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Space Monkey
space monkey
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I was talking to this girl after class and she showed me the way to the library. I wanted to ask her out but I forgot to. Then, like 5 minutes later, I went into the wrong hallway and bumped into this same girl. It felt like she might have been weirded out by this. Maybe it seemed like I followed her.

Next time I see her, I want to ask her to be my study buddy. Do you think I should acknowledge the weirdness and say something like, "that was so weird how I bumped into you last Thursday."

Or pretend it never happened?
 

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Modern Human
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You're holding a frame where you perceive this event as weird for her because you bumped into her again. You think she might be thinking that you're following her around.

You can acknowledge this weirdness in a strong flirty way by reversing this frame. Get under the mindset that this was weird for you because there's a chance she was following you around!

If you do address it, give her a sly smile and say:

you: hey
girl: hey
you: I have to ask you something
girl: what's that?
you: can you make it less obvious that you're following me around??? :)

something playful like that, you know?
 
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Cro-Magnon Man
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Joking about it is the best way to deal with it. I live in a small community and it happens frequently with friends clients and colleagues. Like going to the grocery store and meeting someone going opposite your pattern, and seeing them on every aisle. Sometimes I'll do a silent High 5 without breaking stride, to acknowledge their presence. Or Say "Marco!" (inferring a Marco Polo Game).

But you want to project that you go where you want to go and whoever else is there is not relevant since you are the master of your destiny. Maybe she was following you? Are you going to embarrass her by pointing that out (when you meant to joke). When you realize the power you have by putting others at ease in your presence it truly is liberating, and a HUGE bost for your confidence.
 
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