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I've been using this process for a while now, and I get pretty good results from it. Results being lays, dates, numbers, and especially immersing the girl into the hook point pretty well. My overall goal is SDL's (same day lays) with this method. This post will be about a Mexican woman I met at the beach.
Sometimes I may wear a "beach outfit" if it's a cooler day. Something like linen shorts and a cotton shirt with buttons, or also a linen shirt. Linen is great at the beach. This day however, I just wore some black swimming shorts, a unique earring, a amber necklace, and a bracelet on my right wrist. I am a very masculine looking guy with a bald head and huge beard. I literally look like Kratos from God of War so I make use of more feminine jewelry choices to bring a bit of balance to my looks. This fits the social frame of the area I live in as well. Fun tip (no pun intended):I also like the swimming shorts because the net hides my erection if I get to excited while talking to a woman. So I can have a raging boner and project that sexuality through my vibe without her seeing my full blow hard on, haha.
I start by walking along the beach, and I take note of what women I want as I walk by. No excessive staring, and I make use of my peripheral vision to notice if any of them look at me. I walk down the shore for about 5 minutes, and then turn around to head towards where I started.
PRE-OPENING
I noticed a good looking girl laying face down on the beach with headphones in, so I decided she will be my prospect. As I walk along the shore, she is just ahead to my right facing the fence that is opposite the shore, that separates the mangrove from the beach. Right as I’m almost directly across from her, I notice she lifts her head a bit to maybe check out her environment. I don’t look yet; I want to use Dans “non-verbal narrative” to my advantage. So, I walk to my left into the water a bit to seem as if I’m only washing some sand from my sandals and enjoying the view; giving her the opportunity to check out my posture, the way I walk and interact with my environment in a slow and deliberate way, and solidify the idea that SHES checking me out, not me checking her out. If she’s noticing, it can set a subtle chase frame right from the get-go, and if she’s not then it’s great practice of the non-verbal narrative (which I happen to favor) and a good habit because this generally works very well for me.
After I finish setting things up, I turn around and slowly walk toward a spot in-between her and then next person/people over, but a little bit closer to her so it’s not too hard to open. I make sure not to look and keep the non-verbal narrative flowing as I pay attention to her from my peripherals. I take a seat, and get comfortable, enjoying the scene and especially making it look as if I am only doing so. I don’t want to come off as a guy on the beach picking up chicks (or chicas since I live in Mexico). I constantly keep awareness of her in my peripheral, while looking straight ahead and occasionally to my side to check out the flow of people walking and the beach scene along the shore lines. I never check her out. I already did that on the initial walk, and I saw her face from a bit of a distance on the walk towards her to make sure I like her and want her.
I can tell she’s moving a bit, and usually at this point chicks will sit up or change positions to me as if to give me an opening. I take this as an AI (approach invitation). It’s very subtle and slow, and I don’t immediately open. I give it a moment since the beach is pretty slow paced and I don’t want to come off as pouncing on her the moment she opens up. That would be a bit too chase-y; the intention here for me is smooth and covert. She stands up and begins to take her headphones off, and I can tell she’s getting ready to head into the water. Again, I don’t approach quite yet.
While she’s in the water, I just sort of chill and enjoy the environment. She looks back a few times (I assume she’s paying attention to me), and I make sure not to look. She was in the water for a while, like 10 minutes, and I started thinking the possibility that maybe she wanted me to go into the water to approach her, but even so I knew she would be coming back to her spot.
She finally started walking back (this chica really took her time) and when she got back to her towel, I pretended to just notice her as if because she was walking towards me. My opener? Simple, I just said “Hola” in a masculine, rapport-neutral tonality with a slight smile. She smiled and greeted me back. I waited until she looked away first, then went back to observing the beach. A few moments later, not too long like 4-5 seconds, I said “can I tell you something?” and she said something along the lines of “sure, what is it?” in Spanish. This generated some curiosity from her, and shifted her attention to the interaction. She happened to look like an ex of mine, so I used the “you look just like my ex-girlfriend, except your personality or energy seems a bit different” opener.
She giggled and said what’s her name, and took a step closer to me, still standing. So now I’m seated comfortably and she’s standing as I hook her in. I ignored the what’s her name request, mainly because I was already working on immersing her with some intriguing statements about people’s energy and making her a bit more curious. Ideally I should have made it more about her but it slipped my mind. I’ll have to take note of that to remember it better next time.
I had been doing a vocal exercise before I hit the beach. For about ten minutes I hummed with my hand over my sternum (bottom center of my chest), and focused on the sounds coming from that part of my chest while simultaneously relaxing my tongue and throat. I found it to have an incredible effect on my chest resonance, and this was very useful as the ocean was pretty loud this day.
At this point I had her hooked pretty solid, and I kept the 3 keys of emotional stimulation, sexual arousal, and social frame in my awareness as I continued talking to her. A few minutes in I told her “hey, no need to stand come sit down” and she went to grab her shorts to use as a little spot for ass to sit down on. She sat close to me and as she did so I moved in a bit more.
I made use of the golden question, seeding the pull (mentioning I play guitar, speaking passionately about it, and suggest she comes over sometime so I can play for her, then quickly and casually talking about something else) after she asked me back what my passions are.
