Hello all!
This isn't something you've never read before, but my head has turned almost inside out, and logic seems to have deserted me, so all advice is welcomed! I've been dating my girlfriend now for around 6 months. She seemed to tick all the boxes throughout the screening process, and for the first 3 months, I thought I'd found the needle in the haystack..things were good..too good! Then one day something happened in her life that I should have been prepared for: she underwent a mass amount of stress with her career, and her family life hit a few bumps. Safe to say, she got extremely down, and her communication skills went out the window. I've tried to be the rock in her life since then, and she has thanked me in all the ways a decent women should. Until this past month. Now she acts distant, she doesn't reply to my messages, she makes lame excuses up (like her phone is on the fritz) and she's trying to start drama where none exists. Now I'm no newbie to this, I've seen it before I know these signs are a scream for attention. She recently flaked on a weekend getaway we had planned 3 hours before we were to leave to spend a week and a half with one of her friends; and of course, I put my foot down and explained how it was disrespectful! She turned to me and said 'are you cross with me because you've done something, like cheated?' (Which of course immediately rang those warning bells). To date, she wont communicate with me, ignoring my attempts, and ignoring my attempts to talk about this even more! Last night she flaked on another weekend we had planned in, and she stated she's going away for a week or two and doesn't have time to see me fully before she leaves in six days...I won't deny the fact I have strong feelings for her, I wont deny the fact I honestly don't want to lose someone I once thought the world of..but I need an outside source of help. She's undergone a lot of stress and pain recently, she's lost a lot of weight (sexy size 8-10, to a size 4 in 2 months), her new eating habits annoy me to no end! The guilt trip is fully on course, and I feel I need a bit of support to undergo the next step: Force a conversation between the two of us to either redeem it, or end it. The latter is a sad reality I am not fond on facing.
Thanks for reading my post, I know these things can get quite linear on here, and I'm sure you're all familiar with the support I seek!
Hudson.
This isn't something you've never read before, but my head has turned almost inside out, and logic seems to have deserted me, so all advice is welcomed! I've been dating my girlfriend now for around 6 months. She seemed to tick all the boxes throughout the screening process, and for the first 3 months, I thought I'd found the needle in the haystack..things were good..too good! Then one day something happened in her life that I should have been prepared for: she underwent a mass amount of stress with her career, and her family life hit a few bumps. Safe to say, she got extremely down, and her communication skills went out the window. I've tried to be the rock in her life since then, and she has thanked me in all the ways a decent women should. Until this past month. Now she acts distant, she doesn't reply to my messages, she makes lame excuses up (like her phone is on the fritz) and she's trying to start drama where none exists. Now I'm no newbie to this, I've seen it before I know these signs are a scream for attention. She recently flaked on a weekend getaway we had planned 3 hours before we were to leave to spend a week and a half with one of her friends; and of course, I put my foot down and explained how it was disrespectful! She turned to me and said 'are you cross with me because you've done something, like cheated?' (Which of course immediately rang those warning bells). To date, she wont communicate with me, ignoring my attempts, and ignoring my attempts to talk about this even more! Last night she flaked on another weekend we had planned in, and she stated she's going away for a week or two and doesn't have time to see me fully before she leaves in six days...I won't deny the fact I have strong feelings for her, I wont deny the fact I honestly don't want to lose someone I once thought the world of..but I need an outside source of help. She's undergone a lot of stress and pain recently, she's lost a lot of weight (sexy size 8-10, to a size 4 in 2 months), her new eating habits annoy me to no end! The guilt trip is fully on course, and I feel I need a bit of support to undergo the next step: Force a conversation between the two of us to either redeem it, or end it. The latter is a sad reality I am not fond on facing.
Thanks for reading my post, I know these things can get quite linear on here, and I'm sure you're all familiar with the support I seek!
Hudson.
I wouldn't recommend hard NEXTing her just yet since you do seem to care about her, however ignoring a few of her texts and letting her chase a bit couldn't hurt right? 