So it all works and now...

[Dash]

I have a great girlfriend... though in the early stages of the relationship.

Background.

I'd been working hard on my girl game, with help of GC, since late last year. After some stumbles I figured out how my game worked best for me and started racking up some solid wins: fundamentals tight, fast pick-ups, frame control, getting girls chasing, finding a fuck buddy.

Chase's article on frame control reminded me that I need to post in the relationship forum: https://www.girlschase.com/content/frame-control-examples-out-frame-anyone

I worked a pick-up on a hottie from work. I wasn't sure where it was going, but I knew what I wanted. I'd been flirting with her lightly at work. Then we went out for drinks with people from work and she amped up the flirt to the point where I tried to pull her that night. She declined and I asked her over for dinner right away. She said she would "But it's just as friends, right?" I declined the friends bit, then went cool on her for a while. She eventually asked me out and that's when things got rolling.

Now we've slipped into a relationship and I have to admit she's a great woman. Months back I wrote down what qualities I wanted in a potential girlfriend (again, Chase's advice) and this girl fits 90% of everything I wrote down.

So does anyone have advice for work relationships? It's a small company, but we don't work directly together often. I do see her every day, which makes me think of overload, seeing each other too much, etc.

I'm older by about nine years. She's mature for her age, and is a creative, intelligent woman. We've been going out for about two months now, and have had sex every time we've been alone... except once.

One rule of Chase's that I'm violating, in some ways, is not having a plan for the relationship (beyond exploring what it's like being with a girl who I actually like not one I just like to have around). We both work in field that isn't really stable... so she could be gone in a week, same for me. I know the relationship will end at some point, but the work situation makes things a bit weird... in case I start losing interest or she does.

So does anyone have advice\experience to pass along about work relationships, and how to manage things fairly early on in a relationship? I've read through the GC posts on this, but could use a bit more info, opinion, experience.

 

[trashKENNUT]

Dash,

So does anyone have advice\experience to pass along about work relationships, and how to manage things fairly early on in a relationship? I've read through the GC posts on this, but could use a bit more info, opinion, experience.

I read about successful people and most of them gets married and shared companies. But this isn't marriage. And i think, from my own point of view, they know how to manage things. They keep work separate, and relationship at home, separate. I feel that you don't be overly affectionate at work. But keep things light.

Because it's really easy to get things, personal. I am sure women don't want it either, but we are afterall, emotional human beings.

Zac

 

[Chase]

Dash-

Props on the great girlfriend. Really excellent to hear she's hitting 90% of what you've got on your list.

Like Zac said on managing things in the work environment - very light when you're around her... imagine yourself playing a game where you can't let any of your coworkers know that the two of you are an item, while still not being completely cold or neutral to her in the office. Make it a secret romance.

I have a post pending on dating at work... I'll try and get that out this week or next.

I worked a pick-up on a hottie from work. I wasn't sure where it was going, but I knew what I wanted. I'd been flirting with her lightly at work. Then we went out for drinks with people from work and she amped up the flirt to the point where I tried to pull her that night. She declined and I asked her over for dinner right away. She said she would "But it's just as friends, right?" I declined the friends bit, then went cool on her for a while. She eventually asked me out and that's when things got rolling.

Now we've slipped into a relationship and I have to admit she's a great woman. Months back I wrote down what qualities I wanted in a potential girlfriend (again, Chase's advice) and this girl fits 90% of everything I wrote down.

Well done here. Particularly key was declining the friends bit and cooling off. Her asking you out seals the deal.

So does anyone have advice for work relationships? It's a small company, but we don't work directly together often. I do see her every day, which makes me think of overload, seeing each other too much, etc.

When you DO work together, I'd completely avoid any plan-making or over-flirting at work, even if it's just you two. Doing that makes it start feeling like a relationship... which, if you want that, is fine if you let her start it. If not, if she tries to make plans at work, just tell her, "I don't know yet. Let's finish the day up, and I'll figure out my schedule and text you once we get out of here."

You can flirt lightly - that's fine - but I'd keep it to something similar to what it was before you started sleeping with her.

One rule of Chase's that I'm violating, in some ways, is not having a plan for the relationship (beyond exploring what it's like being with a girl who I actually like not one I just like to have around). We both work in field that isn't really stable... so she could be gone in a week, same for me. I know the relationship will end at some point, but the work situation makes things a bit weird... in case I start losing interest or she does.

Knowing that the relationship will end, and that one of you might lose interest, I'd pick a plan of, "I'm just going to accept that this will end at some point, and enjoy this while it lasts and keeps being fun for both of us." That gets you into the right mentality, and makes it no hard feelings when it ends.

I'd also have a think about whether I want to continue meeting / dating / sleeping with other girls while seeing this one or not - both to keep sharpening my skill set, and to ward off any potential feelings that start developing for a girl you're not planning on hanging onto anyway. If you do this, be careful about how you manage your relationship with her, though - the last thing you want is a big blowup at work because she starts getting attached and then goes nuts over you being non-exclusive.

So does anyone have advice\experience to pass along about work relationships, and how to manage things fairly early on in a relationship? I've read through the GC posts on this, but could use a bit more info, opinion, experience.

Mostly, keep it light and fun and proceed slowly. You're two people who enjoy each other's company, hang out, and have some good sex together. It doesn't sound like you're in any hurry to make this more than that, so I'd treat it as such and not go out of my way to encourage any relationship-y like behavior.

Chase