Small talk with a classmate?

[DyerMaker]

I'm new to the forum and my game is a certainly rusty after a 4 year relationship. I feel like this is a common scenario, however, I tried a search for "classmate small talk" on the forum and nothing came up.

So I have a really cute girl in my class that I talk to in class and outside of class through texting and Facebook here and there, about school work and random things about our day and whatnot. She tends to initiate random conversations with me and asks me sometimes if I'm on campus to meet up or she will stay home if I'm not on campus. She also goes from serious school work to cute / silly while talking to me... It could be her personality or maybe I'm reading too deep into it. Overall I get the feeling she's into me. But please correct me if I'm reading the signals wrong.

My problem is with face to face small talk. I feel like I just go blank and can't think of anything to say. I don't want to constantly talk about exams and assignments.

I know she just came out of a long term relationship after she casually dropped it in the conversation one time, so I don't know if that's a signal for "I'm available, whats up dude?" or "I'm not looking for anything serious".

Any suggestions gentlemen? If there is a really good post on the forum already regarding this subject I would appreciate a link.

 

[pks391]

I'm new to the forum and my game is a certainly rusty after a 4 year relationship. I feel like this is a common scenario, however, I tried a search for "classmate small talk" on the forum and nothing came up.

So I have a really cute girl in my class that I talk to in class and outside of class through texting and Facebook here and there, about school work and random things about our day and whatnot. She tends to initiate random conversations with me and asks me sometimes if I'm on campus to meet up or she will stay home if I'm not on campus. She also goes from serious school work to cute / silly while talking to me... It could be her personality or maybe I'm reading too deep into it. Overall I get the feeling she's into me. But please correct me if I'm reading the signals wrong.

My problem is with face to face small talk. I feel like I just go blank and can't think of anything to say. I don't want to constantly talk about exams and assignments.

I know she just came out of a long term relationship after she casually dropped it in the conversation one time, so I don't know if that's a signal for "I'm available, whats up dude?" or "I'm not looking for anything serious".

Any suggestions gentlemen? If there is a really good post on the forum already regarding this subject I would appreciate a link.

DyerMaker
I can't say much about the 'out of a long term relationship' thing, It could mean many things, that she is looking for something casual, that she doesn't want anything of the sort right now etc. It could be anything, but it depends on what you want from her, a temporary thing or a relationship yourself. I'd say you have a chance if you don't mess up and if you move faster.
There are tons of things you can ask her while conversing with her. Check up Chase's articles on being a good conversationalist
www.girlschase.com/content/secrets-gett ... nversation
www.girlschase.com/content/conversationalist
www.girlschase.com/content/conversation ... nd-tidbits
www.girlschase.com/content/fundamentals ... tline-pt-2


There is a link for classroom pickups too:
www.girlschase.com/content/cute-girls-c ... art-dating

 

[Bboy100]

Your facing the exact same issue I used to have. You don't like small talk, you probably think its awkward etc. Instead, you want to somehow be in some sort of very meaty, deep conversation from the very start. Unfortunately, that's not how socializing works. Small talk is a necessary part of it. Don't try to avoid it. Don't try to make it particularly pleasant or interesting because trying to make it great is exactly what's causing you to be at a loss of words. Instead, just accept it for what it is, then move past it quickly as possible.

Also, in terms of this particular girl...ask her out. She's clearly into you.