She cheated on her boyfriend with me.

[Anonymous]

Hi guys, first timer here. I usually don't do forums like this, but what has happened in the last week had got me thinking a lot. I have this group of friends that I often hang out with during the last few years. This group consists of 3 very attractive girls. One of the girls, I'll call her Natalie, she and I are very different in many ways, I do feel attracted to her, but I know its never going anywhere, because of our differences. We do get along very well as friends, we would flirt at times, but harmless all in all. Second girl, Jenny, her and I are not attracted to each other, she goes for different guys, I go for different girls. The reason I hang out with this group is that they are extremely funny people and I like the attention I get from other girls, when they wonder why these attractive girls are always around me.

So on to the third girl, the main reason I am writing this, we'll call her Megan. This girl has a bf for 6 years and I have never tried any move on her. Throughout the years we've been friends, I never showed any sign of interest. I make fun of her a lot, when she starts gossipping with Natalie and Jenny, I would actually walk away and leave the conversation. I believe it is the ignorance I have of her that gets her very attracted to me. She knows some of the girls I have dated in campus and all, I guess all the gossiping have gotten into her heads. Anyways, one day, we had a party (more like a get together), as the night dies, Jenny and her (Megan), decided they want to stay over at mine. Keep in mind that we did have a few drinks, but I can say that we were pretty much sober. The three of us started talking about random things, I gave them massages and stuff. Megan and I started to get "playful", Jenny got uncomfortable and left. So, there's me and Megan, we cuddled, I started rubbing her all over. In mid way, this sense of guilt hit me so hard. In high school, I had 2 gfs that both cheated on me, before college, I was constantly the guy on the other side. And now, I'm becoming that guy? I hesitated, she also did. She also agreed that this felt wrong. We started talking about really deep conversations, she feels really safe around me. She said she have never had sex with any other guys other than her bf, she have cheated on him, but only kisses. They are having problems with their relationship, he started to seem like he doesn't care about her. So, we fell asleep, in the morning I made out with her more, she lets me go wherever I wanted to go. However, she has work and needed to leave. I walked her to the bus stop.

Now I think I am a fucking idiot for not closing out the deal. If its not me, probably some other guys. I don't usually text this girl, only when we're meeting somewhere as a group. I want her so badly right now. She has an incredible body and she never reveals it with her clothes. I don't want to start texting her, because I don't want to show that I am interested and that is why she wanted me in the first place, I think.

So my question is, what do I do now? How should I approach this? I probably don't want her as a gf, cause she is cheating, even though she felt really guilty. But, I also really want her right now. I'll see her soon, with the usual group. Any suggestions? I don't think the rest of the group knows, besides maybe Jenny, cause she left because we got too close. I am thinking maybe slipping a casual "I want you so bad right now" to her ear subtly, straightforward, bold and see how she reacts.

 

[Clout]

Hey dazed,

Firstly with you being cheated on, it sucks I have watched friends go through it. However it was always clear prior to the event things weren't going great. I always see males getting blindsided when they loose their gf's, just because they didn't see it doesn't mean there wasn't something wrong/missing. This is why I always try and find out if they single, then if they happy. If they happy, I don't want to mess with something they value because I want my freedom.

With that girl only ever being with one guy she is probably super curious. You make her feel safe etc thus are the perfect candidate. I would suggest you take a look at the situation and decide what you want more.

If you are tempted you might want to try and find out what she wants. Does she want a new relationship or would she be happy with her freedom? Then figure out the response to each. You might sacrifice your friendship group for one night...is it worth it? You will both see each other date others, will you be cool with that?

If you do decide on it, maybe you should do a casual date like a film at yours. I wouldn't mix alcohol though, purely because I want less ammunition against me if it happens but later it goes bad.

If you decide it's not worth it just act normal with her, if she isn't the same you could just talk to her about it. Be honest, you don't want to fuck up a friendship on a whim. If she single down the line you two will probably hook-up anyway. I have never been in this position but I have had plenty of friends sisters keen and I always ask myself this sort of thing before I act.

 

[Anonymous]

Well thanks for the advice. She has been texting me lately. I'll see how it goes.