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A few months back I started to go for this girl. We got close and went on a "date" (i cant say it was a date nor can i say it wasn't - im still clueless about what that night was). Nevertheless, on the date I got a few hints. She first said "Oh that's how we will look like when we get married" then she made a comment about hooking up with someone in the stairwell that we were passing by. When I asked her who she had hooked up with, she said "I don't know". Sooo at this point I knew i was getting indicators of interest, but I failed to take action and failed to move fast with her.
As time passed, she probably started thinking of me as not courageous enough or thought of me as a good guy. Finally, one day she told me that "You are moving too fast, We should take a break." I had no idea what was going on. We hugged on the first date for goodness sake, that was the slowest start ever (Perhaps this whole moving too fast line was another hint). Anyways, since I'm not very emotional I said "I think you are right. We aren't exactly getting along with each other's style."
Now, this just gets extremely interesting to me. The second I agreed with her on taking a break, she started to defend our relationship and said a few things like "Lets not end it completely. Give me time to think and until then lets be friends." Once again since I'm not very emotional and I don't make friends so easily, I rejected her offer of friendship (May've dodged a friend-zone as well). At this point she got REALLY stressed and started to question if I'm starting to like someone. I told her "That shouldn't matter because we aren't exactly in a relationship". From this point on till present, I haven't invested much in her, I also never start a conversation through any type of medium. We often talked in the halls at the university but never more than a simple hi or hows life. She on the other hand CONTINUOUSLY texted me, so much that I had to put her on a block (She always texted me saying things like sorry, we shouldn't have done that and right after the apology she would ask for help in accounting or whatever). I've never said yes to help her, and I've tried telling her that "It's pretty uncomfortable for me to have people around who I liked at some point. It's better if you ask one your friends for help, I'd appreciate that."
Last week she showed up at university and apologized in person while smiling the whole time (We were well isolated). I accepted her apology but refused to help her with whatever it was she needed help with this time. My decision was absolute since she had told me she started seeing someone, while she was taking time off to think. Once again she started to ask me for help regarding courses since midterms were approaching. I told her I can't help her, and for that I got slapped..........Yeah, that's right I got slapped for rejecting her. Honestly, after the slap I got furious but I held my anger in, and asked her to leave the room.
I don't think she understands that I don't want to be friends with her. At the same time I can have her around as a friend with benefit (If it works out). I sometimes get a feeling that she likes me a bit, or at least more now that she knows she can't have me.
So with all this being said, here's a questions that I need help with,
1. Should I make a sexual move while we try to talk things out? I'm sure she is going to approach me again and ask if we can talk it out or something and the last time there was so much sexual tension in the room. Some might think of it as me getting back at her for slapping me for no real reason, but I really think it's because now that I've been through this hell, I feel like I need something good (sex - she really has nothing else to offer) to balance the bad.
She told me she is seeing someone secretly, I'm not sure if that was a move to make me jealous or not. Either way I didn't really care.
As time passed, she probably started thinking of me as not courageous enough or thought of me as a good guy. Finally, one day she told me that "You are moving too fast, We should take a break." I had no idea what was going on. We hugged on the first date for goodness sake, that was the slowest start ever (Perhaps this whole moving too fast line was another hint). Anyways, since I'm not very emotional I said "I think you are right. We aren't exactly getting along with each other's style."
Now, this just gets extremely interesting to me. The second I agreed with her on taking a break, she started to defend our relationship and said a few things like "Lets not end it completely. Give me time to think and until then lets be friends." Once again since I'm not very emotional and I don't make friends so easily, I rejected her offer of friendship (May've dodged a friend-zone as well). At this point she got REALLY stressed and started to question if I'm starting to like someone. I told her "That shouldn't matter because we aren't exactly in a relationship". From this point on till present, I haven't invested much in her, I also never start a conversation through any type of medium. We often talked in the halls at the university but never more than a simple hi or hows life. She on the other hand CONTINUOUSLY texted me, so much that I had to put her on a block (She always texted me saying things like sorry, we shouldn't have done that and right after the apology she would ask for help in accounting or whatever). I've never said yes to help her, and I've tried telling her that "It's pretty uncomfortable for me to have people around who I liked at some point. It's better if you ask one your friends for help, I'd appreciate that."
Last week she showed up at university and apologized in person while smiling the whole time (We were well isolated). I accepted her apology but refused to help her with whatever it was she needed help with this time. My decision was absolute since she had told me she started seeing someone, while she was taking time off to think. Once again she started to ask me for help regarding courses since midterms were approaching. I told her I can't help her, and for that I got slapped..........Yeah, that's right I got slapped for rejecting her. Honestly, after the slap I got furious but I held my anger in, and asked her to leave the room.
I don't think she understands that I don't want to be friends with her. At the same time I can have her around as a friend with benefit (If it works out). I sometimes get a feeling that she likes me a bit, or at least more now that she knows she can't have me.
So with all this being said, here's a questions that I need help with,
1. Should I make a sexual move while we try to talk things out? I'm sure she is going to approach me again and ask if we can talk it out or something and the last time there was so much sexual tension in the room. Some might think of it as me getting back at her for slapping me for no real reason, but I really think it's because now that I've been through this hell, I feel like I need something good (sex - she really has nothing else to offer) to balance the bad.
She told me she is seeing someone secretly, I'm not sure if that was a move to make me jealous or not. Either way I didn't really care.
