Silence After Texts/Messages

[authenticSelf]

Hi All,

I have this repeated experience:

• I cold-approach a girl at a coffee shop. Great interaction as far as I can tell
• I ask for her number and get it. I make sure I continue the conversation as much as I can
• When I follow up, I get SILENCE! Or she flakes!

This is happened 5-6 times constantly in my approaches lately. I get this amazing energy from her in-person and engagement level is high. Then nothing. Whats going on!?

 

[Fluxcapacitor]

@authenticSelf dude! Sometimes the emotions don't stick, sometimes they give you their number because they find it easier to ghost you than to say no. They might have talked to their friends, said they met a cool guy and they've talked them out of it. There's a lot of things out of our control.

Whats not to clear from your post is if ya set the dates up first or after. I find ya will have a much better response rate and anti flake rate if ya set the date up before you get the number. This is a recommendation on this site and I have field tested it and totally agree that ya get much better results.

If ya not doing it this way already, schedule a date before you get her details!!

 

[authenticSelf]

Hey @Fluxcapacitor , that is a great suggestion! How do I go about setting up a date before the number? I guess I have to find out what she likes and then be in-the-know about similar events going on and invite her before the number close. That means I have to know whats going on hahaha...

Anyways, can you give me links to any articles?

 

[Fluxcapacitor]

@authenticSelf dude!

Don't Just Ask for her Number!

First rule, don't just take numbers!

I think these are the articles that go into it, I'm sure there's more an I haven't double checked but to summarise also answers ya first question.

How to go about setting up the date before the number:

*On a high note in conversation...
Hey you seem very cool/interesting/fun we should hang out sometime!
..You seem very (BLANK) want to go and do/get/grab *drinks/pool/ice cream/coffee/food sometime?

Awesome! I'll get your number/facebook/Instagram/snap chat/whats app...
(whatever you prefer to talk on - always lead with this first. She should comply. If for whatever reason she doesn't like that medium have her suggest another. Feel free to pass up if its something you don't have or don't like. Have a feeling she's 100% sold before you do this, if its only slightly inconvenient it might be better to take it....

Its not a big ask, its not super formal, its not a big deal. Its normal and low effort. As should be your date request dude!
Follow KISS - Keep It Simple Stupid! :')

It helps if you know whats going on if ya interested in doing it but you don't need to know of similar events and you don't need to know what she likes/is into. She likes surfing!! and?? ya not going on a surfing date, not a great idea haha. She loves movies...NO!!! Not happening. Stupid idea.

 

[Hector Papi Castillo]

Hi All,

I have this repeated experience:

• I cold-approach a girl at a coffee shop. Great interaction as far as I can tell
• I ask for her number and get it. I make sure I continue the conversation as much as I can
• When I follow up, I get SILENCE! Or she flakes!

This is happened 5-6 times constantly in my approaches lately. I get this amazing energy from her in-person and engagement level is high. Then nothing. Whats going on!?

Adding onto @Fluxcapacitor 's advice, what are you exactly texting the girls?

A good tip is to send the first text while your'e with her. "here let me text you so you have mine." Send like "Hey, it's (me)" or even "Hey, cutie, it's Authenticself." She checks it on her phone and now your first text is out of the way.

Then after you can text "It was nice meeting you"

Then start a conversation.

Text game is important, but if you aren't getting ANY replies...hmmm, well your numbers are still low, you need like 20 numbers haha, but I'm guessing attraction isn't that strong and you need to work on your fundamentals.

Hector

 

[authenticSelf]

Thanks @Hector Papi Castillo

Yeah, I mostly approach on weekends and in a small town, I visit 2 coffee shops and in 2/3 bars.

I follow exactly that format- I text her while with her. Girls often will ask me to spell my name and seem interested. Anyways, looks like my numbers are just low and I need to approach more.

 

[naturalmikey]

haha dude. welcome to the club. numbers suck unless you get a lot of the them. i usually just burn them to the ground very quickly and move on. you need to just meet more girls. i used to pride myself on good text game and did better. here is the guide that helped me get started

https://www.manwhore.org/how-to-text-a-girl-you-like/

 

[naturalmikey]

here is a text that does get a reply. if she doesn't reply to your first text send this maybe four days later

"i just thought i saw you at x location. turned out it wasn't you, but some chick (name of her ethnicity, guess if you don't know. use google to find common names of that ethnicity). she was like the weird version of you. she has an accent and an affinity for cats."

it's just weird. i know it seems like it wouldn't work but it does. it communicates you talk to girls like her, learn about them, and get their names. she may even worry you're gonna fuck her doppleganger and get jealous. i honestly don't know why it works.