Resurrecting Ghosting After Multiple Dates

[maskedmaskless]

Hi all - relatively new to this and have been mostly using the apps. After meeting up with a lot of girls I had no interest in, I finally went out with one girl who I really clicked with, but I have not heard from in 2 weeks. Is it worth it trying to resurrect a ghosting now or just wait?

Monday - 1st date... go to multiple bars. She says she has a great time and wants to know what I'm doing that weekend. I kiss her outside the bar in what felt like a super romantic scene in the rain. She texts me within a minute or two saying she had a great time and wanted to see me again.
Friday - 2nd date... again go to multiple bars / restaurants. I invite her over for a drink, and she says sure. On the way, she asks me to go see a park nearby that I mentioned, so we stop there. In the park, I kissed her and she seems receptive. I say ready to go, and she says it's too late now, so she has to go to get up early for something she told me about at 7:30. I told her I had a good time and want to see her again. I told her I'd text her, and she said said we'd be in touch. About an hour later, I get a message saying she had a nice night and thanks for the drink.
Saturday - message her asking how her day (and how that activity went in the morning). She responded and asked me what I was doing that night. I responded, and asked her what about herself... I have not heard from her since.

I can't tell if she was just being polite or met someone. Is it worth messaging again at some point? I can't tell if she lost interest, my texting was terrible, or she wanted me to double text her to ask her out... It was the day before Valentine's Day, so I felt super uncertain on the timelines and if she was trying to move fast or slow.

Is it possible to resurrect ghosting after going out? I'm feeling much more confident in a lot of ways, but I still can't shake this.

 

[POB]

Saturday - message her asking how her day (and how that activity went in the morning). She responded and asked me what I was doing that night. I responded, and asked her what about herself... I have not heard from her since.

This is clearly a booty call!!!
You guys went on two dates without sex, then she asks what you up to at night!!!
She clearly wanted you to take charge, move things forward and invite her over
(or come to hers) to seduce and put pipi in vagina.

BTW, valentine's is crap....I don't know why guys want to take women out on romantic dates at this time of the year.
(in fact, I don't know why guys want to take women out on romantic dates ever, but I digress).
I would rather stay home jerking off to Baywatch re-runs, for real.

If you don't have a serious main, valentines should be treated exclusively as botty call season:
Want sex? I'm on.
Want a boyfriend? Fuck off and make way for the next one.

 

[maskedmaskless]

This is clearly a booty call!!!
You guys went on two dates without sex, then she asks what you up to at night!!!
She clearly wanted you to take charge, move things forward and invite her over
(or come to hers) to seduce and put pipi in vagina.

BTW, valentine's is crap....I don't know why guys want to take women out on romantic dates at this time of the year.
(in fact, I don't know why guys want to take women out on romantic dates ever, but I digress).
I would rather stay home jerking off to Baywatch re-runs, for real.

If you don't have a serious main, valentines should be treated exclusively as botty call season:
Want sex? I'm on.
Want a boyfriend? Fuck off and make way for the next one.

Damn you think? I messaged around 4, she responded at 7, and at 10 I said I was watching a movie which I thought was a natural talking point. We never defined what we were looking for other than being way too young to think about marriage. Is this something I can still bounce back from ya think?

 

[Alpha13SC]

Damn you think? I messaged around 4, she responded at 7, and at 10 I said I was watching a movie which I thought was a natural talking point. We never defined what we were looking for other than being way too young to think about marriage. Is this something I can still bounce back from ya think?

Why would you think about marriage? Does your culture forbids sex before it?

 

[maskedmaskless]

No it was making fun of people who got married young

 

[Alpha13SC]

Ah, my bad, read that wrong. That was a missed escalation window and now who knows what s going through her mind regarding that late response. You can try hit her again, but next date should end up at one s home somehow.

 

[maskedmaskless]

Hmm is it too late? I’m just trying to figure out when and what to say. We left shortly after but then the park detour kinda threw it off. Not sure if she threw out the idea since she got cold feet.
and the text she sent was at 7PM

 

[POB]

Damn you think?

For sure!

I messaged around 4, she responded at 7, and at 10 I said I was watching a movie which I thought was a natural talking point.

Shit, you inadvertedly blew her off! (too much time to reply + bland texting = dry pussy)

When she responded at 7, you should've said right away:
"Hey X, I'm kinda busy watching Sex in the City...damn, Samantha is such a naughty cougar...would love to get her spanking my sorry ass (fire emoji).
Hahahaha, you silly
Nah, Just kidding, I'm not doing anything special right now...but soon I'm gonna be hungry and grab a bite.
You should join me, is gonna be fun!"

When she asks you where, suggest your home using plausible deniability first:

"There's this place called XXX who has an amazing sushi...but I think they gonna close soon
Or we could go to the market together and figure something out."

We never defined what we were looking for other than being way too young to think about marriage. Is this something I can still bounce back from ya think?

Hard to tell
I would wait one more week and try to reengage cocky funny:

"Hey X, I just thought about you right now!"
Saw a girl walking by the street who looked just like you, including your amazing (insert one distinguished trait from her appereance)
Too bad she was soooo cross eyed that we almost bumped in each other lol"

 

[maskedmaskless]

For sure!

