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Hi guys, first post on the forums. Glad to be here! Forgive if this the wrong spot, feels like a beginner question.
I'm mulling over a topic in my head about tonight that I was hoping you guys could shed some light on. A little background, I haven't been in the field per say as my field will be changing locations very soon. I have been primarily dabbling in the online stuff close to my final destination.
Tonight I have a 3rd date with a single mom of two, I'm picking her up for night out to do some bowling and most likely a lounge for a drink later. She has a sitter booked, but I'm uncertain of the logistics of the kids and the lounge may turn into a drink back at her place.
Our previous dates were couch dates at her place after the kids were in bed. First night I took it pretty easy as far escalating intimacy, we ended the night with a light kiss. Second night same thing we had wine on the couch and ended up making out for a bit before we called it a night. I think I did well as far as the kino is concerned, but totally pushed the making out part way to far into the night that it almost became awkward. It ended well though and she enjoyed it as did I. I'm obviously tepid to the fact she has two young children and she volunteered that fact herself, which I felt was good and eased up some tensions.
I'm really making this longer than it needs to be as you probably didn't need those details, but never the less they may be pertinent.
Anyways, first and foremost my goal is to go out with SM and have a fun night, which we will. Depending on logistics as mentioned above, we may end up at her place for a drink and most likely some heavy petting, I'd like to end it at that for the time being as moving beyond that may come across as commitment and I'm obviously not ready for that at this point in the relationship.
So I guess my question is a two parter. Should I continue to be reinforcing the fact that I'm tepid and let intimacy progress naturally? Should I consider throwing in the towel to avoid potentially hurting her?
I've been open in conveying the fact I have been seeing other women and there some other good candidates, what do you guys think?
I'm mulling over a topic in my head about tonight that I was hoping you guys could shed some light on. A little background, I haven't been in the field per say as my field will be changing locations very soon. I have been primarily dabbling in the online stuff close to my final destination.
Tonight I have a 3rd date with a single mom of two, I'm picking her up for night out to do some bowling and most likely a lounge for a drink later. She has a sitter booked, but I'm uncertain of the logistics of the kids and the lounge may turn into a drink back at her place.
Our previous dates were couch dates at her place after the kids were in bed. First night I took it pretty easy as far escalating intimacy, we ended the night with a light kiss. Second night same thing we had wine on the couch and ended up making out for a bit before we called it a night. I think I did well as far as the kino is concerned, but totally pushed the making out part way to far into the night that it almost became awkward. It ended well though and she enjoyed it as did I. I'm obviously tepid to the fact she has two young children and she volunteered that fact herself, which I felt was good and eased up some tensions.
I'm really making this longer than it needs to be as you probably didn't need those details, but never the less they may be pertinent.
Anyways, first and foremost my goal is to go out with SM and have a fun night, which we will. Depending on logistics as mentioned above, we may end up at her place for a drink and most likely some heavy petting, I'd like to end it at that for the time being as moving beyond that may come across as commitment and I'm obviously not ready for that at this point in the relationship.
So I guess my question is a two parter. Should I continue to be reinforcing the fact that I'm tepid and let intimacy progress naturally? Should I consider throwing in the towel to avoid potentially hurting her?
I've been open in conveying the fact I have been seeing other women and there some other good candidates, what do you guys think?
