Hi everyone, I'm very new to all this so I am looking for some insights and help.
I recently met a girl from the outer rings of my social circle. We had a great conversation, but other things got in the way and I didn't get her number or anything when we first met. Then the next time we were around each other I didn't really talk to her because it was a big party and we just never crossed paths. After that she seemed to go cold on me, but I went up and started a conversation with her again. She blushed and seemed to be kind of nervous talking to me. This other time I also started talking to her and she backed up and kind of tripped over a friend, so I think she was nervous.
Anyway, I moved out of that area into a different building. Knowing I wouldn't see her again I contacted her on Facebook and got her number. We went out Friday. I'm new so I didn't move very fast and I think she is slotting me in the boyfriend category, so I figured we would just end that date and I would do Chase's idea of date compression. Well I was about to drop her off and she said that "so and so is having a party we could drop by". Now I didn't want to go to the party with her, but since I felt like I was kind of pulling her back from auto-rejection, I agreed. The party went alright, though we didn't get to talk much. Afterward I dropped her off and she said she would probably have to come to my church's congretation because she had to work during her church's meeting time and "maybe I'll see you there". I said yeah maybe and went home. I was afraid she was going to auto reject because I am always too aloof, so I sent her a text saying again that I had a good time. She texted back saying she had a good time to and that I would have to let her hear me play the guitar sometime. I said ok, but first you have to show me your piano skills (she told me she's just learning). She responded that she has no skills to show me and I responded that it's not a big deal, she's working on them. She didn't respond after that, it was getting late.
I didn't contact her all day Saturday and Sunday morning I sent her a quick text telling her to come sit by me if she did end up coming to my church. She didn't respond until well after the meetings were out. Her text seemed kind of stale, she just said she thinks she went to a different congregation (several meet in the same building and she didn't know which one I was in) and didn't see me. I responded sending a similarly neutral text saying I didn't see her either.
So I am just wondering you guys' thoughts on where she is at. Does this sound like auto rejection? Why does she not seem interested when she does in person? I send girls into auto-rejection a lot and I can't tell if I've been too aloof again or if she is just not that interested. She gives me strong interest in person, but over text she's very brief and seems uninterested. For now I figure I'll just wait a couple days and take her out again. Thanks for your thought!
I recently met a girl from the outer rings of my social circle. We had a great conversation, but other things got in the way and I didn't get her number or anything when we first met. Then the next time we were around each other I didn't really talk to her because it was a big party and we just never crossed paths. After that she seemed to go cold on me, but I went up and started a conversation with her again. She blushed and seemed to be kind of nervous talking to me. This other time I also started talking to her and she backed up and kind of tripped over a friend, so I think she was nervous.
Anyway, I moved out of that area into a different building. Knowing I wouldn't see her again I contacted her on Facebook and got her number. We went out Friday. I'm new so I didn't move very fast and I think she is slotting me in the boyfriend category, so I figured we would just end that date and I would do Chase's idea of date compression. Well I was about to drop her off and she said that "so and so is having a party we could drop by". Now I didn't want to go to the party with her, but since I felt like I was kind of pulling her back from auto-rejection, I agreed. The party went alright, though we didn't get to talk much. Afterward I dropped her off and she said she would probably have to come to my church's congretation because she had to work during her church's meeting time and "maybe I'll see you there". I said yeah maybe and went home. I was afraid she was going to auto reject because I am always too aloof, so I sent her a text saying again that I had a good time. She texted back saying she had a good time to and that I would have to let her hear me play the guitar sometime. I said ok, but first you have to show me your piano skills (she told me she's just learning). She responded that she has no skills to show me and I responded that it's not a big deal, she's working on them. She didn't respond after that, it was getting late.
I didn't contact her all day Saturday and Sunday morning I sent her a quick text telling her to come sit by me if she did end up coming to my church. She didn't respond until well after the meetings were out. Her text seemed kind of stale, she just said she thinks she went to a different congregation (several meet in the same building and she didn't know which one I was in) and didn't see me. I responded sending a similarly neutral text saying I didn't see her either.
So I am just wondering you guys' thoughts on where she is at. Does this sound like auto rejection? Why does she not seem interested when she does in person? I send girls into auto-rejection a lot and I can't tell if I've been too aloof again or if she is just not that interested. She gives me strong interest in person, but over text she's very brief and seems uninterested. For now I figure I'll just wait a couple days and take her out again. Thanks for your thought!
