Rob's Road to Railing Ratchets

[Bete Noire]

Hey GC!

I've known about GirlChase for about a year but only recently become invested in having a kick-ass lifestyle!

About me:

I'm 17 years old, currently attending a college in the UK. I've been lucky enough to travel and live in several different countries including the Netherlands and Hungary! Seen as the lifestyle is constantly changing I learned pretty quickly that being a social animal is key. I just didn't know how to become one until GC ^^ I LOVE League of Legends just as much as I love women and hope to strike that balance between Nerd and Socialite <3

Main Goals:

- Become highly socially calibrated and be able to converse engagingly with people from all walks of life

- Be able to approach and engage with sexy ladies and secure dates

- Have sex in abundance!

Ultimately travel the world with hot girls, meeting awesome people as I go and adding value to create long lasting impressions on people.

 

[Bete Noire]

So, realised I had to pick up some extra Chrissy presents and set myself my first goal:

Chat to at least 3 sexy women at the Mall.

I'm living in Budapest for Christmas and realised this would be a great time to start approaching! However I didn't realise how incredibly difficult it is to get out of your own head. AA is CRAZY, here I was thinking - Yo I don't have none of that anxiety stuff - but I quickly realised I was in my own head the whole time.

Luckily I can work through my fears which were:

What If she doesn't speak English? Well, that DOESNT MATTER I can have fun with just miming and make her day anyways.

What if she rejects me in front of people/ thinks I'm weird/crazy? This one I quickly realised is silly, I've been reading the genuine man articles and I should be loving women if they reject me because its a reminder I still have work to do on my fundamentals.

Although I was trying to get over these concerns I still didn't have the pure ballsy-nuts to approach anyone until I saw this cute girl at the bus stop. She was clearly not busy, listening to music and just primed for a chat. She caught my eye, mine to hers and for the first time I committed. I ignored all the excuses, took a deep breath, gave her a cheeky smile and commented on the frown on her face.

'Hey what's the matter (threw on a look of concern with a smile so she knew I was joking)'

She took a second to take out her ear phones and I was like, 'OH FUCK she doesn't understand me/ rejection incoming.

'No no, nothing' with a confused, half smile on her face. I motioned about smiling and she beamed back at me. My mind scrambled for a topic and settled with,

'You waiting for the bus?' The internal monologue was saying, 'Rob you silly fucker, she's at a bus stop, ofc she's waiting for the bus' xD

'Yeah I'm going for a Christmas party!'

'With all your friends?' GOD I WAS SO NERVOUS AND DUMB IT MAKES ME LAUGH TO READ THIS, OFC SHES WITH HER FRIENDS XD

'Yeah' still smiling, I didn't give her anywhere to go with that one.

I saw she had some earphones in one ear and asked about the music.

'Oh no there not on' I mean she's still smiling but I just felt so silly conversation had failed me.

Her bus was coming so I told her it was cool meeting her and got her name - which I've forgot because I was chuffed at chatting to her but knew I had so much to work on!

That concluded my first ever approach! It felt so strange to push myself hard like that, in conversations at college with new people I'm fine, but this 'out-of-the-norm' had me like jelly. Overall i've got loads to work on but i'm incredibly happy I did it! Here's the pointers I've seen, feel free to add to them if you see any I've missed:

IMPROVEMENTS:

- Need to show sexual interest, it's the only way to actually get anywhere with these ladies, I WILL go direct next time ^^

- Slow down Mr. Speedy Gonzales, add pauses, and allow myself time to digest what she's says to ensure I can structure the conversation properly and not sound like a mong

- Instead of shaking her hand at the end (fully autopilot) I should clasp it like chase mentioned in recent article.

POSITIVES

- Approached my first lass which is a good start!

- I don't think I showed too much of the internal monologue outwardly, I smiled, retained good posture and eye contact!

Next time I go out hitting the Christmas market I'll be sure to do this again and hope to take into account these improvements,

Let me know of improvements or ideas to cool the AA in the future if you're reading ^^








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[Bete Noire]

Holy moly! I've just read some more posts and realise that I need to retain the mindsets I have outside of going out to approach when I actually approach. For example:

- There are loads of girls out there, one rejection is totally fine, it shows I have work to do and with true abundance should not matter!

- Women aren't out there to screw guys over, if I genuinely compliment them, they will like it, everyone loves a compliment!

- I need to remember I am high value, I'm still working on fundamentals but I have to adopt the mindset of me being the prize, she's lucky to meet me!