I used my apartment owners cat as a way to strengthen the social frame safety wise, mentioning that I love the little guy and showed her some videos of me playing with him in my apartment.
I also played little curiosity games like making her guess my age, and where I’m from. I made use of the triangle gaze and general sexual eye contact the whole time. Not the entire time, but I would shift from friendly and warm eyes to more sensual eyes (basically employing fractionation with eye contact).
I used subtle touch as I talked about her tattoos, she seemed okay with it, but when she talked about mine she hovered her finger over them instead of lightly tapping them like I did for her. I took note of this and decided to step back a bit on the touch. Maybe she’s more of a verbal communicator vs physical.
Nothing too crazy, I just kept the 3 keys in mind and alternated between them. She’s a psychologist, so I steered the conversation towards men and women and asked her if she thinks there’s any difference between men and women in their sexuality. We talked about that a bit, just lightly and “intellectually”, and it gave me the opportunity to convey some understanding of female sexuality in society, and set a light non-judgmental sexual frame.
I used listing and descriptive emotional language to describe the area we live in, which happens to be a bit of a tourist town. So basically I described the elements of openness, letting go, enjoying the moment, and adventure/ being adventurous, and just talked with her about that for a while.
I realized that I didn’t check her logistics early enough, when she told me she has to meet her brother at 4 to cook for Christmas eve. It was already 3:15, and I persisted a bit, but she mentioned “there’s not much time don’t you think” my reply was something like “nah its alright, we can just chill for like 15 minutes and I’ll show you a few songs (guitar, as I used in seeding the pull earlier).
It started to rain at this point, and it jarred her out of the thought process of me trying to pull her back. She did agree with the idea, yet seemed concerned about the limited amount of time. I thought it over and decided I didn’t want to deal with her brother calling and asking where she’s at, LMR sucks. I stood up and started wiping sand off my body and she mentioned swimming in the rain, then asked me if I’m going home. I told her yes because it’s raining, and number closed her after that.
Maybe I could have persisted more, and maybe she wanted me to come in the water with her, but I knew her brother would be calling and maybe the rest of her family wondering where she’s at on Christmas eve, so I decided on the number close at the end. Like I said, my goal is SDLs from day game (which I have gotten before, and at the beach running this process), and knowing she has to be somewhere soon sounds like nothing but frustration. I guess the lesson here is make it a point to check her plans for the day earlier on, that way I can know to stick around or number close her while I move on to better SDL prospects. She was texting me back at first, but then stopped. Maybe she saw me at the beach the next day sitting near another girl; I was indeed doing that and I saw her walk by but thought she didn’t see me
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Sometimes I may wear a "beach outfit" if it's a cooler day. Something like linen shorts and a cotton shirt with buttons, or also a linen shirt. Linen is great at the beach. This day however, I just wore some black swimming shorts, a unique earring, a amber necklace, and a bracelet on my right wrist. I am a very masculine looking guy with a bald head and huge beard. I literally look like Kratos from God of War so I make use of more feminine jewelry choices to bring a bit of balance to my looks. This fits the social frame of the area I live in as well. Fun tip (no pun intended):I also like the swimming shorts because the net hides my erection if I get to excited while talking to a woman. So I can have a raging boner and project that sexuality through my vibe without her seeing my full blow hard on, haha.
I start by walking along the beach, and I take note of what women I want as I walk by. No excessive staring, and I make use of my peripheral vision to notice if any of them look at me. I walk down the shore for about 5 minutes, and then turn around to head towards where I started.
PRE-OPENING
I noticed a good looking girl laying face down on the beach with headphones in, so I decided she will be my prospect. As I walk along the shore, she is just ahead to my right facing the fence that is opposite the shore, that separates the mangrove from the beach. Right as I’m almost directly across from her, I notice she lifts her head a bit to maybe check out her environment. I don’t look yet; I want to use Dans “non-verbal narrative” to my advantage. So, I walk to my left into the water a bit to seem as if I’m only washing some sand from my sandals and enjoying the view; giving her the opportunity to check out my posture, the way I walk and interact with my environment in a slow and deliberate way, and solidify the idea that SHES checking me out, not me checking her out. If she’s noticing, it can set a subtle chase frame right from the get-go, and if she’s not then it’s great practice of the non-verbal narrative (which I happen to favor) and a good habit because this generally works very well for me.
After I finish setting things up, I turn around and slowly walk toward a spot in-between her and then next person/people over, but a little bit closer to her so it’s not too hard to open. I make sure not to look and keep the non-verbal narrative flowing as I pay attention to her from my peripherals. I take a seat, and get comfortable, enjoying the scene and especially making it look as if I am only doing so. I don’t want to come off as a guy on the beach picking up chicks (or chicas since I live in Mexico). I constantly keep awareness of her in my peripheral, while looking straight ahead and occasionally to my side to check out the flow of people walking and the beach scene along the shore lines. I never check her out. I already did that on the initial walk, and I saw her face from a bit of a distance on the walk towards her to make sure I like her and want her.
