Said I love you to a girl but I'm not ready for a relationship

[Rico]

So I told a girl I love you a couple weeks ago. It's only a simple love you but I think she thinks I'm looking for a relationship which I'm not we still need to get to no each other if any relationship were to happen. I'm just looking to have a good time with her. It's wierd I like hanging out with her but I'm not looking for a relationship right now. I got out of two bad relationships back to back. I'm in a awkward place think I'm losing the girl which is no big deal theirs more girls out their but really like hanging out with her.

She might think I'm lying about what I said but I did feel it and told her. What should I do to show her that I like hanging out with her with out putting presure on her that I'm looking for a relationship.

 

[Rico]

I forgot to add that I said thru text first since we weren't talking only texting. It was real. I felt it the last time we saw each other before I overreacted to her silence of me canceling a date. But I felt it and was at the wrong place to tell her a fast food restaurant. It's kinda funny

 

[Rico]

Have you had sex with this girl yet? You told her you love her over text??

First off, there's a very real chance you don't actually "love" this girl. Might just be your One itis, but that's besides the point.

Most likely, there was a powershift, since you said those words, she's more grounded in the rship(the more valued member).

You don't display your feelings like that unless this girl really deserves it AND you have already fucked her and known her for awhile. If this isn't you then you came across as weak.


Also, you love this girl but you don't want a rship? That is very contradicting.

What should I do to show her that I like hanging out with her with out putting presure on her that I'm looking for a relationship.

Next time you see her, tell her you don't know what you were thinking, and that you didn't mean it and it was silly of you. Then tell her you're not looking for a rship atm.

Slay

Yes we did have sex and I felt it the day before she said She couldn't continue just felt like letting her no since it was bothering me that I didn't tell her in person. It's no big deal if I lose her just never said it thru text. We meet up a couple of weeks ago but I still think she thinks I'm looking for a relationship but I'm not I still have to no her better. Luckily I'm talking to other girls but just like her personality

 

[Rico]

Also, you love this girl but you don't want a rship? That is very contradictory
Slay

I don't want a relationship because it's too soon it was only the first I love you that I was going to say. She still hadn't told me so I was going to be first

 

[Rico]

I meant to saw I felt it tha last day I saw her when we were good. So we got into a little argument over text and she said she couldn't continue. So I felt like Letting her no but first I tried to see if we can meet before saying it thru text