Okay brain, read and learn, don't fail me when I next approach! <3

 

[007]

Bonjour Young Seducer

I am glad You started a journal I decided to follow your journal and hopefully one day we can go approach and learn in tandem... so far You are the nearest to me among anyone I know here from GC + I've been told by everyone that girls from Loghborough are fit as fuck

Keep working on Your mindset(s) and keep approaching as much as You can... and like You said, one rejection is nothing but a reminder that You have to improve and sometimes reminder that about 40% of the interaction is never under Your control (she might be tired, angry, in a hurry, lesbian, socially retarded, hungry, temporarily not looking for a man, etc.)... So go on and master that 60%.. and master Your fundamentals! And start meditating

Hope to hear from You soon!

007

 

[Bete Noire]

Bonjour 'Old' Seducer

Yeah I didn't even realise there were many people at all to be working on themselves and their game, but to hear of one so close is awesome! Ahah the girls at the Uni are just *bites knuckle*! A sporting college certainly has it's advantages though

I'm continuously reading stuff on GC to ensure I keep that mindset in check and I'm loving the further open-mindedness it creates! As for meditating, it's awesome - that linked 'no BS' guide video was great, I feel so much more relaxed after a meditation sesh

Totally on a tangent - used to listen to this song, never realised the first half is about 'Auto-rejection' ^^ The things we learn

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FnRqc73QyfI - Make sure it's never too late for love

 

[Bete Noire]

Happy New Years Fellas!

Looking forward to the coming year and developing my seduction skills further! The fog is finally clearing and I am starting to see my mistakes and successes in my interactions with lasses. Currently workin' on a cheeky field report but it is looonngg, want it to be fun and easy to read so will break it down over the next week.

The summary of the report though is that I had a crackin' New Years party! Tried out some social butterflying on a whole host of people I didn't know and had a great time, not to mention ended up in bed with a sexy lass. However, and this is the big one. I DIDN'T FUCK HER! Oh my days, pullin' the trigger is my bane and so I dedicate 2016 to the year of the lubricated cannon in hopes that by 2017 - I'll have had some great lays and it wont matter anymore!

Throughout the New Years interactions I learnt and noticed in the moment the importance of three components of seduction: Chase framing, Shit tests and Touch! With interactions such as this:

'I have only ever been with older guys'

'Well there's always time to try something new' *Sexy smile*

and,

'You enjoying the party so far?'

*Wrap arm around her waist (see her go full doe eyed) and give her the slow half smile whilst pulling her in*

'I certainly am!'

It just feels so Gucci to know why they use them and to be able to combat it properly when they do, so thanks to every single one of you helping me on my journey so far if you're reading ^^

To ensure I achieve my 'Sex in abundance' goal, I have to be able to pull that trigger though. If it helps for you guys to give me feedback, my main concerns are ruining the bubble of confidence that I create and ensuring that I escalate in a calibrated way.

Going back to College tomorrow and ofc, seduction material is blocked on their wifi -.- Will try to 'borrow' some 3G to keep journal updated.

Make sure you all have a fantastic new year!

Robster

 

[007]

Hey Robmanowsy!

Happy late New Year

It seems like I was reading my story haha.. I ended up in bed with a girl for NY (woke up with 2 actually hah ) but did not pull the trigger.. :/

Is there any specific factor that kept You from executing? Performance anxiety? Tiredness? LMR?

Let us know, this way it's easier to provide help

In case if it was Performance Anxiety.... I have a history of it and it's probably the main reason that kept me from fucking last two gals that were in my bed (although I blame it on emotional instability after breakup and tiredness as well) one before Christmas and the one on the NY.

So.. I first experienced it with my now EX girlfriend. When I first came to her to have sex I was far from inexperienced. I actually just had my last session with my FWB only 2 days prior to that. We were on her bed, kissing, touching.. you know, escalating haha

Looked down at my dick when we were fully naked and it was like a fucking scared snail in his shell. The more I thought about it the worse it got... fortunately I was sane enough to tell her to give me a BJ and she sucked me off and then I got her off.

After 2 consecutive episodes like this I decided that I need to actually fuck her and for some reason that just kinda helped and my dick was hard as the snail's shell now haha

From that it happened on 5! more occasions with different girls and I was really embarrassed, so every time that I'm in a position that I can have sex something triggers in me and I become nervous... Is that what happened to you?

For me it was so strong (the nervousness) with the last 2 girls that I refused (in my head) to have sex... and I don't really think this helped.

I think one should push trough this barriers and condition himself to fucking no matter what. I think that many seducers on the forum said that as well..

So yeah.. I think quitting porn definitely helps and reversing this psychological hold-back is essential. I miss those days when I got hard just by undressing the woman. Now it's the opposite. I get hard fast, early and then slowly limp.. as if I were scared.

You might check the article on Performance Anxiety by Chase on the site if You haven't yet. I certainly did and it helped. A lot.


As for the little snippets of interactions that You posted: they look smooth.. go for more of that. Get comfortable with touch and slay them ratchets fam!