Shit, you inadvertedly blew her off! (too much time to reply + bland texting = dry pussy)

When she responded at 7, you should've said right away:
"Hey X, I'm kinda busy watching Sex in the City...damn, Samantha is such a naughty cougar...would love to get her spanking my sorry ass (fire emoji).
Hahahaha, you silly
Nah, Just kidding, I'm not doing anything special right now...but soon I'm gonna be hungry and grab a bite.
You should join me, is gonna be fun!"

When she asks you where, suggest your home using plausible deniability first:

"There's this place called XXX who has an amazing sushi...but I think they gonna close soon
Or we could go to the market together and figure something out."


Hard to tell
I would wait one more week and try to reengage cocky funny:

"Hey X, I just thought about you right now!"
Saw a girl walking by the street who looked just like you, including your amazing (insert one distinguished trait from her appereance)
Too bad she was soooo cross eyed that we almost bumped in each other lol"

Awesome. Seems like a good call. I’m out of town next week so debating whether to try now or wait two weeks. But then again there are plenty of girls out there - this just stung a bit more than usual.

 

[Skills]

Ideal texting again is to keep a momentum when it comes to the interaction preferably text, all this texting once a week and every 2 weeks totally start killing the momentum...

Calls & Texts - The importance of Momentum when it comes to Texting

First what is momentum: -The strength or force that something has when it is moving. : the strength or force that allows something to continue or to grow stronger or faster as time passes. : the property that a moving object has due to its mass and its motion. Before I make my point i will...

www.skilledseducer.com

 

[POB]

Awesome. Seems like a good call. I’m out of town next week so debating whether to try now or wait two weeks. But then again there are plenty of girls out there - this just stung a bit more than usual.

Damn, @Skills is right about waiting too long, forgot about that part.
Do it now and see how she responds.
Try to set the date for when you return.

And please be more aware of evening's probing from chicks.
If it's past 6pm on Fridays and weekends, always assume it's some kind of booty call so you don't miss the best windows!

 

[Skills]

This is clearly a booty call!!!
You guys went on two dates without sex, then she asks what you up to at night!!!
She clearly wanted you to take charge, move things forward and invite her over
(or come to hers) to seduce and put pipi in vagina.

BTW, valentine's is crap....I don't know why guys want to take women out on romantic dates at this time of the year.
(in fact, I don't know why guys want to take women out on romantic dates ever, but I digress).
I would rather stay home jerking off to Baywatch re-runs, for real.

If you don't have a serious main, valentines should be treated exclusively as botty call season:
Want sex? I'm on.
Want a boyfriend? Fuck off and make way for the next one.

Yeah she basically was soft closing and he didn't take the hint she may interpret as lack of interest an even auto reject... op may miss window of opportunity...he needs to ping...

 

[maskedmaskless]

Welp good points. I probably shouldn't have sent such bad messages that night but nothing to do about that now. Just shot off the text, so now we'll see. Thank y'all for the help.

Also just goes to show... sometimes you feel like you may be trying to move things too fast and don't realize other timelines.

 

[maskedmaskless]

UPDATE: Went for the message and turned down. "I've been thinking about it and don't really see things between us progressing romantically but I really enjoyed getting to know you it's been fun."

I think y'all were 100% right from the phrasing of that. Chalking this up as a lesson on texting but still a minor victory in some ways.

 

[Skills]

UPDATE: Went for the message and turned down. "I've been thinking about it and don't really see things between us progressing romantically but I really enjoyed getting to know you it's been fun."

I think y'all were 100% right from the phrasing of that. Chalking this up as a lesson on texting but still a minor victory in some ways.

my pings are very low effort (less effort the better), eyes emoji is my favorite in this type of situation... all i am looking is to prompt a response, if not response i know she is not interested..... on holidays i ping "happy mothers day" or "happy valentines" or "merry Christmas", curious to see what you pinged???(post the convo even if cringe, just curious).... I suspect that the momentum was lost and you missed your window of opportunity, women have an expiration date,,, (excellent post by chase)

Calls & Texts - How to deal with radio silence and flakiness....

Radio silence and flakiness boils down to, she is not invested enough, she lost investment, she lost interest, she is more invested in someone else.... This could even happen POST SEX..... Cause again as i explain in this other post after 1st time sex you got nothing.... Till you have fucked...

www.skilledseducer.com

 

[maskedmaskless]

Yes. I certainly think it was the expiration date. Especially from the wording around thinking about it, but oh well it’s a lesson. And I basically used Chases suggestions for a ghosting resurrection. Sorry for going MIA, seeing something that reminded me of her, how is she and an invite to catch up and do something fun

 

[POB]

Yeah, momentum was gone.
At least you got an answer.
I would ping her again in 12 months....you never know

 

[Skills]

Yes. I certainly think it was the expiration date. Especially from the wording around thinking about it, but oh well it’s a lesson. And I basically used Chases suggestions for a ghosting resurrection. Sorry for going MIA, seeing something that reminded me of her, how is she and an invite to catch up and do something fun

Again, I dislike a high effort ping, the less wording, less effort, less anything the better.... eyes emoji, field test she responds in, she doesn't respond not in, you can repeat once a month till response, for the next now it would be incongrouent. Saint Patrick day comming up send a saint Patrick day type meme as a ping.... nothing more.. but again keep adding women to roaster this lead for now dead.