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About a month ago I broke up an LTR of a little over 1.5 years. The breakup itself wasn't very drastic as the last 6 months both of us were unsatisfied with the way things were (rather, weren't) developing, so we both in part felt relieved, but in part disappointed that it got to that point, as when we hang out we had a lot of fun. The relationship itslef was quite good except it seemed to get stuck in the mud, but there were no fights, and we're in good relations. And the sex was awesome, maybe the best physicial chemistry I had with anyone. This girl could make me hard by sneezing in my general direction, let alone doing anything sexual.
One additional fact: we're both part of a social circle, although not the kind we'll see each other daily, but it's still quite relevant. We'll probably run into each other once a month, maybe a bit more sometimes, and we might end up here and there in weekend-long group activities together.
Anyway, yesterday we met for a coffee to talk about if there's anything left to discuss to clear the air and also to discuss some practicalities. It all went fine, except that I needed to go with her to her place to take some stuff, and when giving our goodbyes I gave her a hug, and the hug started getting prolonged, I could feel her heart pumping like crazy, and it felt like if I kissed her then and there we'd end up fucking. I exited gracefully.
Thing is, I certainly wouldn't mind sleeping with her again, but I really want to a) not make it hard for her to let go of the relationship emotionally b) enable us to function normally in the social circle and c) avoid any drama.
My questions is should I just make peace with the fact it might be better to never sleep with her again if those are my goals, or that's not neccesarily true? If the latter, should I give it more time before opening up to the option, say six months or something? Any other advice?
One additional fact: we're both part of a social circle, although not the kind we'll see each other daily, but it's still quite relevant. We'll probably run into each other once a month, maybe a bit more sometimes, and we might end up here and there in weekend-long group activities together.
Anyway, yesterday we met for a coffee to talk about if there's anything left to discuss to clear the air and also to discuss some practicalities. It all went fine, except that I needed to go with her to her place to take some stuff, and when giving our goodbyes I gave her a hug, and the hug started getting prolonged, I could feel her heart pumping like crazy, and it felt like if I kissed her then and there we'd end up fucking. I exited gracefully.
Thing is, I certainly wouldn't mind sleeping with her again, but I really want to a) not make it hard for her to let go of the relationship emotionally b) enable us to function normally in the social circle and c) avoid any drama.
My questions is should I just make peace with the fact it might be better to never sleep with her again if those are my goals, or that's not neccesarily true? If the latter, should I give it more time before opening up to the option, say six months or something? Any other advice?
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