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So I met this girl for 10 mins at a pub crawl on the friday, couldn't isolate her as she was with friends there was no space and the bar was closing - was tough enough getting her number right in front of them. This girl is the first in 2 years that ticked all of my boxes hence why I would like input.
Texting was immediately fun though (i've started to notice the trend of less talk on initial meet can be a good thing - if you talk to a girl for more than 45 mins with her friends things just die down because you cant really move things forward - better to get number and or set up meet - then get out!). She was fun and very responsive over text - immediate replies, very playful etc.
I meet her on the wednesday, at the time I had the choice of wednesday or the weekend - I went for the wednesday cause of the expiration date principle and the fact that I'd only seen her for 10mins - thought it would be best to refresh the connection asap. Plan was originally to only go for a short meet this time and end it early. I could anticipate big issues with bringing her to my place 45mins out of town - thought that would be better saved for a second date especially since she is the sweet and shy inexperienced type.
We meet have a reallly good time, things are close, flirty, sexual innuendos are strong (she likes it hard etc). We move to 3 venues and break into a park together. I kiss her when we are standing at a good view, manhandle kiss is needed - she likes it. For this reason I want to capitalise on the momentum, feel like going home now would be a little bit of a disappointment. All the venues are in a line directly towards my place - so by now have cut journey time to about 30mins. Before we board train to go and see something else (not mentioned its my place) she makes it clear that it will be a bit of a rush because the last train is not that much later.
WE get to my place, need to take my time with escalation. By now she has cooled down a little during the journey in the very bright clinical light of the trains with people all around us. Recover from this - escalate: bra off, kissing etc - BIG resistance with jeans says "even if I wanted to I can't" - she's implying she's on her period, stimulate her through the jeans hard - they are flexible so I can basically get inside with my fingers - she is moaning. BIG resistance with jeans again. I try to change to hands in back of jeans - as always difficult to reach around (she's also making it difficult) - I get to touch the edges, some moaning - but its awkward to do (no signs of period btw). I try for trousers again- no.
I think I could have pushed this, but my issue at the moment is that I seem to loose a lot of my interest in a girl when I have to fight her for it. This is without a doubt one of the prettiest girls I've had in my bed, BUT if I'm having to employ all of this persistence I just don't get aroused - its VERY frustrating - anyone else get this? I just get turned on by horny girls that desperately want it - not this! This then gets in the way of using the more hardcore tactics of putting her hand on it etc.
I disengage, she checks the time - we don't realistically have enough time to make it to the last train. I have a choice now, I can say "well since you've missed it now you might aswell stay a little longer the late busses aren't going anywhere" - but I feel like I have been chasing enough, motivation is low - I feel like if I get her home well it might help things next time. Earlier I had tried to organise a cooking date at my place, she says its too far and I should come to her place - its at her brothers place - I say no thats lame (anticipate issues with brother) - she seems to agree and say that I should come by when her brother goes away - but then realises that its 2 weeks away and then catches herself "thats maybe thinking a little far ahead" - does seem like she had entertained the thought though.
This was the main mistake I realise now...I should have persisted for her to stay and put some more time in. Things could have worked out.
We kiss at the bus stop she leaves. Texts are still fast in response, some chat back and forth, I suggest we go check out a park sometime she continues to respond (although now she seems very busy), I try to call her - doesn't pick up, she texts back sorry I fell asleep - (it was late) then I text her the next day say its fine - I ask her when she's free and don't get a response. Wait two days send another text saying Ive been busy and asking what shes upto- no response.
Clearly I had serious attraction and could have very probably closed this girl so this is a BIG deal. What could I have done differently? Would you have ended early and closed on second date? Persisted for her to stay longer? What can I do now? - I'm thinking of waiting next week, telling her that I'll be in her area at some point and could do the meal..
Texting was immediately fun though (i've started to notice the trend of less talk on initial meet can be a good thing - if you talk to a girl for more than 45 mins with her friends things just die down because you cant really move things forward - better to get number and or set up meet - then get out!). She was fun and very responsive over text - immediate replies, very playful etc.
I meet her on the wednesday, at the time I had the choice of wednesday or the weekend - I went for the wednesday cause of the expiration date principle and the fact that I'd only seen her for 10mins - thought it would be best to refresh the connection asap. Plan was originally to only go for a short meet this time and end it early. I could anticipate big issues with bringing her to my place 45mins out of town - thought that would be better saved for a second date especially since she is the sweet and shy inexperienced type.
We meet have a reallly good time, things are close, flirty, sexual innuendos are strong (she likes it hard etc). We move to 3 venues and break into a park together. I kiss her when we are standing at a good view, manhandle kiss is needed - she likes it. For this reason I want to capitalise on the momentum, feel like going home now would be a little bit of a disappointment. All the venues are in a line directly towards my place - so by now have cut journey time to about 30mins. Before we board train to go and see something else (not mentioned its my place) she makes it clear that it will be a bit of a rush because the last train is not that much later.
WE get to my place, need to take my time with escalation. By now she has cooled down a little during the journey in the very bright clinical light of the trains with people all around us. Recover from this - escalate: bra off, kissing etc - BIG resistance with jeans says "even if I wanted to I can't" - she's implying she's on her period, stimulate her through the jeans hard - they are flexible so I can basically get inside with my fingers - she is moaning. BIG resistance with jeans again. I try to change to hands in back of jeans - as always difficult to reach around (she's also making it difficult) - I get to touch the edges, some moaning - but its awkward to do (no signs of period btw). I try for trousers again- no.
I think I could have pushed this, but my issue at the moment is that I seem to loose a lot of my interest in a girl when I have to fight her for it. This is without a doubt one of the prettiest girls I've had in my bed, BUT if I'm having to employ all of this persistence I just don't get aroused - its VERY frustrating - anyone else get this? I just get turned on by horny girls that desperately want it - not this! This then gets in the way of using the more hardcore tactics of putting her hand on it etc.
I disengage, she checks the time - we don't realistically have enough time to make it to the last train. I have a choice now, I can say "well since you've missed it now you might aswell stay a little longer the late busses aren't going anywhere" - but I feel like I have been chasing enough, motivation is low - I feel like if I get her home well it might help things next time. Earlier I had tried to organise a cooking date at my place, she says its too far and I should come to her place - its at her brothers place - I say no thats lame (anticipate issues with brother) - she seems to agree and say that I should come by when her brother goes away - but then realises that its 2 weeks away and then catches herself "thats maybe thinking a little far ahead" - does seem like she had entertained the thought though.
This was the main mistake I realise now...I should have persisted for her to stay and put some more time in. Things could have worked out.
We kiss at the bus stop she leaves. Texts are still fast in response, some chat back and forth, I suggest we go check out a park sometime she continues to respond (although now she seems very busy), I try to call her - doesn't pick up, she texts back sorry I fell asleep - (it was late) then I text her the next day say its fine - I ask her when she's free and don't get a response. Wait two days send another text saying Ive been busy and asking what shes upto- no response.
Clearly I had serious attraction and could have very probably closed this girl so this is a BIG deal. What could I have done differently? Would you have ended early and closed on second date? Persisted for her to stay longer? What can I do now? - I'm thinking of waiting next week, telling her that I'll be in her area at some point and could do the meal..