You can only control it with experience.

That brings us to....

JUST DO IT.

You can't micromanage everything. That's the fun part of seduction, unpredictability!

I never had any bad consequence just because I WENT for it that made me kick myself later and atleast not improve in any way after the kick.

However, when I DIDN'T go for it, I kicked myself, but without any result!

So go do it.

Also as I read in the "below-the-post" area of a fellow member (Can't exactly recall him. I'm sincerely sorry):

'The master has failed more times than the beginner has even tried!'

So again, go do it!

 

[ray_zorse]

Don't forget momentum bro, i.e. treating first few approaches as warmups, and chatting to shopgirls, grandmas etc. And just being aware e.g. feeling tired=I can't do this, want to go home, vs. feeling tired=I've let my momentum slip away, want to approach a hotty and prob fuck it up but get a huge adrenaline boost in the process
cheers, Ray

 

[Suave]

Don't forget momentum bro, i.e. treating first few approaches as warmups, and chatting to shopgirls, grandmas etc. And just being aware e.g. feeling tired=I can't do this, want to go home, vs. feeling tired=I've let my momentum slip away, want to approach a hotty and prob fuck it up but get a huge adrenaline boost in the process
cheers, Ray

Totally agreed! Momentum is extremely important as well. It keeps your balls going. (science joke).

 

[windsofchange]

This is actually solid advice.

A few years ago, I went a good 3 months without masturbating, and replaced it by meditating. Never had I felt more alive and sociable with as much energy as in during those weeks. Interestingly the longer you go without it, the less you want to do it.

I'm going to give it a new shot (and this time hold onto it as part of my journey).

Cheers Suave.

And I'll be sure to remember that science joke. Seems like it'd come in handy sometime.

 

[Zoro]

I swear as I was reading this I had to do a double take to see if I wasn't actually the one who wrote this post. haha

Needless to say I agree with all of these and have done this to success. The times I am most actively approaching are during periods of mediation, abstaining from masturbation and relaxing about the whole ordeal.

Also like the Ray pointed out, social momentum is a central part to my periods of least " approach anxiety."

 

[ray_zorse]

Hey dudes spotted this interesting page the other day. I'm taking the advice to heart, I think it supersedes previous advice I've given or used
http://www.sashapua.com/how-to-defeat-approach-anxiety-forever/
Note my progression has been something like "talk to shop girls, grandmas, guys et cetera to build momentum" -> this is unnecessary, instead -> "approach the first hot girl you see and treat first 3 approaches as practice" -> this is on the right track but don't just do it on Tuesday evenings and every second Sunday -> "approach every hot girl you see and treat them all as practice". In doing the latter I've been trying to not overthink the opener and just use what comes naturally which is often something like "hey what are you up to today?"... surprisingly this doesn't go too badly. With momentum I'll still get more bold in the opener, whereas what I was doing before was forcing myself to open direct when I didn't feel like it (as part of approaching the first hot girl I see) and this didn't always go well.
-Ray