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I met this chick on Tinder. She is 26. Before the date we talked for few days. We also talked sex. She said that she is looking for a dominant man, she told me about the toys she has, and what kind of fun she likes.
We went out for a date in a cafe, and a walk afterwards. We kissed few times, hugged and held hands. I also invited her home, but she didn't want to come because her brother (who she lives with) was texting her and expecting her home. I felt like she was very passive and very nervous most of the time when I was escalating.
I invited her home for the second date. We watched some Netflix, talked more, I escalated sexually but she froze every time I tried to escalate. I'm working on my comfort game and attainability, so I didn't want to push it too hard. I would push one step forward, then she would resist, I would step back, talk more, and do it again later. The furthest we went was touching her boobs inside the bra and touching her pussy with her underwear on. She told me that she needs more time, and that she can't relax to it because her last boyfriend kind of tried to rape her. It was during their last encounter when they were breaking up. I guess he believed he was entitled to sex because they were in a relationship, and she didn't want to do it and kind of freaked out. Then she didn't date for a year afterwards. At least this was she told me.
On the third date, at home again, we watched Netflix, and after that I tried to escalate. Once again, she kind of froze again. At this point I kind of lost my patience. I felt like I'm losing my time with her, and I told her that 'It's not gonna work out between us." She said: "If you say so.". When I asked her what she thinks, she said that "I guess you are looking for something different than me." [She mentioned on Tinder that she is looking for a relationship]. After that she said, "I guess I should go." and I let her go.
On one hand, I don't really regret it. She is cute but not attractive at all personality wise. Kind of boring, almost zero creative contribution, and this weird freezing behavior. As I said before, I experiment with comfort and attainability so I did it less aggresively sexually. I tried to be patient, give her more comfort, talk more, etc. I can't really see what I did wrong here. Actually, I'm much more likely to explain to myself that chicks are different, and it's her problem not mine. I banged a chick on first date in a forest after about 1.5 hours of meeting her. I didn't really act that different with her, she was just much more willing to do it.
Do I miss something here? I can't really decode her behavior in any other way other than how I described it. I feel like attraction was there, investment was there, sexual escalation was there, compliance was there. I'm just not sure about comfort, but I don't really know how to comfort her in this type of situation.
We went out for a date in a cafe, and a walk afterwards. We kissed few times, hugged and held hands. I also invited her home, but she didn't want to come because her brother (who she lives with) was texting her and expecting her home. I felt like she was very passive and very nervous most of the time when I was escalating.
I invited her home for the second date. We watched some Netflix, talked more, I escalated sexually but she froze every time I tried to escalate. I'm working on my comfort game and attainability, so I didn't want to push it too hard. I would push one step forward, then she would resist, I would step back, talk more, and do it again later. The furthest we went was touching her boobs inside the bra and touching her pussy with her underwear on. She told me that she needs more time, and that she can't relax to it because her last boyfriend kind of tried to rape her. It was during their last encounter when they were breaking up. I guess he believed he was entitled to sex because they were in a relationship, and she didn't want to do it and kind of freaked out. Then she didn't date for a year afterwards. At least this was she told me.
On the third date, at home again, we watched Netflix, and after that I tried to escalate. Once again, she kind of froze again. At this point I kind of lost my patience. I felt like I'm losing my time with her, and I told her that 'It's not gonna work out between us." She said: "If you say so.". When I asked her what she thinks, she said that "I guess you are looking for something different than me." [She mentioned on Tinder that she is looking for a relationship]. After that she said, "I guess I should go." and I let her go.
On one hand, I don't really regret it. She is cute but not attractive at all personality wise. Kind of boring, almost zero creative contribution, and this weird freezing behavior. As I said before, I experiment with comfort and attainability so I did it less aggresively sexually. I tried to be patient, give her more comfort, talk more, etc. I can't really see what I did wrong here. Actually, I'm much more likely to explain to myself that chicks are different, and it's her problem not mine. I banged a chick on first date in a forest after about 1.5 hours of meeting her. I didn't really act that different with her, she was just much more willing to do it.
Do I miss something here? I can't really decode her behavior in any other way other than how I described it. I feel like attraction was there, investment was there, sexual escalation was there, compliance was there. I'm just not sure about comfort, but I don't really know how to comfort her in this type of situation.
