Silent9's Journal

[silent9]

I'm 24 yrs old and have been reading GC articles and other seduction material for a while now (pains me to say but probably about 4 yrs). This has allowed me to amass a fair amount of knowledge about the details of seduction and socializing however I have not really begun to approach it as a skill yet. All the real world experience I have to date is from going out via social circle or travelling.

In this time though I've thought my game has been getting better and better, a certain life experience recently (a 5 day event with parties every evening known for its hookup culture) where I was unable to take a girl home has shown me that this area of my life is far from sorted.

Another issue I have is being immersed in a culture of drinking which I've disliked for a long time but have been unable to break out of as many of my friends enjoy it. Though I have tried going out sober in that environment the temptation to drink has often been to great. I've also found that the girls in these environments are not really my type either.

Consequently I really want to learn seduction as a sober skill which can be applied day or night with the aim of finding quality girls that I connect with rather than just trying to hook up. I know I haven't even really started on the path to achieving this, however hopefully writing this post will be the first step of a very fulfilling journey.

 

[silent9]

Gave myself 1hr to do approaches in the city today. Got there at 5.30pm in the afternoon. pretty much walked around for 40 min trying to find someone to approach. Specifically wanted to approach a girl in an area with not many people around because at the moment most of my anxiety comes from other people hearing me approach/get rejected (feel its socially unacceptable?- this mindset needs to change). Eventually did two approaches:

Approach 1: cute asian girl walking alone on a main street. Opened directly but nervously ("I saw you there and thought you were cute so had to say hi"). She says "what?" I realise she's not fluent in English. This gives me a second to ground myself. I repeat what I said clearly with no hesitation/nervousness. She smiles but looks confused (probably doesn't know how to respond). Me "Alright then give me your number." Her "yes sure." While she's getting her phone out to find her number I ask her a couple of questions. Turns out she's here on holiday from China. Her "It was nice to meet you." Me "yes I'll shoot you a text." We part ways.

Approach 2: with that first approach out of the way I feel like I have some momentum now. Turn around the corner and pass this stunning blonde (likely late 20's early 30's). I walk past her, regret not saying anything (there were people around), but then turn around and approach her from behind (don't care about the other people anymore). Me "Hey." She turns around. Me "Saw you there and thought you were pretty attractive so had to say hi." She smiles "Thank you." Then turns around and keeps walking.

Good: did two approaches (overcame anxiety- just get it done)
Improvements:
- Get first approach out of the way asap- be less hesitant
- Need to have some idea of what to say/do after the opener, don't keep asking questions: cold read ("you look so professional/elegant, you must be a lawyer"), banter. Also there's a set of things you should be doing every approach: introduce yourself w handshake (not done), address her reaction if she looks confused (not done), find out what she's up to now (not done).
- Instead of walking around everywhere maybe try plant yourself in a nice location and then approach whoever comes past. Likely will have more options.

 

[silent9]

Been busy the last few months. Time to get back into it.

 

[silent9]

Went out at 6pm to do some street game in the city. Got there at about 7 and ended up walking around the main mall and tourist areas to try find girls to approach. Made the mistake of not talking early to people and ended up missing some easy approaches. Ended up going into clothing stores and talking to the staff to build some momentum.

Had been walking around for probably about an hr at this stage. As I'm crossing a large bridge I notice a cute girl dressed in white looking out over the water. I know I have to approach. Open her and find out she's Indian but she's been living in Cali the last 8 yrs. She's also over on holiday and will be leaving tomorrow morning. I ask her if she wants to go grab a drink and she's down.

We go to two bars. The whole time I feel like she's into me so don't try and pump up my value too much. Instead I try build a lot of comfort and do some good screening and qualifying and deep diving. We talk about relationships, hobbies, work, family, etc. By the end of the second bar she's talking a lot and I feel like she's pretty comfortable. Didn't really physically escalate however which wasn't ideal. Also difficult to build a sexual vibe w this girl- seems kind of conservative.

After this second bar however I'm unsure of where to lead her and hesitate a little. I live w rents so that's a no go. She has a room mate in her hostel so that's a maybe. Also considered trying to take her to a quiet park or something. Essentially I decide to walk in the direction of her hostel keeping the convo going though I dont have to do much as we're pretty comfortable w each other at this stage.

Get to the bottom of her hostel. She looks to me to say goodbye and hesitate and give her a hug. She wants to put my number in her phone. While she's fumbling w her phone I know I'll regret it if I don't try for the kiss even though there if not 100% if she'll be down (though has been very compliant w my leading). I tell her I want to say goodbye properly and go for the kiss. She's receptive and we start making out.

Now I ask her if she want to go to the park across the street to chill for a bit. She says she needs to pack. I then ask her if she needs a hand. She get what I mean but then says that she should be fine. Make out w her again and then we part ways.

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Positives:
- First proper instant date, good comfort building, leading etc.

Improvements:
- more sexual vibe
- More persistent at the end? Maybe shouldn't have asked her for consent. Not sure if I should have gone for the make out earlier like on the walk back to her place. Felt this may have maybe her uneasy as it could have implied sex when we got to her place. Potentially could have tried getting up into her place before making out with her. Will have to do some reading on this area.

 

[silent9]

So basically since last report I've done very little in the way of game. I felt it was a bit of an effort to go out and do daygame and couldn't really see it as part of my life. This and starting a new job meant focus on game fell to the wayside. I thought maybe I could just be social and the girls would roll in. However instead went back to my mediocre life with no girls (am semi-social but usually go out and drink with mates rather than game).

Every time I meet up with friends, the conversation always turns to who's dating who, how tinder is going etc. I always sit there with nothing to contribute hoping no one asks me any questions. Currently don't do online game and it's been sort of a dream of mine to master daygame but haven't been taking action. Funnily enough I have this one female friend who always asks about my love life and I always evade questioning. When she asked after the instant date however it was the first time I could hint that there was stuff going on.

Flash forward 5 months from then and nothing has happened. And now the realisation has dawned on me: day game is the only way for me to achieve what I want in terms of success with women.