Rfjt's Journal / Newbie Challenge..?

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What's up everybody... Little background information

I'm 23, 24 in a month. Lay count isn't that high 6 at the moment. However a good majority of the girls I've been with have come on to me first. I am not used to working hard haha. Recently went on vacation to Europe and mongored a little . A fun little experience. Anyway I've decided it's time to actively try and up my game and bring some more girls back home. Was (stupidly) in a relationship during most of my college/university career which ended up later going nowhere.

I have pretty decent logistics, have my own apartment specifically for being able to bring girls back. Recently re downloaded tinder but haven't started swiping yet. Was active on it in school but had some catfish type deals so kind of warded me off.

Went out on Wednesday night and had some girl grinding on me, although she didn't even ask my name first haha. Also had this one older, maybe 30s) girl give me the sexy eyes and dance in front of me. Don't have much experience leading things so didn't make anything of it, probably could have though.

Was walking through the store earlier today and had a girl look at me then I looked at her but could only hold eye contact for a second. Definitely harder than it sounds, haha. Took at as a good sign they're checking me out though. Bout to go out and hit some bars with a friend in a little bit so will report back after. Hopefully have a LR but we'll see.



Rfjt out!

 

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Started tinder...

Started pretty late at night, maybe 8:30 where I'm at. Sent off a few messages and got some replies back. I was getting ready to head to bed but one of the girls I was messaging unmatched me before I could reply! Oh well, I thought did was kind of cute but I guess I waited too long. It's 10:30 now and didn't want to keep the message game up too long... I guess there's just different kinds of girls.


Still have an un responded message out there to s few a few of them though so we'll see how that goes.


No in person game tonight thought though. Still gotta work on that eye contact level... although I honestly feel like it'd be easier to just say hi and leave it at that. Well see.

 

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Tinder Report

Been tindering - probably not a good idea since this is much easier than going out and approaching in person, haha. Only swiped one night until I hit the max and had 11 matches. Few large ladies, few no responses and actively talking to two - which I have dates scheduled for.

Girl 1
This chicks banter game was almost as good as mine. Asked for her story and she said it was like 50 shades of grey. Non stop sexual banter since then with a few genuine things sprinkled in between. Possible Saturday night date ... or Sunday breakfast date. Went balls to the wall when I asked her out and said that we could get breakfast the next morning Got her number and now texting as well. We'll see what happens with her and if the "69 minutes of 69" was just banter or not haha. If it's only breakfast though I'm not sure how to take things back to my place .. Maybe go in for a kiss at the end? Also going to sit next to her (rather than across) at breakfast. Also.. thoughts on opening with a hug when first meeting?

Girl 2

This ones more reserved and quieter. Going for a coffee date on a Monday... Place closes at 8 o'clock though. She seems cool and possibly my type. Wouldn't mind dating but don't want to get ahead of myself. Haven't given or asked for my number yet. Date was setup through tinder. Probably gonna try and grab a couch seat for a little better closeness. Not sure if will be able to bring back though, although she did say she works nights... but I have to be out the door rather early, so again we'll see.

In Person Encounters

Lots of eye contact from women but idk why I always lock eyes for a second then look away. Need to work on being more comfortable with eye contact. Was furniture shopping today and this cute girl was with her mom shopping. Actually locked eyes with both the mom and daughter. Maybe I was over reading the situation but definitely feel like they wanted me to open. I probably should've - even had the chance to intervene in their conversation but didn't... gotta work on that in person sociality.

 

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Ugh

Both girls ended up flaking. Got around 10 more matches on tinder (seriously swiping not just spamming right). I am just terrible at texting. I need to learn how to go about that. Also thinking maybe I set the dates up with the two too far in advance? I know I've read on someones post that girls seem to flake if the date is too far off. Gotta man up and do some in person approaches soon enough. Getting jelly of everyone else's LRs.