I can tell she’s moving a bit, and usually at this point chicks will sit up or change positions to me as if to give me an opening. I take this as an AI (approach invitation). It’s very subtle and slow, and I don’t immediately open. I give it a moment since the beach is pretty slow paced and I don’t want to come off as pouncing on her the moment she opens up. That would be a bit too chase-y; the intention here for me is smooth and covert. She stands up and begins to take her headphones off, and I can tell she’s getting ready to head into the water. Again, I don’t approach quite yet.
While she’s in the water, I just sort of chill and enjoy the environment. She looks back a few times (I assume she’s paying attention to me), and I make sure not to look. She was in the water for a while, like 10 minutes, and I started thinking the possibility that maybe she wanted me to go into the water to approach her, but even so I knew she would be coming back to her spot.
She finally started walking back (this chica really took her time) and when she got back to her towel, I pretended to just notice her as if because she was walking towards me. My opener? Simple, I just said “Hola” in a masculine, rapport-neutral tonality with a slight smile. She smiled and greeted me back. I waited until she looked away first, then went back to observing the beach. A few moments later, not too long like 4-5 seconds, I said “can I tell you something?” and she said something along the lines of “sure, what is it?” in Spanish. This generated some curiosity from her, and shifted her attention to the interaction. She happened to look like an ex of mine, so I used the “you look just like my ex-girlfriend, except your personality or energy seems a bit different” opener.
She giggled and said what’s her name, and took a step closer to me, still standing. So now I’m seated comfortably and she’s standing as I hook her in. I ignored the what’s her name request, mainly because I was already working on immersing her with some intriguing statements about people’s energy and making her a bit more curious. Ideally I should have made it more about her but it slipped my mind. I’ll have to take note of that to remember it better next time.
I had been doing a vocal exercise before I hit the beach. For about ten minutes I hummed with my hand over my sternum (bottom center of my chest), and focused on the sounds coming from that part of my chest while simultaneously relaxing my tongue and throat. I found it to have an incredible effect on my chest resonance, and this was very useful as the ocean was pretty loud this day.
At this point I had her hooked pretty solid, and I kept the 3 keys of emotional stimulation, sexual arousal, and social frame in my awareness as I continued talking to her. A few minutes in I told her “hey, no need to stand come sit down” and she went to grab her shorts to use as a little spot for ass to sit down on. She sat close to me and as she did so I moved in a bit more.
I made use of the golden question, seeding the pull (mentioning I play guitar, speaking passionately about it, and suggest she comes over sometime so I can play for her, then quickly and casually talking about something else) after she asked me back what my passions are.
I used my apartment owners cat as a way to strengthen the social frame safety wise, mentioning that I love the little guy and showed her some videos of me playing with him in my apartment.
I also played little curiosity games like making her guess my age, and where I’m from. I made use of the triangle gaze and general sexual eye contact the whole time. Not the entire time, but I would shift from friendly and warm eyes to more sensual eyes (basically employing fractionation with eye contact).
I used subtle touch as I talked about her tattoos, she seemed okay with it, but when she talked about mine she hovered her finger over them instead of lightly tapping them like I did for her. I took note of this and decided to step back a bit on the touch. Maybe she’s more of a verbal communicator vs physical.
Nothing too crazy, I just kept the 3 keys in mind and alternated between them. She’s a psychologist, so I steered the conversation towards men and women and asked her if she thinks there’s any difference between men and women in their sexuality. We talked about that a bit, just lightly and “intellectually”, and it gave me the opportunity to convey some understanding of female sexuality in society, and set a light non-judgmental sexual frame.
I used listing and descriptive emotional language to describe the area we live in, which happens to be a bit of a tourist town. So basically I described the elements of openness, letting go, enjoying the moment, and adventure/ being adventurous, and just talked with her about that for a while.
I realized that I didn’t check her logistics early enough, when she told me she has to meet her brother at 4 to cook for Christmas eve. It was already 3:15, and I persisted a bit, but she mentioned “there’s not much time don’t you think” my reply was something like “nah its alright, we can just chill for like 15 minutes and I’ll show you a few songs (guitar, as I used in seeding the pull earlier).
It started to rain at this point, and it jarred her out of the thought process of me trying to pull her back. She did agree with the idea, yet seemed concerned about the limited amount of time. I thought it over and decided I didn’t want to deal with her brother calling and asking where she’s at, LMR sucks. I stood up and started wiping sand off my body and she mentioned swimming in the rain, then asked me if I’m going home. I told her yes because it’s raining, and number closed her after that.
Maybe I could have persisted more, and maybe she wanted me to come in the water with her, but I knew her brother would be calling and maybe the rest of her family wondering where she’s at on Christmas eve, so I decided on the number close at the end. Like I said, my goal is SDLs from day game (which I have gotten before, and at the beach running this process), and knowing she has to be somewhere soon sounds like nothing but frustration. I guess the lesson here is make it a point to check her plans for the day earlier on, that way I can know to stick around or number close her while I move on to better SDL prospects. She was texting me back at first, but then stopped. Maybe she saw me at the beach the next day sitting near another girl; I was indeed doing that and I saw her walk by but thought she didn’t see me
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