Hello,
Seeing as this is my first post, I would like to give you some background information for my topic
I go to school with this girl, we share all our classes and we're in the same social circle outside of school (shit's horrible). After being diagnosed with oneitis and being rejected by her, I also fell into the friend zone. It took some time for me to realized what had happened, and I set out on a journey not to fail with women again. I realized that everything I had done earlier, I had done wrong. I realized that with my current strategy would limit and hurt my potential success with future women. So I decided to improve myself, to become a much better person.
Along this period of self realization, I started realizing that my ultimate, future goal, would be to sleep with her and become lovers (she's a good 10). You might think this is cynicism, but I assure you it's not. It's more like an ultimate goal where I can finally prove to myself I can do everything I want to do.
Now, you might think for yourself that I still suffer from oneitis and I'm putting her on a pedestal, but I promise you I don't. After I set out to become a better person and to be better with the ladies, my game has improved. I have gotten over the horrible rejection, I have moved on. She knows I'm back into the dating scene and she knows I meet other women. However, during my phase of improvement and moving on, I learned that I should never give up, and keep figuring out how to get what I want.
The friendship she placed me in after rejecting me, hasn't improved since I started changing. It has actually started being reduced to just formal gestures and conversations, from a cordial to a neutral level. I consider this to be good. However, now that I want to get back together with her, using my newly aquired charm and suave, I came to figure out she has a boyfriend and is currently dating him.
This is where I need your help - I want this girl who is currently in love with her boyfriend to start chasing ME. I could approach her and weazle my way back into her life, only to be friendzoned again, or I could get her to chase me.
What's your take on this? How do I handle this current boyfriend situation?
Seeing as this is my first post, I would like to give you some background information for my topic
I go to school with this girl, we share all our classes and we're in the same social circle outside of school (shit's horrible). After being diagnosed with oneitis and being rejected by her, I also fell into the friend zone. It took some time for me to realized what had happened, and I set out on a journey not to fail with women again. I realized that everything I had done earlier, I had done wrong. I realized that with my current strategy would limit and hurt my potential success with future women. So I decided to improve myself, to become a much better person.
Along this period of self realization, I started realizing that my ultimate, future goal, would be to sleep with her and become lovers (she's a good 10). You might think this is cynicism, but I assure you it's not. It's more like an ultimate goal where I can finally prove to myself I can do everything I want to do.
Now, you might think for yourself that I still suffer from oneitis and I'm putting her on a pedestal, but I promise you I don't. After I set out to become a better person and to be better with the ladies, my game has improved. I have gotten over the horrible rejection, I have moved on. She knows I'm back into the dating scene and she knows I meet other women. However, during my phase of improvement and moving on, I learned that I should never give up, and keep figuring out how to get what I want.
The friendship she placed me in after rejecting me, hasn't improved since I started changing. It has actually started being reduced to just formal gestures and conversations, from a cordial to a neutral level. I consider this to be good. However, now that I want to get back together with her, using my newly aquired charm and suave, I came to figure out she has a boyfriend and is currently dating him.
This is where I need your help - I want this girl who is currently in love with her boyfriend to start chasing ME. I could approach her and weazle my way back into her life, only to be friendzoned again, or I could get her to chase me.
What's your take on this? How do I handle this current boyfriend situation?