Also, You can use proxies such as hidemyass.com or just google it or even better ask some nerd friends how to overcome the blockade for the wi-fi. I bet it's a no brainier for them. THy probably watch porn on the toilets haha (hope not).


I wish You a year full of filled vaginas and a dozen of beautiful lasses

Peace and Love,
007

 

[Bete Noire]

Ciao 007!

ahah! I was going to post exactly the same thing on your journal but you were two posts ahead by the time i read it!

As for the lack of execution, i want to say tiredness, but really it was a different kind of performance anxiety - i haven't had that much make-out experience and seen as that's what initiates the whole dance, i fear that i will lose that 'alpha' vibe going on - she kept pulling up how i was super-confident and how i 'had to sleep in her bed because the other guy went to her college'. It was like a great big red sign saying, 'FUCK ME PLEASE!' but i guess it's breaking out of the comfort zone and just chilling with the lack of experience. I think that might be the killer, breaking out of that comfort zone, gaining the initial experience.

I dont think porn has been too much of a problem for me, i'll probably quit more for fun than anything else as its bound to increase that sex drive to a whoooollee new level

Yeah proxies are 'bae' out here in this Azakaban! Only kiddin', this place is exactly where i want to be to get the future im hoping for minus the abundance of women till university!

I too wish you a fantastic year filled with sexy gals and tasty cocktails - shaken not stirred!

Wayy more inner thinking this post - ill keep the next one a bit lighter!

Cheers for the advice, in gratitude as always ^^

- Rob

 

[Bete Noire]

Finally out of my college for a bit, time to try out some of GC's advice! Went out into Nottingham last night and chatted up a group of ladies heading out on the town at the bus stop - hit off conversation and they hooked soooo quickly due to me having stories about living abroad. Waiting for them to ask you questions before I give value has sky rocketed my interactions! I find that women now get genuinely interested as they find more and more out, layer by layer! I had a bunch of fun, mates grabbed their number and we met up with them later briefly. During the interaction i got several 'prove yourself' due to saying i live in Budapest and i forgot how to deal with it, i kind of batted her down but i need to learn to not live up to her frame in the future. I also didn't make it sexual at all. My belief is that with group mechanics your a fun guy and then you isolate the one you fancy later - i don't know if that's a good strat?

Three things learnt from outing:

- Don't prove myself and read Chases article on it!

- Conversation more on them, Law of Least Effort!

- Creating a sexual vibe!

 

[Bete Noire]

Back on the case - lovin' it,

- Don't buy drinks for randos

- Sort out polarisation and my ego - my post on that triggered feminazi killed me </3

- Sexual vibe againnnnn lol! I genuinely don't know what makes girls attracted besides fundamentals, I lead conversations but I don't ever get to the point of built tension to be released by make-outs!

 

[Bete Noire]

Fuck, okay it's dawned on me! I'm still tipsy so will review in the morning buttttt

I need to include to friends OR totally ignore them - no half measures!

If they are being helpful and chill, include them - if they are sticking their middies up - DONT!

ahha kkr it's been fucking me so much.

Secondly:

I'm an ass hole - I am unapologetic, say what comes to my head and don't give a fuck. But I'm not naturally fit enough yet to make it work. Got to tone it down.

I've pissed off two girls out of the 20-30 interactions I've had by calling one of them from Germany a Nazi whoops! and tonight's bird.

I wont swing all the way back - but the extreme shit I got to tone back - it's probably weird. Maybe. I accept who I am but I don't get enough pussy yet so must change

- IF you read this, ty, my tipsy ramblings will help me decipher this shit in the morning.

I want to get so good so fast. But that mindset is in itself a slow and insidious killer (+5 if you get that reference).

I can approach or facilitate approaches of girls I fancy, just not the next bit - time to up the ante mo'fuckasss

 

[Bete Noire]

New rule! Close hard and close quick (whilst being as calibrated as possible )!

I actually had a girl back at my place but after 3 hours of off and on sexual tensions, short make-outs, she didn't want to cheat on the ol' b-friend so I got tired and went to bed lmao! Seducing an on the fence chick was so fun but so tiring!

Absolutely love this site for what it has given and is givin' my sorry ass! I feel I now 'get it'. You use the advice that works for you and ditch the stuff that doesn't, which can be tricky to grasp when learning a new skill!

New improvements to be made:

Close fast and quick - girls are tiring my ass out!

Blueprint better - on analyzing the convo's we had, she wanted me to tell her she wasn't just another girl but something special, that I wasn't just making her boyfriend jealous and I don't yet know how to do this without being a lil' beta pussy.

Cheeky bit of work on my conversation skills - need more humor, less deep diving for my crowd. I attract 20+ women but don't do so well with the fellow 18-19 year ol' lasses