What's up guys. I recently did something that I would have never done if it wasn't for this site and getting towards abundance mentality and non-neediness.
I'm not sure where this should go but I'm posting it here.
So i was supposed to hang out with this girl 9 PM this past Tuesday. She texted me that day and asked If I would be free to hang out at this time. We haven't seen each other in a few weeks. I told her it was cool and looking forward to seeing her. Keep it really simple guys!
Now, this girl has been known for being late in the past, so I knew 9 PM didn't mean exactly 9PM. So I was already prepared to give her some leeway. Anyways, this girl texts me at 9PM on the dot and says she will be at my place in a little bit. Now, in my mind, I'm thinking 20 mins or so. Either way, she texts me about 25 mins later and says this is awkward (in the sense that she is being late) but she is still at the bar with her friends finishing her drink and still needs to say bye to them.
Now, a guy that has no boundaries or respect for himself (old me) would play the nice guy routine and tell her it's fine. BUT...
I am no longer that guy.
I told this girl to stay with her friends. Of course she gets all frazzled and says no i want to see you, blah blah blah. She ends up double texting me a few times, asking if she leaves in 5 mins if I will be up and down to hang out. At this point, its about 9:45 PM.
and then I drop the bomb...
I basically told this girl she was making me feel like a second option, and just trying to fit me into her schedule. I told her to not make plans with me if she wasn't gonna be able to honor our time together (or something like this, i forgot what exactly i said) and she was wasting my time, and that I wasn't mad, just slightly annoyed.
she sent me a few blocks of text, but the damage was already done. This girl went from being really cool to almost losing all attraction for her.
The point is, I could have STILL hung out with this girl that night, but I chose to set boundaries and let her know that it wasn't cool what she was doing. She wasn't valuing my time, and that to me is disrespectful. I'm not sure if I will see this girl again, I know she likes me and I give her good sex but there are always more girls. ALWAYS.
I'm not sure where this should go but I'm posting it here.
So i was supposed to hang out with this girl 9 PM this past Tuesday. She texted me that day and asked If I would be free to hang out at this time. We haven't seen each other in a few weeks. I told her it was cool and looking forward to seeing her. Keep it really simple guys!
Now, this girl has been known for being late in the past, so I knew 9 PM didn't mean exactly 9PM. So I was already prepared to give her some leeway. Anyways, this girl texts me at 9PM on the dot and says she will be at my place in a little bit. Now, in my mind, I'm thinking 20 mins or so. Either way, she texts me about 25 mins later and says this is awkward (in the sense that she is being late) but she is still at the bar with her friends finishing her drink and still needs to say bye to them.
Now, a guy that has no boundaries or respect for himself (old me) would play the nice guy routine and tell her it's fine. BUT...
I am no longer that guy.
I told this girl to stay with her friends. Of course she gets all frazzled and says no i want to see you, blah blah blah. She ends up double texting me a few times, asking if she leaves in 5 mins if I will be up and down to hang out. At this point, its about 9:45 PM.
and then I drop the bomb...
I basically told this girl she was making me feel like a second option, and just trying to fit me into her schedule. I told her to not make plans with me if she wasn't gonna be able to honor our time together (or something like this, i forgot what exactly i said) and she was wasting my time, and that I wasn't mad, just slightly annoyed.
she sent me a few blocks of text, but the damage was already done. This girl went from being really cool to almost losing all attraction for her.
The point is, I could have STILL hung out with this girl that night, but I chose to set boundaries and let her know that it wasn't cool what she was doing. She wasn't valuing my time, and that to me is disrespectful. I'm not sure if I will see this girl again, I know she likes me and I give her good sex but there are always more girls. ALWAYS.
