Relationship and Clubbing

[1mag1ne]

Hey guys, recently started dating a girl. She's never been in relationship before, so I'm her first boyfriend. Really like her, the only problem is that she's a bit of a party girl, in fact, she's a part of University's society committee responsible for organizing party events (only for this year). She is a little insecure about herself (due to tough childhood when she didn't look that good) - before a relationship, she admitted that she kissed some guys in clubs (she didn't even like) because she wanted to feel loved. However, when we started dating I found out her priorities in the relationship are loyalty and trust. So she promised that is not going to happen anymore.
I read a post on the website where it says clubbing can sabotage relationships, especially if you have an argument and freeze each other out. I do trust her, though I know that if a girl is in love with her bf and goes to club during an argument, when she's sad and emotionally unstable, there is a very high chance of something undesirable happening there.
Hence the question - how do I convince her to stop clubbing without seeming insecure and not trusting? Usually, it's much easier to find another girl in this case, but I believe that it might be somehow possible to figure it out here, because it's her first time having a boyfriend and she seems to take it seriously..

 

[Sandman]

You can't. You have two options. Either you can accept that she is a party girl along with the infedelity risks it implies or if you do not want to have a party girl as a girlfriend you can tell her calmly that you do not date party girls. It is important that you make sure she understands that it is her choice and you are not forcing her to drop the party life (which may cause resentment). But be prepared to let her go for real.

Something like: Hey honey, I really like you and this is going great but I just don't date party girls, never have, never will. I do not want to force you to stop partying because that's not the kind of guy I am as well. So it is up to you to decide whether you want to be my girlfriend or continue partying. There will be no hard feelings whatever you decide.

 

[Fuck This]

Now I gotta say "University Social committee" is a long f-ing way from going to the Viper Room to do coke in the bathroom and have a quicky in the alley.

Part of university is meeting people and learning to function in social situations as adults. Now I met my former wife in college, and had an exclusive relationship and eventually married her our senior year and stayed married for 20 years. Looking back, It stagnated our growth individually.

You would be doing yourself a disservice to be in an exclusive relationship at this point in your life. She would be doing HERSELF a disservice to be in an exclusive relationship at this point in her life.

You can date this girl without being in a relationship. Especially if you aren't both at the same university. You can be her regular date for functions. But save having a relationship for once you each have embarked on your own careers. you are going to have a better relationship if you both have your careers going in the direction you want.

So let her party....and you can go sample some new strange and appreciate each other's good attributes. Have a regular reunion fuck, and summer romance if you want. But don't hold each other back.

 

[1mag1ne]

Thank you all for answers, was really helpful!
One more thing - she agreeed to lose her virginity with me like 5 days into relationship and I’m not sure what that could be - is it ultimate sign of trust or is she easy?..