Settling Down: A Pipe Dream?

[TomGray]

I know the statistics, half of people who are married end up divorced. And that doesn't count the people who are in unmarried relationships. Now as men studying pick-up, we're training ourselves to have an abundance mentality. But does that mentality shoot ourselves in the foot when we meet someone whom we truly love? That, in the back of our minds, we know that this relationship probably won't last?

Now, I've never had a girlfriend so I'm probably just speaking from naivete, but is it really impossible, when you have abundance and no social constraints, to find someone to spend the rest of your life with? Or are relationships like all things in life, ephemeral and the only thing we can do is let go when it's over?

 

[Franco]

Tom,

is it really impossible, when you have abundance and no social constraints, to find someone to spend the rest of your life with? Or are relationships like all things in life, ephemeral and the only thing we can do is let go when it's over?

It is certainly not impossible. Learning how to pick up women is a skill that can be used however you wish to use it. If you find a girl you want to settle down with and who is willing to do the same, then you can certainly do that if you wish to. What having an abundance mentality does for you is allow you to be able to find a new girl for yourself should you want to, which is why I believe it's so important. You'll be willing to wait for the right girl to come along if you want to settle down, or, if settling down is not your thing, you can choose to live the life of a bachelor and meet new women for the rest of your years. Learning to pick up women gives you the choice of picking how you want to live your personal life.

So to the second part of your question, relationships can continue until "death to us part." If that wasn't the case, you also wouldn't see older couples living together for the rest of their lives. Now, as to whether or not they are truly happy with that situation is a whole other ball game. Remember, people often take the route that is less hassle for them, and it's a lot less hassle for a married couple to stay together if they have other needs to fulfill (take care of children, advance careers, etc). That's not to say some couples aren't happy together for long periods of time, though, but it does seem to become more rare these days because people are beginning to realize monogamy is more of a socialized construct and that polygamy is becoming less and less frowned upon.

Anyway, to summarize, learning to pick up women gives you the option of how you want to live your life, which is something that most men can't do because they don't have an abundance mentality and are incapable of realizing that they can find amazing women just about anywhere.

- Franco

 

[TomGray]

Thank you for the reply and thank you for this:

Anyway, to summarize, learning to pick up women gives you the option of how you want to live your life, which is something that most men can't do because they don't have an abundance mentality and are incapable of realizing that they can find amazing women just about anywhere.

A reminder of the real reason I started learning all of this in the first place.