Reminding a girl (laid) for her share of payment does it looks cheap? How to do it?

[Will_V]

Ok I will clear up why it made sense to pay money that time.

Also, curious how you guys would have dealt with it.

See we had scheduled date on thurday.

Directly at my roof.

Now she was with her friends, she was egar but her girls just cockbloacked me. ( i will tell later how)

Now friday again she wants to meet.

I again invite her to my rooftop.

Then she says she is with a friend, I should come meet them there and then we will bounce.

It was a 30 min drive for me.

Her reason of meeting me, her friends wanted to make sure I am Ok!

She was a tourist but her friends were local.

So basically she needed their apporoval.

Now, after some back and forth.

She agreed to come near a club in a area close to me.

When I reach there, she, her other 2 friends are standing there.

Now here girls can get free entry in club but guys can't.

So she tells me about the situation.

That I need to pay cover.

I try to reason with bouncer a bit to skip the cover.

I don't over do this cause I will cheap.

This is nice upscale area nothing cheap, no dark alleys etc.

So I simply pay the cover.

Now the things is she says one more friend will come in some time.

Says if I will pay the cover so we don't need to wait outside. She will pay me later.

Pure convinience.

So I do again, don't want to look cheap.

Now we go inside and everyone order drinks and use that cover.

I used 50% and they use 50%.

I remain chill.

Make convos with her friends.

They find me cool.

After 45 mins of chilling drinks and smoke.

They excuse themselve and I leave with my girl to my place.

So no scam.

We have good 2 hours of sex.

(Received most passionate kiss)

Then she needs to attend some fest so her friend pick her up.

We are sweaty from sex.

So she takes my T. Promise to return it.

Now her earring were left by accident or she wanted to meet one more time idk.

(I assume its accident)

But point is it most logical decision to pay at that time.

No need to risk the lay, by looking cheap.

Well here's the way I see it: decide whether or not you're going to pay the money, but don't think about getting it back. Maybe she would have made a fuss and disappeared if you'd said no, maybe you would've worked something else out together. Who knows. But anyway you had a fun time and it cost what $30?

Something I've learned about women is that they hate negotiators. They do not like making deals of any kind whatsoever with men, whether those deals have anything to do with sex or not (and especially if sex is already part of the relationship or on the table). Every time I've lent something to a woman or said something along the lines of "I'll do X if you do Y", whether she was my girlfriend or not, it has caused me nothing but trouble. I can feel the chemistry dissipate between us and friction and resistance develop in her behavior toward me. She essentially becomes profoundly irritated by the whole thing.

On the other hand, I can make my desires clear, take what she's willing to give me, or give things freely to her. None of these things cause any problems in themselves.

Why is this? Women don't want to feel like equals. They do not want to feel responsible for anything. They want a man to simply make it clear what he wants so she can decide if she feels like giving it, or for him to give her things simply because he feels like doing so. Both of these things maintain her perception of dominance in the man, that he is always fully in control of his reality. But when he negotiates and barters with her, it makes her realize that he's not everything her pussy wants her to think that he is, he's not all-capable. He's not capable of simply exacting everything he wants from the world, he has to wheel and deal.

That's why my philosophy with women is: take and give, but don't make deals. I take her pussy and her adoration, and I give her things like my time, my attention, orgasms, perhaps some amount of material things, not because I owe them to her but because I enjoy giving them to her the same way I enjoy giving the thrust of my cock. And I never expect anything in return (though I may indicate what might make me happy), I only want what she wants to give me.

That's female nature for you. It's hardwired into her, it modulates her emotions and her emotions control her behavior, so you can't rationalize your way out of it. So you just have to accept it as it is.

 

[empath]

Perfect.

My conclusion is to forget about my stuff.

And remeber good time we spent.

For going forwards, if money is involved I will make up my mind beforehand.

Lesson is these kind of situtations are something to prevent beforehand only.