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Main question: How do you guys know "where you are" in set with a woman? Attraction, comfort, etc.
I did ten approaches on the street today. Following Chase's book I established three goals. They were:
1. 10 approaches - Mission Accomplished
2. One solid phone number that would lead to a day two - Fail. I didn't ask a single girl for her number. There was only one that I should have in retrospect. However, she didn't meet my ten minutes requirement.
3. One mutual hand hold with interlaced fingers - Fail.
My most productive set was one instant-date. The chick was in town for only today before flying home.
Opener:
The Stop:
Teasing: *Here I was monitoring myself, trying to avoid anything silly/over the top, per Marty and Chase's advice*
I deep dive for a while, then move her. At first as we start to move, she makes a face like "wtf" but quickly says "sure." As we're walking and talking, I finally understand that she lives in another state and is leaving on a flight tonight. She had said that earlier but it didn't "click." She says multiple times:
Her: I'm sorry for wasting your time!
I respond with, "hey it was still cool meeting you." I walk and chat with her a bit more, then decide to bail. She was the fourth girl that I approached today. As I say goodbye, she reaches out her hand. Instead I say:
Me: Hug it out, bro *I throw my arms out wide*
Her: Haha okay *puts her head on my shoulder*
Looking back, I should have tried to push it to the limit, just to see what would happen, plus to update you guys. It was just like another experience way back when I had a four hour instant date with another girl. The thing is, you guys, I've noticed that I don't know where I am with a woman. I just don't know. Instead, I go by time and assumptions.The assumption is that things will work out if I spend more time in set. This now seems stupid. I'm now nixing my 10 minute date suggestion rule. Instead it'll now be persist twice and then suggest meeting up later.
Two Biggest Question On My Mind:
Why is it that no matter what time I go out, a girl has such pressing things to do/friends to meet?
Why is it that women in general have a habit of walking slightly ahead of me when we walk and talk?
Future Plans:
Sticking with these three outing goals again.
I did ten approaches on the street today. Following Chase's book I established three goals. They were:
1. 10 approaches - Mission Accomplished
2. One solid phone number that would lead to a day two - Fail. I didn't ask a single girl for her number. There was only one that I should have in retrospect. However, she didn't meet my ten minutes requirement.
3. One mutual hand hold with interlaced fingers - Fail.
My most productive set was one instant-date. The chick was in town for only today before flying home.
Opener:
Me: *Open her from the side as we continue to walk and talk* Take a lot of pictures yet?
Her: Haha, not yet
Me: Don't worry, you'll get there. Watch out for all these people though.
Her: Yeah, there are so many of them! I should have come out early in the morning to do it. That way the shots would come out better.
Me: Yeah, right now you'll probably get a load of photo-bombers
The Stop:
Me: Hey, are you...Polish or Ukrainian?
Her: No,no...you'd never guess...
Me: Oh, well then I'd say...American!
Her: Haha, you've got it. I am American
Me: So what are you actually?
Her: Blah blah blah
Me: You seem very sweet and personable, let's chat
Her: Okay
Teasing: *Here I was monitoring myself, trying to avoid anything silly/over the top, per Marty and Chase's advice*
Me: Do you brush three times a day? You have very white teeth *she also had some DSL, if you know what I mean*
Her: Thanks, every day! You have very white teeth too *Damn straight, been working on that for a few weeks. SPARKLE!*
Me: Thanks, I cheated though - whitening strips
Her: Haha, no, I didn't I just brush
Me: Good, good...do you floss? *cheeky smile*
Her: Uh-huh
Me: Every day?
Her: Wellllll maybe 2 to three times a week *cheeky smile*
Me: B.s.! I don't believe you!!
Her: Hahaha, I do I promise!
[later, I catch her staring at some woman's shoes]
Me: Were you just checking her out?
Her: No, I just saw something green on her shoes
Me: You were totally staring at her butt a second ago
Her: What, no???
Me: Hey no judgement. Are you a lesbian?
Her: No, no, I'm straight
Me: Oh good. Here I was flirting with you and for a second...I thought you were playing on the other team *okay, so I got silly. Shoot me*
Her: *blank look, mouth slightly agape*
Me: So what were we talking about?
Her: Uhhh....I don't remember?
Me: Blah blah blah
I deep dive for a while, then move her. At first as we start to move, she makes a face like "wtf" but quickly says "sure." As we're walking and talking, I finally understand that she lives in another state and is leaving on a flight tonight. She had said that earlier but it didn't "click." She says multiple times:
Her: I'm sorry for wasting your time!
I respond with, "hey it was still cool meeting you." I walk and chat with her a bit more, then decide to bail. She was the fourth girl that I approached today. As I say goodbye, she reaches out her hand. Instead I say:
Me: Hug it out, bro *I throw my arms out wide*
Her: Haha okay *puts her head on my shoulder*
Looking back, I should have tried to push it to the limit, just to see what would happen, plus to update you guys. It was just like another experience way back when I had a four hour instant date with another girl. The thing is, you guys, I've noticed that I don't know where I am with a woman. I just don't know. Instead, I go by time and assumptions.The assumption is that things will work out if I spend more time in set. This now seems stupid. I'm now nixing my 10 minute date suggestion rule. Instead it'll now be persist twice and then suggest meeting up later.
Two Biggest Question On My Mind:
Why is it that no matter what time I go out, a girl has such pressing things to do/friends to meet?
Why is it that women in general have a habit of walking slightly ahead of me when we walk and talk?
Future Plans:
Sticking with these three outing goals again.